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Britt543
March 30th, 2014, 09:22 AM
I'm 15 and very passionate about a friend of mine a long time, we always studied together but never had the courage to say that. It turns out that a friend of mine confessed to me that he liked him and asked me to help her since I knew him the longest.

Time went by and I did not tell him, I suspected that he might like her too and I did not want them to be together. She asked if I had spoken to him and I always run of the question. A couple of months passed and the vacation arrived.

During the holidays I had an accident, it was not anything serious but I had to go to the hospital. Yesterday I was alone in bed, lying down, when someone come to visit me, was my friend. When I saw her I found odd, she was all dressed up with short dress, light make up, high heels, etc.

She came and told me she was sorry for my accident but could not wait anymore. She asked me to call him since she did not have his phone number. Then I called him and asked him to come visit me. I started to get worried.

He arrived and was surprised to see my friend there. He asked why I had called so sudden, my friend replied and said it was because of her and she said was in love with him and could not save this alone anymore. He was surprised and said that liked she too and would talk to her after the holidays. She smiled and my heart rocketed when the two began to embrace.

After the hug she gave him a kiss on his face, he commented that he always wanted to kiss her, my friend said he thought it would be okay because I was helping her to date with him. Then she looked at me and asked if it was okay if they kiss, I got no reaction and just said ok..

I wanted to die when they began to embrace again, why I said such a thing? I thought they would just do a peck but they began a open-mouth tongue kiss, very slowly. I tried to close my eyes but not seeing was worse, they were near of me and the kiss was a lot of noise. It took about two minutes for them to stop. He said it was better they go out to talk, she thanked me and said bye. The two left happy and I started to cry.

I'm angry with my friend. I really love that boy and I was saving my first kiss for him. I had never seen such an intimate kiss so close, they don't need to done that. Now I do not know what I do, if I tell her I liked him or not. She is constantly sending me messages by cell phone, talking about dating and kissing. What would you do in my place?

DiamondsGirl
March 30th, 2014, 11:56 AM
In your place? Someone like me would probably do exactly what you did. I know it hurts. But such is life. And I know it hurts too much to believe me right now, but think of this as a precious experience. At least now you know how it feels, and would be wiser the next time a similar situation comes up. And as I always tell my friends: before you had your first heart break, you haven't lived yet!

We are young. We still have many many years to live, and it means we should lift our heads and look ahead. Okay, you stumbled and fell today. But promise yourself you're gonna get up and walk on. It takes more than that to take someone like you down :)

Now, to the question: honestly I think that girl is in the wrong for doing the confession in the hospital right in front of you. EVEN if you have no feelings for this boy it is still very inappropriate. I would even go as far as saying she's not the kind of friend I'd keep because what kind of friend visits you at the hospital saying "I want to meet this boy I like"? HOWEVER:

Let's admit that you're in the wrong, too. You chose to not tell the truth since the very beginning, and now you can't say anything besides "this incident is to be expected". But you're only responsible for that much. Don't need to beat yourself up. It's alright though. Chin up, you'll meet someone new.

Britt543
March 30th, 2014, 02:34 PM
In your place? Someone like me would probably do exactly what you did. I know it hurts. But such is life. And I know it hurts too much to believe me right now, but think of this as a precious experience. At least now you know how it feels, and would be wiser the next time a similar situation comes up. And as I always tell my friends: before you had your first heart break, you haven't lived yet!

We are young. We still have many many years to live, and it means we should lift our heads and look ahead. Okay, you stumbled and fell today. But promise yourself you're gonna get up and walk on. It takes more than that to take someone like you down :)

Now, to the question: honestly I think that girl is in the wrong for doing the confession in the hospital right in front of you. EVEN if you have no feelings for this boy it is still very inappropriate. I would even go as far as saying she's not the kind of friend I'd keep because what kind of friend visits you at the hospital saying "I want to meet this boy I like"? HOWEVER:

Let's admit that you're in the wrong, too. You chose to not tell the truth since the very beginning, and now you can't say anything besides "this incident is to be expected". But you're only responsible for that much. Don't need to beat yourself up. It's alright though. Chin up, you'll meet someone new.

Thank you for the answer. I know that I'm wrong too, but I'm really shy, I simply can't said anything for him and I also cant say "no" when my friend asked me help... About the confession, we were close friends, I think she feels more comfortable to talk it next to me, but she didn't say that would do that...

However, I don't want to read their messages anymore, I'm thinking in a way to make her stops without saying that I like him too... Hard situation :whoops:

DiamondsGirl
March 30th, 2014, 09:18 PM
Well you can always say PDA (public display of affection) annoys you, but really if she's a close friend then you should tell her the truth. The thing is she's gonna stick to you like glue, and it's hard to see someone so often when you have something major that you're hiding from 'em. The deal is already sealed. So unless your friend is an immature, emotional individual who gets jealous the instant she hears you're also in love with her new boyfriend, nothing's gonna happen.

Living For Love
April 6th, 2014, 09:19 AM
Sorry to say this, but that was really bitchy from her, kiss him right in front of you while you were in a hospital bed. I think you should just tell her to stop sending those messages because you had a crush on that boy, and it's been quite hard for you. She didn't know it, of course, so it's not her fault entirely, but ask her to place herself in your position and see if she would like something like that to happen to her as well. If she's a good friend, she will understand. Don't make it sound like you're terribly angry at both of them, just make her know you're a bit annoyed. And I also think you should just move on with your life, meet other guys and leave them alone for some time.

giofighter
April 7th, 2014, 02:43 PM
That was not right of her,kissing him in front of you. I think you should make a move first, sound selfish i know but sometimes,sometimes, you should put your self above others or at least your friend of yours could try to see if there's any signs that you like him too. I was in a familiar position you are now but i only liked the girl i wasn't in love with her...anyways, from my perspective you should talk with your friend don't just let it go,it's going to be worse

Left Now
April 7th, 2014, 02:59 PM
Why the hell didn't you tell him you loved him too?Now he's gone and you can't do anything to take him back from her.I think at least now you know your love didn't love you as much as you loved him.Try to find someone who really wants you and love you.

Hey you don't need to worry about that.I think you are kind and good enough to forgive them in your heart for what they did to you and in front of you while they even didn't know what it was which you wanted to tell him.However,still I'm so sorry to hear that.

Melodic
April 7th, 2014, 08:06 PM
Wow, I honestly probably wouldn't have kept my mouth shut. But that was probably the best thing to do.

But you're young. There will be other guys, and guys that are begging for your attention. As for your friend, I don't think you should lose your friendship just because of a boy. Trust me on that, you'll miss her in the long run. But if she constantly does stuff to hurt you, I would back away.

Stronk Serb
April 8th, 2014, 04:55 AM
It hurts like hell, I know, similar thing happened to me. I realized that there are many other girls which treat me better then her, so I continued looking. If they were doing that I would order them to get out. This is your hospital room not a private booth.

charmynyankawaii
April 9th, 2014, 02:35 AM
No way! I'm always afraid my friend will try to steal the guy I like from me but then if you really like him then you have to tell him! What if he is just dating your friend to make you jealous? That's just my point of view though..... And I don't think she really wanted to be your friend from the start. (not trying to make you sad) But there are girls out there who do anything for their own benefit.