Post-Guilt

[Nnoki]

I Have a lot of "Post-Masturbation Guilt" where you feel guilty or ashamed or generally bad after you orgasm by masturbating.

But I have a question for other guys with this
Does it happen after sex too?
Is the remorse worse or same?
Anyone knows a way to overcome it?

[Jake445]

So I know probably not helpful, but I never had Post-Masturbation Guilt and I've never talked to anyone that had problems with that. Why do you? Were you raised strictly religious?

[Oscar-V3.0]

Just tell yourself you're not causing any harm to anyone, so what would you feel guilty about?

[Turbofan explosion]

I don't know why, but I frequently have the feeling that I really don't want to masturbate but I am also feeling horny at the same time

[ska8er]

I used to have guilt after masturbating but
I think it is the release of hormones. U get
horny and have a built of pent up energy
that u r so eager to masturbate that after
u release u get this down feeling. IDK how
u can overcome the feeling but tell urself
that it is something normal and there is
nothing wrong feeling that way.

[ShineintheDark]

It's pretty normal, especially if you've got yourself off doing something you don't usually do (like watching a new type of porn etc) since the hormones during masturbation influence your mindset and so actions so once they're gone you take a new perspective on what you're doing. I just get sleep after more than guilty but maybe that's just how much I'm used to it.

[allgrownup]

why would you feel bad about enjoying yourself? just do it man, there's nothing wrong with it.

[Nnoki]

For everyone who doesn't understand this, it doesn't happen to everyone.
Let's say that when you masturbate, you get pumped up and get a lot of energy, that makes you feel very good, then you peak (orgasm), and since you are at the top, it only goes downhill. Now as far as I know, people who are usually depressed tend to get this more, I could try to picture it on a graph.
But I ain't no scientist, this is just how I understood this process

[justa16yearoldaussie]

Probably not too helpful but I used to get it and it kinds just went away with time, I guess you just have to realise that there’s nothing wrong with masturbation

[Nnoki]

Here's a chart, at least that's how I got it
Imagine a Masturbation session, you're just chilling on your room by yourself at 5:00 (am or pm don't care). You start to get aroused around 5:05 and go for it, at 5:20 you climax making it the "peak", and at 5:30 you're fully back to normal. See it is symmetrical how you build up and build down.
Some people (myself included) that I'll call Depressed (since that's the only thing I share in common with friends with the same issue), don't go down like that, and just drop drastically, making the "Guilt", at least that's how I get it.

[Diable rouge]

It happens to me sometimes because I feel I could have used my time better.

[ArfyMcPeesh]

I Have a lot of "Post-Masturbation Guilt" where you feel guilty or ashamed or generally bad after you orgasm by masturbating.

But I have a question for other guys with this
Does it happen after sex too?
Is the remorse worse or same?
Anyone knows a way to overcome it?

I don’t really have post-masturbation guilt unless I like go to my room to do it and everybody’s home, then I feel more awkward because I wonder if they think or know I was doing it.

Never had sex so don’t know but if I have sex as long as I don’t screw it up I won’t feel guilty!

Just think that it’s natural all guys and some girls do it and you’re not hurting anyone plus it feels good

[Ricky.h]

I Have a lot of "Post-Masturbation Guilt" where you feel guilty or ashamed or generally bad after you orgasm by masturbating.

But I have a question for other guys with this
Does it happen after sex too?
Is the remorse worse or same?
Anyone knows a way to overcome it?

Nah not for me. The only time I ever really feel guilt is if I didn't pullout while not wearing a condom and she's not on BC. But that feeling is more concerned than guilty necessarily. However That takes time settle in because right after in feeling good

[Sammy_03]

Never had it. And I've never heard up until now that anyone has experienced it. Were you raised religious? Or tought that it was wrong? Or is it more about the fact that your orgasm is over, or that the feeling has ended?

