My Relationship with partners

[Bull Badu]

I have 2 partners I have sex with. The one I go to school with is my age. We have a flirty relationship but very sexual. The other I am embarassed to say because he is in high school but he is very attractive and sweet. But I think he is ashamed or embarrassed of me because I just entered middle school. These are my first relationships.

My older partner told me he loves me but doesn't want to been see with me. But he is starting to become more affectionate towards me in private. I am confussed

[Pultost]

My older partner told me he loves me but doesn't want to been see with me. confussed

Sounds like a real sweetheart.....

[Bull Badu]

Sounds like a real sweetheart.....

There is a age gap but I don't feel I shouldn't care about him.

[Pultost]

There is a age gap but I don't feel I shouldn't care about him.

How much older is he then, and how old are you?

[InternetTeen]

Why do you have 2 partners?

[Pultost]

Why do you have 2 partners?

I get the impression it's more common these days.

[Bull Badu]

Why do you have 2 partners?

Cause I like them both.

[Spooky_Eli]

Cause I like them both.
LOL, i guess the concept of comitment is lost.


It seems like this older guy is just scared of what people will say, and of how the relationship will be viewd by others.
just to clarify, i don't think he's ashamed of you, just afraid of what people will say.

[InternetTeen]

Cause I like them both.

Well I doubt you'll be able to maintain a good relationship if you have both.

[Second Chance]

I have 2 partners I have sex with. The one I go to school with is my age. We have a flirty relationship but very sexual. The other I am embarassed to say because he is in high school but he is very attractive and sweet. But I think he is ashamed or embarrassed of me because I just entered middle school. These are my first relationships.

My older partner told me he loves me but doesn't want to been see with me. But he is starting to become more affectionate towards me in private. I am confussed

As long as your two partners know you are in an open relationship and are having sex with both of them, then that is a choice all of you have to make. However, if only one of the partners know you have more than one sexual partner, then that is not right because you should be honest with everyone about who are your partners.

As for your high school partner not wanting to be seen in public with you I do not take that as a good sign. I agree with the person above that this person is a real "sweetheart" if he just wants to see you privately. If the person cannot be open about your relationship, then he is not worth your time because that is disrespecting you as a person.

Just make sure your partners are clean and that if they are having sex with others that you have regular STD tests.

[mick01]

I think we are judging the older teen a little too quickly without knowing all of the facts. I'd like to know his age and the age difference, is he out already, is he in another relationship as well? Giving good advice is hard without knowing more.

[Spooky_Eli]

I think we are judging the older teen a little too quickly without knowing all of the facts. I'd like to know his age and the age difference, is he out already, is he in another relationship as well? Giving good advice is hard without knowing more.

Is he even gay? we still don't know if the OP is male or female

[Bull Badu]

I think we are judging the older teen a little too quickly without knowing all of the facts. I'd like to know his age and the age difference, is he out already, is he in another relationship as well? Giving good advice is hard without knowing more.

He is not out openly but his close friends know and disapprove of him dating me because of my age. He is about to be 17. He is supposed to be single that I know of. I am a junior high student.

[mick01]

Is he even gay? we still don't know if the OP is male or female

I read his posts and I'm pretty sure he's a guy.

[Adamant]

I don't know what its like where op lives and not 100% sure of what ages go to what schools in USA but if OP under 16 then in UK it would be technically illegal for them to have sex and the older kid could be in real trouble if he is over 18. I know thats not likely to happen but could if big age gap and parents find out and complain. Maybe thats why he wants it to be a secret relationship.

[Spooky_Eli]

I am a junior high student.
so what, 13-14?

[mick01]

He is not out openly but his close friends know and disapprove of him dating me because of my age. He is about to be 17. He is supposed to be single that I know of. I am a junior high student.

So you are 13? This is just a yes or no answer, but have you done a lot sexually with the 17 year old? Idk, I think I would just ask myself the question, what would my parents think if they knew of all the facts/details here.How supportive or against it would they be? I'm not suggesting you tell them, just evaluate what you are doing based on how they would feel about it.
Not sure that you can have a successful relationship with the age difference, him not wanting to be seen with you, his friends not supportive of you two, and you seeing someone else.

[Bull Badu]

So you are 13? This is just a yes or no answer, but have you done a lot sexually with the 17 year old? Idk, I think I would just ask myself the question, what would my parents think if they knew of all the facts/details here.How supportive or against it would they be? I'm not suggesting you tell them, just evaluate what you are doing based on how they would feel about it.
Not sure that you can have a successful relationship with the age difference, him not wanting to be seen with you, his friends not supportive of you two, and you seeing someone else.

Yes I am 13. Yes I have done sexual things with my high school partner. My parents are struggling with my sexuality as is so no they wouldnt allow any of it. But the heart wants what it wants

[mick01]

I guess you can play this out and see where it goes, but you need to prepare yourself for a possible bad ending.

[Bull Badu]

I guess you can play this out and see where it goes, but you need to prepare yourself for a possible bad ending.

My Jr. High friend already said he is going to quit speaking to me when he goes of to college so why am I bothering with him.

My Jr high friend wants a more serious relationship with me. Our current relationship is open.

[Spooky_Eli]

My Jr. High friend already said he is going to quit speaking to me when he goes of to college so why am I bothering with him.

My Jr high friend wants a more serious relationship with me. Our current relationship is open.
Sounds like you know what to do then.

[mick01]

My Jr. High friend already said he is going to quit speaking to me when he goes of to college so why am I bothering with him.

My Jr high friend wants a more serious relationship with me. Our current relationship is open.

Your jr high friend wants a more serious relationship, but won't talk to you in four or five years? Am I reading that correctly? He'd be getting a very fast "fuck off" from me.

[Bull Badu]

Your jr high friend wants a more serious relationship, but won't talk to you in four or five years? Am I reading that correctly? He'd be getting a very fast "fuck off" from me.

Lol no he meant the high school guy. He is the only one in my circle who knows about me and the high school guy.