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amyxconlo
March 3rd, 2019, 10:19 AM
Hi everybody, I'm in a bit of a sticky situation lol and I'm not sure how to feel or what to do. Bit of background to begin with I suppose. I'm currently in my last year of school and I have some big exams coming up in the next couple of months, so a relationship is not really on the cards for me, as I don't have enough time and I don't need the distraction of it. However, I met a guy over Christmas and I grew to really like him and was very attracted to him. We kissed a few times and talk quite a lot on social media. We met up, and he is very nice but I'm quite extroverted and he's shy so I feel as if we're missing a spark or something. Fast forward a month, I was heading out clubbing with a few friends and he wasn't going to be there. He told me to 'not let him ruin my fun' so I didn't and I met somebody else. He asked me the next day if I had kissed anybody else and I was honest with him, even though I was ashamed and felt guilty. However, we had never had the 'exclusive' talk so I just presumed it would be ok. Unfortunately, to throw a spanner in the works, I developed feelings for the guy I had met while I was out as I discovered we had lots in common. He then asked me for dinner which I told the other guy (first guy) about because I didn't want to be dishonest. He told me I had played him and thought we should break things off. I can't help feeling as if I've made a mistake. I suppose i felt like i would be cheating, even though I kind of wasn't? I'm very confused as I like both very much, which I know is unfair to both. The first guy, I find highly attractive yet he's very quiet. The second guy I find not nearly as attractive but we have much more in common, and is much more outgoing. Am i being unreasonable, or has anyone else ever experienced a situation like this? Sorry for the long thread, it's eating me up inside!

ska8er
March 3rd, 2019, 11:49 AM
I take it that u r a girl. It doesn't matter but
just wondering. I would continue to c the first
guy u met over Christmas. U had a spark when
the two of u kissed. Its not like u didn't get along
even tho he is shy. I think it would b unfair to him
if u continued seeing the second guy. The thing is
that u have to pick one. I think a lot of us have had
this happen. Its hard to make friends and once u find
someone who u think would end up forming a steady
relationship u meet another who u also feel some bond
with but u cant have both. We all have to take chances
and c how a relationship will go and hope for the best.
BTW Welcome to the group.