[arnorway]

For everyone who doesn't understand this, it doesn't happen to everyone.
Let's say that when you masturbate, you get pumped up and get a lot of energy, that makes you feel very good, then you peak (orgasm), and since you are at the top, it only goes downhill. Now as far as I know, people who are usually depressed tend to get this more, I could try to picture it on a graph.
But I ain't no scientist, this is just how I understood this process

i never get guilty but i do certainly have a down phase. not every time but still somewhat regular. i'm pretty certain that everything you say here is how i feel, just not guilt but more a like a down mood. not sure how to explain it either

[Hermes]

Here's a chart, at least that's how I got it.

I am not sure I'd agree with you there. I think the version where you slowly build to a peak and then quickly come down the other side is pretty much what happens to everyone. There is a known psyiological reason for it in that hormones are released at orgasm that stop you being horny and tend to make your relaxed and even slightly sleepy.

Where people seem to be different is how they react to "coming down to earth". For many of us it is simply that the tension, exitment and horniness have now gone and we feel pleasantly relaxed. That can actually be a good feeling, though obviously in a different way to orgasm and people sometimes refer to it as the afterglow.

When you first start, though, the sudden disappearance of horniess can be a little odd. It can seem like something (horniness) took over your brain and made you do something odd, something you would not ordinarily have done and now you're not horny and more you think "why did I just do that?". As you get more used to it, though, you come to see horniness as normal. It's not like you temporarly became someone else it is just another part of who you now are. The horny you is just as much a part of you as the not horny you is. Even thinking "why did I just do that?" is not quite the same as feeling guilty, though.

To my mind, a guilty feeling comes when something in your life has given you negative ideas about sexual things in general or masturbation in particular. Whether it is a lack of open conversation and thus sexual things seeming to be secretive the same way someome who was about to rob a bank would keep his plans secret, or religious teaching telling you it's wrong or something else. We don't know exactly what it could be for you but if you can think we can talk about whatever you come up with.

[InternetTeen]

I had this when I started it. I don't have it anymore though.

[nickerasic]

YES I have def dealt with this because my family is a sort of strict Christian background. For a long time I thought playing with myself was bad or sinful and I tried not to do it

[inactiveguy678]

I used to have it but after maturating for like 5 years now and even having sex, I feel less guilty the more I do it.

[Oscar-V3.0]

YES I have def dealt with this because my family is a sort of strict Christian background. For a long time I thought playing with myself was bad or sinful and I tried not to do it

I live the same. But then again, if it doesn't cause harm to anyone, why would it be a sin?

[Jason2005]

Ok, I am not al old as most of you but I just recently overcome my fuses foreskin, and finely produced clear stuff, but do I feel guilty after I do it?

First let me ask, who has been to some type of catechism class for there church?

We are told Masturbation is a sin.

So how is a guy not to feet guilty if he is Christian?

I might make a new thread about it.

[Maxbreak]

I'm not religious. I don't feel guilty afterwards

[Oscar-V3.0]

Ok, I am not al old as most of you but I just recently overcome my fuses foreskin, and finely produced clear stuff, but do I feel guilty after I do it?

First let me ask, who has been to some type of catechism class for there church?

We are told Masturbation is a sin.

So how is a guy not to feet guilty if he is Christian?

I might make a new thread about it.

We are catholics and I go to church and to catechism also
but I dont agree with everything church says
For examples I dont agree that being gay is a sin, or that gays should be 'cured' for that
I dont agree that masterbation is a sin either
Because you're not harming anyone

[Allstar49]

I get the same thing after I masturbate, especially if I watched some nasty porn. I think it just has something to do with the fact of when you’re masturbating you get a ton of endorphins rushing to your brain and after you release that all, you feel weird and guilty. Idk that’s just my guess.

[Zachary G]

I dont have the post masturbation guilt like I used to, but I do experience post sex guilt and I think that has a lot to do with my partners more than anything.

