Relationship or just friends?

[Gedster]

So there's this girl who I've been really close friends with for a few years. Over the last year or so, we've increasingly spent more time with each other at school, to the point where we both do exactly the same clubs/activities. We've been to the movies, or just for food together a few times as the just the two of us, but as friends. However, lately we've been spending a lot more time with each other, texting all the time etc. to the point where basically all of my and her friends think we're going out, or we should. We even get asked by people if we're going out to which we both look at each other with this awkward look, and just kinda shrug.
Part of me feels like I should go for it, but I don't want to risk losing an amazing friend and an amazing person from my life, especially cos we'd still be around each other all the time with the different clubs we do together and that could be very awkward.
Sorry for the long post, but I look forward to any advice you may offer :).

[AshleighB]

Ask her if she wants to go out and try tell her how you feel she may feel the same way if you don’t ask you will never know

[Adamant]

Ask her if she wants to go out and try tell her how you feel she may feel the same way if you don’t ask you will never know
Like Ashleys says but maybe as aprt of the asking out justsay how greay you think she is as a friend and how special thatv is to you and maybe say to her that you have got a question for her but whatever the answer you will still like her and want to spend time with her.

[mick01]

This is one of those deals where great communication is the only way to get to the heart of the matter. You may want to open up to her and pretty much say what you wrote here. It seems like she may be feeling the same way but you're both being really good at avoiding the topic.
And being good friends first can make for a great relationship.

[Ashley2004]

You're more likely to regret the things you don't do than the things you do. Give it a shot.

[samuel15]

The question is: Do you really need to be together with her?
The answer is most often no, the only benefit of going out with someone is sex but sex shouldn't be a driving force. I think you should just stay as friends, relationship are overrated.

[Gedster]

Thanks for the advice. The other thing i didnt mention, was that some of our mutual friends (who think we should go out), basically found out that I like her. I kinda know that they might have told her this cos she referenced a conversation I had with one of these mutual friends. Ive been thinking about the whole regret thing and that is my main motive, because the oppurtunity is pretty much there right infront of me. But I worry that she will just think Im asking her out cos of peer pressure.

The question is: Do you really need to be together with her?
The answer is most often no, the only benefit of going out with someone is sex but sex shouldn't be a driving force. I think you should just stay as friends, relationship are overrated.

I would clarify that at this stage, that isnt a motive for me ( especially due to law)

Posts merged. Use the edit button next time ~Mars

[samuel15]

I would clarify that at this stage, that isnt a motive for me ( especially due to law)

You aren't gaining anything except a title for being in a relationship, in my opinion it's not worth it.

[Gedster]

I appreciate that a relationship is effectively just a title, and there would certainly not be anything explicitly lost if I just preserved the friendship. But I feel like there is something more between us.

[ashleigh7]

Ask her if she wants to go out and try tell her how you feel she may feel the same way if you don’t ask you will never know

I'm in literally in that situation...but girl with boy :)

[Gedster]

So I decided I would go for it. This week it feels like we have been closer than ever, and we are both in school for the weekend. Today I felt like I was gonna go for it, but I didn't really feel the moment was there, but we're both in tmr and I would rather do it then than around all my friends at school in the week. Any tips on just plucking up the courage to do it?

[Emilyfox]

Check google maps, I Think you’re in the friend zone

[OwlBlue]

Go for it. Take courage and tell her. You'll know it.

[Pultost]

It's better to go for it and get a straight answer instead of keeping wondering, it would suck if she gets a boyfriend and it turns out that she got the impression you weren't interested.

Check google maps, I Think you’re in the friend zone

Ouch! xD

[Oscar-V3.0]

Check google maps, I Think you’re in the friend zone

So nicely said... :lol:

[Gedster]

Haha you might need to update your version of google maps, if you know what I mean ;)

[Karalectric]

Orrrrrr send a friend to her and have him be like, "heeey just curious what do you think about you and the Gedster??" Kinda a jr high move, but hey. :)