Her Friend Alex

[benlodge123]

Yna my girlfriend, has put her friend Alex on her story saying "Alex OOTD" meaning Alex, Outfit of the day. This is the first time she has complimented on him since she has been with me. A few months ago she posted a photo of him and put flawless as the caption...

Am i right to be worried? They have been friends since primary school and both claim there is nothing going on between them but i really dont know. I get so worked up and worried sick whenever she is with him because she never messages when she is with him.

I dont know what to do and to be honest it makes me feel quite unpleasant worrying about him. I feel like if i express my dislike towards what she has done she will just claim that i am being silly etc :(

[ska8er]

I wouldn't tell her u dislike it but u
can say I know Alex is ur friend but
remember that Im here. I think u r
jealous and maybe so but u have to
trust her.

[benlodge123]

I wouldn't tell her u dislike it but u
can say I know Alex is ur friend but
remember that Im here. I think u r
jealous and maybe so but u have to
trust her.

i think i am jealous yes. Ive always been told not to talk about other girls in that sort of way if i have a girlfriend and I have stuck to my guns and never done it. if i tell her to remember that i am here then she will say "Ben I know your here... BUT" and then a random statement about her being allowed friends.

[Ethan19]

I think you're just being way too jealous. She has a close friend who is male and isn't you. He's been her friend (probably) longer than you have I'm guessing too.

Advice: get over yourself. You can't expect her to act any different to a friend she's had for years because you're with her, and just because you feel uncomfortable. That's just toxic. Accept the fact you can both have close friends of the opposite gender, it's called growing up.

Personally, I despise jealousy it makes people behave and act irrationally and selfishly. Which I guess is just trivial though as it's usually a piece of the person's personality. Give Othello a read, world famous quote "(jealousy) is the green eyed monster" .

Do I think you can stop being jealous? Yes. Do I think you should keep this to yourself? Yes. Should you stop being jealous? Yes, because it'll ruin your relationship if not.

[ska8er]

i think i am jealous yes. Ive always been told not to talk about other girls in that sort of way if i have a girlfriend and I have stuck to my guns and never done it. if i tell her to remember that i am here then she will say "Ben I know your here... BUT" and then a random statement about her being allowed friends.

Like I said u have to trust her. Don't
question her who her friends r cause
u may turn her off. :)

[Uniquemind]

You need to see a therapist about the origin of these security issues. I suspect previous relationship trauma has influenced your territorial sense of emotional safety.


Cheaters gonna cheat and non-cheaters just don’t. Jealousy doesn’t prevent cheating either so there’s no point to the emotion as it leads to an over controlling and abusive mental-state which contributes to a toxic relationship that can be abusive later on. Rage is the next step especially if the controlling environment becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[benlodge123]

You need to see a therapist about the origin of these security issues. I suspect previous relationship trauma has influenced your territorial sense of emotional safety.


Cheaters gonna cheat and non-cheaters just don’t. Jealousy doesn’t prevent cheating either so there’s no point to the emotion as it leads to an over controlling and abusive mental-state which contributes to a toxic relationship that can be abusive later on. Rage is the next step especially if the controlling environment becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.


Hello I kind of understand your reply minus the big words xD I have had counselling before and i am on the Autism Spectrum which i found out in november of last year. I have had bad things done mentally in past relationships which i shan't bore you to death with as you can probably tell what they are. Yna said that i am not controlling. She got asked to a concert with alex and his friend, she said no. She also got asked to the cinema with a boy she also said NO straight away. so i know she loves me. and i love her too.

Thank you for your reply.