[Cassius16]

I don’t feel guilty afterwards

[Adamant]

Had plenty of sex ed telling me all boys do it so not guilty that way. Sometimes I kind of say to myself I should be able to show a bit of self control and that never lasts long so then I maybe feel a bit guilty but not enough to stop!

[Falcons_11]

I never have felt guilty after I've masturbated. I don't consider masturbation to be wrong or weird. I most will focus on the feelings and pleasure I got after I had an orgasm. I never have felt bad about that.

[Nnoki]

Well, apparently post-sex guilt isn't a thing for me lol

[xXCaptainteemoXx]

Does it happen after sex too? Yeah it does

Is the remorse worse or same? For me it's usually worse but that's due to me masturbating more than having sex

Anyone knows a way to overcome it? Honestly like a lot of things in life, you gotta train yourself to overcome it. It's an awful feeling but feeling bad now is what makes you stronger in the future. Just know that there are people who'll support you during those times so you can build yourself up to be strong enough :)

[THE_D3_4D_3Y_35]

It's pretty normal, especially if you've got yourself off doing something you don't usually do (like watching a new type of porn etc) since the hormones during masturbation influence your mindset and so actions so once they're gone you take a new perspective on what you're doing. I just get sleep after more than guilty but maybe that's just how much I'm used to it.

This.

YES I have def dealt with this because my family is a sort of strict Christian background. For a long time I thought playing with myself was bad or sinful and I tried not to do it

That's why then.

I dont agree that being gay is a sin, or that gays should be 'cured' for that I dont agree that masterbation is a sin either Because you're not harming anyone

It's good that you don't then. You got to think for yourself. Technically you are killing millions of sperms but hey, they were never meant to be born anyway haha.

[Oscar-V3.0]

It's good that you don't then. You got to think for yourself. Technically you are killing millions of sperms but hey, they were never meant to be born anyway haha.

Only one sperm will meet an egg, the other millions of sperms die, so technically when you have sex to have a baby, you commit a genocide... :P

[THE_D3_4D_3Y_35]

Only one sperm will meet an egg, the other millions of sperms die, so technically when you have sex to have a baby, you commit a genocide... :P

As crazy wanking teens, you are all mass murderers haha.

[Hermes]

It's good that you don't then. You got to think for yourself. Technically you are killing millions of sperms but hey, they were never meant to be born anyway haha.

But it is not like they would be living for much longer anyway even if you didn't ejaculate them. They spend most of their life gradually maturing and, once ready to ejaculate, then only live for a few more days after which they die and the body will reabsorb them. Also if you don't ejaculate them deliberately it may happen anyway in a wet dream. Either way you can't choose to save them up for some time a few years in the future when you're ready to become a dad so when choosing whether or not to masturbate you're really only choosing whether you will feel the pleasure of cumming or do without it (and get insanely horny too). Even when you are eventually ready to be a dad:

Only one sperm will meet an egg, the other millions of sperms die, so technically when you have sex to have a baby, you commit a genocide... :P

Given also that even when you decide to try for a baby you will usually have sex rather more than once and that for 3 out of the 4 weeks of her cycle it is extremely unlikely that she would get pregnant because there is no egg there and won't be for the next five days or so, which is how long the sperm can generally live inside her for.

So, if you believe in a God you presumably also believe that he designed our reproductive system. In that case why would he design a system like that and then be concerned about wasted sperm? And if you don't believe in God then you don't have to worry about offending him.

[THE_D3_4D_3Y_35]

So, if you believe in God you presumably also believe that he designed our reproductive system. In that case why would he design a system like that and then be concerned about wasted sperm? And if you don't believe in God then you don't have to worry about offending him.

So much for intelligent design and the sanctity of life haha.

[ShineintheDark]

So much for intelligent design and the sanctity of life haha.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fUspLVStPbk

[PCwrestler]

I felt guilty a little bit but then i realize this is what boys do. I've seen porn with boys who are 18 and 20 and realize this is okay, they are just boys being boys and having fun with one another.

