Im In Love With My Best friend

[Toxic]

So My best friend is named Jake. I've known him for about 7 months, we walk home together every day after school and hang out all the time on the weekends. We say I love you to each other on a regular basis and Skype at night. Jake means so much to me, he has been the one person who I can tell everything to and he can tell me everything. We have little jokes that no one knows about and flirt with each other all the time. The only problem is that I'm really starting to develop feelings for him more than a friend, and I feel its too late for me. We both have this friend Maddie who is a beautiful, wonderful person and we both love her to death. She's sweet and kind and just a good person, which makes me feel worse about liking Jake. Jake liked her a lot and had feelings for her while I liked him, and that made it harder for me, so while we would hang out for the longest time he would talk about her and I would have to just not say anything. One of my friends closer to Maddie told me that the drama started between them and they both realized that it wouldn't work out. So I feel like I should tell jake how i feel about him and that I love him more than just a freind but I dont want to Hurt maddies feelings. Also how can I tell him? What would be a comfortable way to bring it up?

[Body odah Man]

This is a hard one. I can't help you with not hurting this girl Maddie's feelings-I hurt ppl's feelings way too much- however I might be able to help you with telling Jake you like him because I really do think he should know. Pick a romantic moment and tell him when the time is right (you'll know when by following ur instincts). Just don't spray him with perfume or criticize his hygiene and he will most likely be yours :)

[abc983055235235231a]

It really doesn't do either of you any good to keep it a secret. You should definitely tell him.

Not really sure how to go about bringing it up.

[BaeballCharlie]

I think that you should talk to him. I had the same thing with a girl I used to talk to. We were always rivals and competitive but it was cus we sorta liked each other. At the beginning of freshman year were started talking and I had no intentions to try anything until I realized how much she has changed me for the better. We apparently started to flirt without knowing it and then I realized that I should try for a serious thing. I did and at a bad time and I messed things up. I haven't talk to her since last April and I do miss her but I did learn a lot when we were friends. Although I had bad results I think it was well worth the shot.

[Synyster Shadows]

Definitely talk to Jake and tell him how you feel before it's too late. Be casual and start with something like "Hey, can I talk to you about something? I have something to tell you." Don't try to hide it. Tell him straight up because guys don't always understand if you beat around the bush, so to speak. Be direct but calm and casual. As for Maddie, you're just going have to tell her the truth. Do not sugarcoat it - that will only lead to more pain. She's going to be hurt to some degree no matter what you tell her, even if she doesn't show it. Just try to be polite about it and don't rise if she starts to get angry. If she gets upset, console her in a way that shows you like him but still care about her. I hope I haven't confused you...good luck! :)

[Melodic]

You need to talk to him. You hiding it will ruin things and it honestly could jeopardize your friendship way more then if you told him. Maddie needs to hear this too.

[DiamondsGirl]

I second TheVoiceWithin. Speak to both of them. I'm not exactly sure how to bring it up though..

[Toxic]

Yesterday he came over to my house and we played cards with my family and it was alot of fun in the middle of playing cards everyone took a break and he was wearing a sweatshirt but i could see the cuts down his arm. Its was really hard for me not to bawl or cry because depression and cutting is not a easy thing to go threw and its so hard to get out of. I used to be in the same situation but I got better slowly. Also I found out that maddie doesnt like jake, she doesnt like him but he still fancys her and i dont want to be the one to confuse his feelings right now and all of this is making my head spin and i dont know what to do

[DiamondsGirl]

Yesterday he came over to my house and we played cards with my family and it was alot of fun in the middle of playing cards everyone took a break and he was wearing a sweatshirt but i could see the cuts down his arm. Its was really hard for me not to bawl or cry because depression and cutting is not a easy thing to go threw and its so hard to get out of. I used to be in the same situation but I got better slowly. Also I found out that maddie doesnt like jake, she doesnt like him but he still fancys her and i dont want to be the one to confuse his feelings right now and all of this is making my head spin and i dont know what to do

:( I'm sorry to hear that. I can't imagine how would it feel to see cuts on a good friend's arm... I couldn't even watch an ex best friend indulging himself in smoking! I know this might sound like a recipe for disaster, but do you think you could speak to Jake and just let him know that you're there for him? You could also encourage him to go see a psychiatrist if you think it's necessary.

