My brothers [15] girlfriend [15] is having sex with a boy I know ??

[Willowgirl04]

I dont know if I should get involved or not.
The guy us a part of my friend group at school and a popular guy.

She and my brother who is 15 have been together for a year.

My brother dosent know anything or the guy either. She admitted to our other friend that shes been to "doing it with him when my brother upsets her " in the group then it got to me .

[Pultost]

If your brother's girlfriend has sex with another guy without him knowing it you should definitely let him know.

[Willowgirl04]

If your brother's girlfriend has sex with another guy without him knowing it you should definitely let him know.

He dosent listen

[Pultost]

He dosent listen

Well then at least you've done your part. If he doesn't want to listen, it's not your problem.

[Zachary G]

You should definitely tell your brother about whats going on and if he doesnt want to believe or listen to you, then youve done your part by warning him and the rest falls on him, so dont worry yourself, youve done all you can do.

[Willowgirl04]

Yeah she told me that she and the guy have sex every other day

[Willowgirl04]

You should definitely tell your brother about whats going on and if he doesnt want to believe or listen to you, then youve done your part by warning him and the rest falls on him, so dont worry yourself, youve done all you can do.

I havent said anything to anyone but our mom but I know hell get irriteted.

[Zachary G]

I havent said anything to anyone but our mom but I know hell get irriteted.

even if he gets irritated, you will have still done all you can do.

[Willowgirl04]

even if he gets irritated, you will have still done all you can do.

I guess so.

[ska8er]

If u told ur Mom about the setup then
let her deal with telling him. U did ur part.
I would not say anything to his girlfriend
or the boy u know. Stay out of that part.
U can try to reason with ur brother again
but let him find out for himself. At least u
gave him a sign.

[Willowgirl04]

If u told ur Mom about the setup then
let her deal with telling him. U did ur part.
I would not say anything to his girlfriend
or the boy u know. Stay out of that part.
U can try to reason with ur brother again
but let him find out for himself. At least u
gave him a sign.


My mom said hes oblivious sometimes.

Have anybody ever known about someone cheated or being cheated on ?

[BlackParadePixie]

he's your brother. I would definitely let him know what is up.

[Willowgirl04]

he's your brother. I would definitely let him know what is up.

Huh ?????

[BlackParadePixie]

Huh ?????

Was what I said really that hard to follow? I'm saying that you should tell your brother what his girlfriend is doing.

[mick01]

Don't rely on strangers on a teen forum to tell you what to do when it comes to your brother. Do you seriously not know what the right thing to do is?

[ska8er]

My mom said hes oblivious sometimes.

Have anybody ever known about someone cheated or being cheated on ?

Then he is blind to it. U did ur part now let
him find out for himself.

I was cheated on and I found out for myself.
She thought she could find someone better But
she wanted to get back together and I said No.
I wanted her to find out how it feels.

[Uniquemind]

I’ve been cheated on, it hurts emotionally, but you learn to move on. But that can take awhile (months) depending on the circumstances of what caused the breakup.


What’s concerning about the OP’s claim, is that she knows her brother’s supposed girlfriend, is using “sexual acts” as a socialized emotional weapon against her brother.

If she wants to breakup she should breakup and pursue other romantic and sexual interests.

The flipside is what specifically about your brother’s behavior in the relationship is angering her, and that should be discussed. There are some things to be legitimately angry about, and there are other trivial things that she really shouldn’t take so seriously to the point of being vindictive.

Especially since having sex with multiple people is a health hazard and can spread serious disease.

[Willowgirl04]

Then he is blind to it. U did ur part now let
him find out for himself.

I was cheated on and I found out for myself.
She thought she could find someone better But
she wanted to get back together and I said No.
I wanted her to find out how it feels.

Ok good point. My mom didnt tell our dad but she told her friend

[Willowgirl04]

Are you sure this girl isn't just pulling your leg?

I don't find it hard to believe a girl is cheating on her bf; I do find it hard to believe she tells her bf's sister she's doing so.
Is she maybe testing you, or trying to start trouble and have it appear to be your fault?

If you think it's true, you did the right thing to tell him.

Now drop it, so he can handle it as he sees fit.

Yes shes telling the truth they had sex today😨😨.

But thanks

[Willowgirl04]

I’ve been cheated on, it hurts emotionally, but you learn to move on. But that can take awhile (months) depending on the circumstances of what caused the breakup.


What’s concerning about the OP’s claim, is that she knows her brother’s supposed girlfriend, is using “sexual acts” as a socialized emotional weapon against her brother.

If she wants to breakup she should breakup and pursue other romantic and sexual interests.

The flipside is what specifically about your brother’s behavior in the relationship is angering her, and that should be discussed. There are some things to be legitimately angry about, and there are other trivial things that she really shouldn’t take so seriously to the point of being vindictive.

Especially since having sex with multiple people is a health hazard and can spread serious disease.

She says he ditched their plans a lot to smoke. And this boy in our group dosent like smoke either. Shes not using it to hurt my brother. I think shes mad at him for ignoring her.