[THE_D3_4D_3Y_35]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fUspLVStPbk

I saw that before lol.

I felt guilty a little bit but then i realize this is what boys do. I've seen porn with boys who are 18 and 20 and realize this is okay, they are just boys being boys and having fun with one another.

Yeah nothing wrong with that.

[arnorway]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fUspLVStPbk

:yeah::metal::D

[Hermes]

So much for intelligent design...

Indeed the design only makes sense and seems vaguely intelligent when you find that there is little variation in the way reproduction works for males across many species of animals. That includes finish were the female lays eggs and the males release their sperm in the general vicinity of them so that the current determines which sperm end up with which eggs. It includes animals where the males go wandering around and there is no predicting when they will meet a female who is ready. As sperm take so long to mature this guy can't start making them upon meeting the female - he needs to be ready when he meets her so continuous production is needed.

So, again, if you believe God made us better than the animals then he clearly concentrated on our brains as a lot of our other bodily systems are also shared, at least with the mammals - no sense in redesigning something that works.

Then if you believe we are the way we through evolution instead then that perfectly explains the similarity. It also explains why a design does need to be the most efficient possible, just good enough to get the job done.

...and the sanctity of life haha.

Where human life begins is obviously a very relevant debate for those who are strongly anti-abortion or pro-choice. The argument for setting abortion limits where they typically are set is that, although the fetus is clearly alive at that point it is not an independent life in the sense of being able to continue without the support of the mother. The opposite point of view from that one is that life begins at conception, i.e. when the egg is fertilised. A few crackpots have tried to suggest it begins before that but it is really hard to construct an argument for that as it is not settled before that which set of genes the new life will have.

So you have see that sperm are just cells and many other, non-reproductive, cells die and a replaced with fresh ones as part of everyday life and we don't feel guilty about that so there is not need to feel guilty here either.

P.S. The Monty Python song is funny.

[THE_D3_4D_3Y_35]

Indeed the design only makes sense and seems vaguely intelligent when you find that there is little variation in the way reproduction works for males across many species of animals. That includes finish were the female lays eggs and the males release their sperm in the general vicinity of them so that the current determines which sperm end up with which eggs. It includes animals where the males go wandering around and there is no predicting when they will meet a female who is ready. As sperm take so long to mature this guy can't start making them upon meeting the female - he needs to be ready when he meets her so continuous production is needed.

So, again, if you believe God made us better than the animals then he clearly concentrated on our brains as a lot of our other bodily systems are also shared, at least with the mammals - no sense in redesigning something that works.

Then if you believe we are the way we through evolution instead then that perfectly explains the similarity. It also explains why a design does need to be the most efficient possible, just good enough to get the job done.



Where human life begins is obviously a very relevant debate for those who are strongly anti-abortion or pro-choice. The argument for setting abortion limits where they typically are set is that, although the fetus is clearly alive at that point it is not an independent life in the sense of being able to continue without the support of the mother. The opposite point of view from that one is that life begins at conception, i.e. when the egg is fertilised. A few crackpots have tried to suggest it begins before that but it is really hard to construct an argument for that as it is not settled before that which set of genes the new life will have.

So you have see that sperm are just cells and many other, non-reproductive, cells die and a replaced with fresh ones as part of everyday life and we don't feel guilty about that so there is not need to feel guilty here either.

P.S. The Monty Python song is funny.

The puberty section just turned into rambling of the wise haha.

[Jrunner]

Psssh nope

[Oscar-V3.0]

So, if you believe in a God you presumably also believe that he designed our reproductive system. In that case why would he design a system like that and then be concerned about wasted sperm? .

That whole post about committing genocide was a joke :P

[citycanuck]

I can't say I ever felt guilty after masturbating, although when I first started I always thought that people could tell I'd just done it. Eventually that went away and to be honest, I just didn't care if they could or not lol.