Whatever it is you decide I wish you the best of luck x

[Toxic]

:( I'm sorry to hear that. I can't imagine how would it feel to see cuts on a good friend's arm... I couldn't even watch an ex best friend indulging himself in smoking! I know this might sound like a recipe for disaster, but do you think you could speak to Jake and just let him know that you're there for him? You could also encourage him to go see a psychiatrist if you think it's necessary.

Whatever it is you decide I wish you the best of luck x
That helps alot Ill get together with him soon and tell him thanks x

[BreakFall]

You should tell him don't be nervous she will get over him and love you anyway if ur real friends

[Toxic]

I Really took peoples advice to heart and was on a Skype call with him. He said if I stopped pressing the Phone buttons he would give me one free pass to do whatever I wanted. So I took it and told him that when the time came I would tell him what I wanted. This was about a week ago. Jake is impatient. Today I skipped track practice and went to his house and we watched really bad shark movies and ate food with his little brother and sister. After that,he walked me home and kept pestering me about what I wanted because he didn't know yet. When he got to the curb of my house I looked down at his scares and told him to give me his arm (where the cuts are). He did and I Took out my pen and drew a butterfly on them "If you rub off the butterfly the butterfly dies, If you cut the butterfly the butterfly dies" he told me he wouldnt make the butterfly die if I told him what i really wanted. So for the sake of him I told him that I liked him and i finally told him. There was a long pause and then he said he liked me to :) I hugged him and walked in my house and when I started my homework on the computer he skyped me and we are planning on going out on friday :)

[Hope Is Here]

Honesty is the best way to build relationship.

[Tatii99]

That's cool :) good luck then, enjoy it!

[DiamondsGirl]

I Really took peoples advice to heart and was on a Skype call with him. He said if I stopped pressing the Phone buttons he would give me one free pass to do whatever I wanted. So I took it and told him that when the time came I would tell him what I wanted. This was about a week ago. Jake is impatient. Today I skipped track practice and went to his house and we watched really bad shark movies and ate food with his little brother and sister. After that,he walked me home and kept pestering me about what I wanted because he didn't know yet. When he got to the curb of my house I looked down at his scares and told him to give me his arm (where the cuts are). He did and I Took out my pen and drew a butterfly on them "If you rub off the butterfly the butterfly dies, If you cut the butterfly the butterfly dies" he told me he wouldnt make the butterfly die if I told him what i really wanted. So for the sake of him I told him that I liked him and i finally told him. There was a long pause and then he said he liked me to :) I hugged him and walked in my house and when I started my homework on the computer he skyped me and we are planning on going out on friday :)

you really put a smile on my face :) thank you for being such a kind person. Congrats on your new boyfriend!

[Living For Love]

I Really took peoples advice to heart and was on a Skype call with him. He said if I stopped pressing the Phone buttons he would give me one free pass to do whatever I wanted. So I took it and told him that when the time came I would tell him what I wanted. This was about a week ago. Jake is impatient. Today I skipped track practice and went to his house and we watched really bad shark movies and ate food with his little brother and sister. After that,he walked me home and kept pestering me about what I wanted because he didn't know yet. When he got to the curb of my house I looked down at his scares and told him to give me his arm (where the cuts are). He did and I Took out my pen and drew a butterfly on them "If you rub off the butterfly the butterfly dies, If you cut the butterfly the butterfly dies" he told me he wouldnt make the butterfly die if I told him what i really wanted. So for the sake of him I told him that I liked him and i finally told him. There was a long pause and then he said he liked me to :) I hugged him and walked in my house and when I started my homework on the computer he skyped me and we are planning on going out on friday :)

Well, I think you did exactly the right thing. You chose precisely the best moment to tell him your feelings, so I'm pretty sure everything's going to go well when you're going out with him on Friday. Congrats, and don't think much about that girl Maddie, I think the feelings they had for each other have already fade away.