Would you call me gay or bi

[ieric]

Hey.. So I'm 13, almost 14 and I am confused with my sexuality, you see, guys turn me on and I feel like I want a relationship with a guy. With girls on the other hand, I feel absolutely no sexual attraction to, but I kinda feel like having a girlfriend at the same time, but I feel like I wouldn't want to even kiss a girl.
Please no answers like 'it's normal' and stuff. I just want answers telling me if you think I'm gay or bi. Also no saying 'don't label yourself' I need the be labeled that's why I'm confused. I wanna tell people about my sexuality but I don't wanna say I'm gay and then get a girlfriend later on.. Thanks!

[Ethe14]

Well I think your closer to gay, but honestly it's for you to find out.

[ksdnfkfr]

Make it simple on yourself and just say bisexual for now.

[Elysium]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[hockeyfan]

I think gay

[Bmble_B]

Id say gay

[backjruton]

Someone in almost exactly the situation I'm in, awesome. This is why I'm not telling anyone if I'm gay or not yet, because I feel like I'm in a relationship with my friend in college but there;s no way I'd actually do anything with her. The thought of it just bugs me and I've even told 2 guy friends I'm attracted to them in more of a partly sexual way.

Just say you're bi (but mostly gay) until you're sure of what to do, because one of the stupidest things I ever heard about between some friends was that a girl was a lesbian then suddenly dumped her girlfriend and realized she was straight... so basically she's bisexual because she had a girlfriend and I think she now has a boyfriend. It's better to just say you're bi if you're not sure :D

[fast8]

Yea if ur unsure then say ur bi for now until u know 100%

[JamesSuperBoy]

Ok you w.ant labeled - teen curious.

[Bolwing]

No "don't label yourself" answers? Damn it! They're my favourite.

Anyway, you say that you wouldn't even kiss a girl? And that you're both sexually and romantically attracted to guys? Seems pretty darn gay to me.
The "I feel like having a girlfriend" part might just be your upbringing talking.

Still, no one's going to determine your sexuality for you - that is your task to complete.

Also, why do you feel the need to be labeled RIGHT NOW? Label yourself when you're absolutely certain that the label fits you.

[tyrfr]

say:gay

[Liam TWB]

At the moment you seem to be bi, with a gay preference. i think there are two problems with being determined to label yourself.
Firstly, there's a lot of support for the theory that people don't conveniently fit into gay / bi / straight, and that there's a kind of continuum between them. Some guys may be exclusively gay, exlusively straight, but many are somewhere in between - and not just right in the middle.
Also, you're sexual preference can change a bit from your early teens. Not for everyone, and maybe not hugely, but I know from experience that I've gone from being 50:50 bi to 80:20 gay. I've had full on relationships with a girl, but I think I'll be with guys in future tbh.

Just be who you are and enjoy your sex life :)

[TheJoseph]

You'll probably end up gay.