[BlackParadePixie]

Shes not using it to hurt my brother. I think shes mad at him for ignoring her.
How are those even different things? That's exactly what she's doing. She feels hurt by him if he is ignoring her, so she's doing this to get back at him. But being hurt or ignored isn't a valid reason to go fuck someone else behind his back. Sounds to me like they need to have a talk and re-evaluate how they actually feel about each other. Neither one of them sound mature enough to be in an actual meaningful relationship.

[Uniquemind]

She says he ditched their plans a lot to smoke. And this boy in our group dosent like smoke either. Shes not using it to hurt my brother. I think shes mad at him for ignoring her.

I hate to say this, but I think your brother’s immaturity in how to handle a relationship with his drug use, and her views on it wanting drugs affecting her romance life is a legitimate issue. Her cheating isn’t right, but she can’t change your brother and it will be a persistent issue between them should the relationship continue.

It is highly possible both parties are better off going separate ways. As you are the sister, it is best you stay out of this or even suggest she should breakup with your brother rather than stringing someone along.

But your role is to approach the situation neutrally or to stay out of it entirely.

Does your mom understand the reasons behind why this girl is becoming more distant from your brother, or is your mom missing parts of the story/situation?

How level headed is your mom? Or is she blinding taking your brother’s side? Does your mom know he smokes?

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Also for your own love dating life, try to see if you can absorb some wisdom by observing the events of how all this unfolded. Such experience may serve you well in your own life.


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How are those even different things? That's exactly what she's doing. She feels hurt by him if he is ignoring her, so she's doing this to get back at him. But being hurt or ignored isn't a valid reason to go fuck someone else behind his back. Sounds to me like they need to have a talk and re-evaluate how they actually feel about each other. Neither one of them sound mature enough to be in an actual meaningful relationship.


In response to this, I agree that there’s a childish vindictiveness that should not be present when one pursues a relationship.

I also want to add that I’ve seen older people (17 and 18 and even ages 20+) who deal with this same dynamic. It’s a really bad problem in the dating scene and tinder has made it worse.

I don’t know if you agree BlackParadePixie or not.

[Willowgirl04]

I hate to say this, but I think your brother’s immaturity in how to handle a relationship with his drug use, and her views on it wanting drugs affecting her romance life is a legitimate issue. Her cheating isn’t right, but she can’t change your brother and it will be a persistent issue between them should the relationship continue.

It is highly possible both parties are better off going separate ways. As you are the sister, it is best you stay out of this or even suggest she should breakup with your brother rather than stringing someone along.

But your role is to approach the situation neutrally or to stay out of it entirely.

Does your mom understand the reasons behind why this girl is becoming more distant from your brother, or is your mom missing parts of the story/situation?

How level headed is your mom? Or is she blinding taking your brother’s side? Does your mom know he smokes?

——

Also for your own love dating life, try to see if you can absorb some wisdom by observing the events of how all this unfolded. Such experience may serve you well in your own life.


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In response to this, I agree that there’s a childish vindictiveness that should not be present when one pursues a relationship.

I also want to add that I’ve seen older people (17 and 18 and even ages 20+) who deal with this same dynamic. It’s a really bad problem in the dating scene and tinder has made it worse.

I don’t know if you agree BlackParadePixie or not.


Hip Hop music plays a big role in in promoting cheating. Every song I hear is about humping someones bitch


My mom said she can understand why shes leaning towards the other guy.

Were all my my friends house now watching tv

[Uniquemind]

Hip Hop music plays a big role in in promoting cheating. Every song I hear is about humping someones bitch


My mom said she can understand why shes leaning towards the other guy.

Were all my my friends house now watching tv

Media are influencing factors, as they tend to shape the morals of behavior of what is or isn’t trendy or appropriate through peer pressure and gains power through the “need to fit in”.

But at the end of the day, each individual chooses their virtues and vices, with respect to their genetic predispositions.

[Willowgirl04]

Media are influencing factors, as they tend to shape the morals of behavior of what is or isn’t trendy or appropriate through peer pressure and gains power through the “need to fit in”.

But at the end of the day, each individual chooses their virtues and vices, with respect to their genetic predispositions.


Oh ok

[antandlope]

You should definitely tell your brother what’s going on and really explain the consequences and who you got the information from. I think it’ll make him see the very obvious wrong. What’s going on between them now isn’t right

[Willowgirl04]

You should definitely tell your brother what’s going on and really explain the consequences and who you got the information from. I think it’ll make him see the very obvious wrong. What’s going on between them now isn’t right
Your probably right

Even when I do hes gonna flip back on me like always

[antandlope]

Your probably right

Even when I do hes gonna flip back on me like always

That’s okay - you can only try to do what you can to tell him. Unfortunately, he will have to suffer the consequences of his and her decision at some point...

[Willowgirl04]

That’s okay - you can only try to do what you can to tell him. Unfortunately, he will have to suffer the consequences of his and her decision at some point...

Thats true

[Willowgirl04]

Whats everybody else doing today ??