Girls is it worth it?

[Uniquemind]

Would you go the extra mile to attempt to intensely deep dive and learn to play video games, if doing so would give you a new common activity to do with a boy your dating or wanting to be closer too?

If not, why? If yes, why would you say it’s worth it?

[Pultost]

I can only speak for myself, but I wouldn't bother forcing myself to try getting interested in activities that don't interest me just to get closer to someone. The way I see it, it's no problem if we have a few different interests, as long as you still have a few things in common.

[yeehaw]

I know this isn’t completely what you were asking, but I’m a bit of a gamer anyway (mostly RPGs). But yeah, I would definitely be open to playing other types of my games if my boyfriend or girlfriend preferred those genres. I’ve done that with my current boyfriend and my previous one; I’ve tried to take an interest in other games such as FPS and sport games so we can play together.

[Uniquemind]

I know this isn’t completely what you were asking, but I’m a bit of a gamer anyway (mostly RPGs). But yeah, I would definitely be open to playing other types of my games if my boyfriend or girlfriend preferred those genres. I’ve done that with my current boyfriend and my previous one; I’ve tried to take an interest in other games such as FPS and sport games so we can play together.

That’s close enough actually to what I’m asking. How successful were you at adapting? And did you ever work through interest-lethargy, and then over time developed a general self-driven interest in a game you normally wouldn’t have liked? More so would you like it I’d say it also meant spending time with a significant other?

[yeehaw]

That’s close enough actually to what I’m asking. How successful were you at adapting? And did you ever work through interest-lethargy, and then over time developed a general self-driven interest in a game you normally wouldn’t have liked? More so would you like it I’d say it also meant spending time with a significant other?

I mean FPS and sports games definitely aren’t my forte due to bad hand eye coordination and reaction times but I definitely improved with time. With my previous boyfriend I really just gave up with playing FIFA with him because he would be on it 24/7 and would spend way too much money on in game currency (I'd say that’s more of a problem with him, not with the actual game). It really got me into more FPS games though, I never would have really even considered them to be a genre I liked until playing them with partners.

[hayley2003]

I kinda like some games and it can be fun to play video games with my brother. I would learn a new game with a bf to see if I liked it.

However, I kinda think that after a while unless I thought it was fun to play, I would stop playing.

Mostly I think a person can't force themselves to like something just because someone else likes it. You might like it better.

I think its normal for people to like different things, and they their favor hobby doesn't need to be same. There a lots of "Odd Couples" who don't seem to have anything in common, but they seem to be a perfect match anyway. One hates taking out the gargbage, but the other doesn't mind, that kind of thing.

[Uniquemind]

I’ve found I’ve had the most succsss with Pokémon, Tetris, Mario kart, and some of sony’s Racing games, to be socially promoting for me in general.

But I haven’t found an “FPS” type shooter game I like at all.


But yeah if my significant other starts spending more time on games than cuddles and just talking I’d be leaving that relationship lickity-split.

[Ashley2004]

If I'm dating someone, that should mean we already have some things in common to share with each other.
To answer the question, I don't mind playing some video games once in awhile,but your wording of intensely deep dive sounds weird and extreme so no, I wouldn't do that.

[Uniquemind]

If I'm dating someone, that should mean we already have some things in common to share with each other.
To answer the question, I don't mind playing some video games once in awhile,but your wording of intensely deep dive sounds weird and extreme so no, I wouldn't do that.


Yeah it was a few weeks of literally spending 2-3 hours twice a week learning about how to play, and I really did force myself so I could say I tried to get into the culture. Definitely know those games aren’t for me it’s not an activity I could make into “us” time.

I watch Phil defranco a lot, so perhaps “deep dive” became part of my vernacular cuz of his YouTube videos. It’s a term meant to convey really immersing yourself in a topic or study in a detailed way.

[Caycedilla]

I like playing games anyways so as long as it’s a casual thing and relaxed then it’s fine with me. I don’t have much of a problem doing things with a partner which I know they like. I think a little compromise is great on both ends. However, I’m not going to dedicate days of my life learning how to do (or be great at) anything for the sole purpose of attracting or keeping a love interest. That’s not “me being me” at all

[Common.Name]

I kinda like some games and it can be fun to play video games with my brother. I would learn a new game with a bf to see if I liked it.

However, I kinda think that after a while unless I thought it was fun to play, I would stop playing.

Mostly I think a person can't force themselves to like something just because someone else likes it. You might like it better.

I think its normal for people to like different things, and they their favor hobby doesn't need to be same. There a lots of "Odd Couples" who don't seem to have anything in common, but they seem to be a perfect match anyway. One hates taking out the gargbage, but the other doesn't mind, that kind of thing.

Couldnt relate to this more. great answer.

[Oscar-V3.0]

I can only speak for myself, but I wouldn't bother forcing myself to try getting interested in activities that don't interest me just to get closer to someone. The way I see it, it's no problem if we have a few different interests, as long as you still have a few things in common.

I think the exact same thing, but you said it so better than I do... ;)

[Pultost]

I think the exact same thing, but you said it so better than I do... ;)

Thanks. :) I wasn't sure if I was being clear, so it's nice to hear it. ^^