Girls asking out boys

[Karalectric]

Hetero girls... or bi girls.... have you asked boys out? If yes, how did it go?

Boys, do you like when girls do that or the idea of such a thing?? I.... might do that because there is a guy i like but he doesn't seem to pick up my signals! but OMG i am so nervous just thinking about it!! I guess that is how you feel huh??

[Caycedilla]

I haven’t done it myself, but I definitely would if I felt strongly enough about the other person

[ArfyMcPeesh]

It depends on the guy and the girl, but I would be okay with it, but I said no I would want her to understand

[KatieCO2003]

LOL! My Daddy met someone at the stock show and has been seeing her for a few days now. Today, I had to have a talk with him about CFMPs and what it means when a woman leaves her 4th blouse button unbuttoned and starts playing with her hair at dinner.

[Spooky_Eli]

there's something very unchristian about it, but what do i know?

[arnorway]

Boys, do you like when girls do that or the idea of such a thing?? I.... might do that because there is a guy i like but he doesn't seem to pick up my signals! but OMG i am so nervous just thinking about it!! I guess that is how you feel huh??

me personally, i'd like it. one of the reasons is because of the nervousness you have now. but like with the kissing thread that was on here recently, i do think that it doesn't always have to be boys who start. to me that's like old-fashioned thinking

[Karalectric]

LOL! My Daddy met someone at the stock show and has been seeing her for a few days now. Today, I had to have a talk with him about CFMPs and what it means when a woman leaves her 4th blouse button unbuttoned and starts playing with her hair at dinner.

IKR!?! I feel like i have done everything short of that. lol

[Zika]

I like when a girl asks me out.

And yes, the nervousness you have is what boys have when they ask you out. It's nice to see girls experiencing this too.

And no, boys don't usually find girls who ask them out to be too forward.

[Zika]

LOL! My Daddy met someone at the stock show and has been seeing her for a few days now. Today, I had to have a talk with him about CFMPs and what it means when a woman leaves her 4th blouse button unbuttoned and starts playing with her hair at dinner.

CFMP: come f**k me pumps?:confused:

[Pultost]

I did once, some time before me and my boyfriend got together. It didn't lead to anything more, but we had a good time nonetheless, so no regrets. :)

[ska8er]

I would say its the boy that should ask the
girl out but I don't c anything wrong with a
girl asking. Maybe a start like u want to go
for a soda and a pizza or something like that
which may get the two of u acquainted. If u
don't ask u might never know if he has an
interest.

[Oscar-V3.0]

Hetero girls... or bi girls.... have you asked boys out? If yes, how did it go?

Boys, do you like when girls do that or the idea of such a thing?? I.... might do that because there is a guy i like but he doesn't seem to pick up my signals! but OMG i am so nervous just thinking about it!! I guess that is how you feel huh??

The worst that could happen is to continue hoping secretly and then see him go out with another girl, because she had the guts to ask him out and you didn't.
So go for it!
If he says yes, jackpot
If he declines... Well at least you know where he stands, and it's far much better than hoping useless and you can move on

[Zika]

I would imagine any guy you ask out would be honored and excited to go out with you.

But, just in case there's some reason he wouldn't, it may be good to have a response thought out in case of a rejection. I know a couple times I wasn't prepared and it was slightly awkward.

[Karalectric]

Thanks for the encouragement, everybody. Yea i think a big part of it too is my poor self confidence. I am working on that. Being brave and taking a step like that could help don't you think??

[Zika]

Thanks for the encouragement, everybody. Yea i think a big part of it too is my poor self confidence. I am working on that. Being brave and taking a step like that could help don't you think??

It definitely could help. But you also need to consider how you'll frame it in the unlikely event he'll decline. I try to think of it as just bec I don't appeal to her, doesn't mean I'm not appealing in general. Rejection can be quick to deflate one's self-esteem.

But of course acceptance, the most likely response, is a wonderful boost.

Make a commitment to ask him by a certain date, like tomorrow.

Sometimes you can lead into it casually. Like talking about movies you both want to see and then suggesting you see it together and may grab a bite to eat.
That's less pressure than formally asking for a date.

Good luck:yeah:

[PlasmaHam]

I'm quite conservative when it comes to traditional relationship roles, but honestly I would be fine if a girl asked me out. I do think it's good for the guy to make the first move, but if he is hesitant or doesn't seem comfortable then I'm absolutely fine with the girl making a move. Unless you literally just met, I don't see it as being too forward.

And yes, you are experiencing what many guys experience when asking a girl out. Even though the likelihood is acceptance, you are still shaking to your bones. :P

[EvaNL]

Thanks for the encouragement, everybody. Yea i think a big part of it too is my poor self confidence. I am working on that. Being brave and taking a step like that could help don't you think??

The worst thing that can happen is that he says no. Go for it! :)

[Barbara.]

I have never done it as I and my mom is what they call old school. We feel that the boy should make the first move asking the girl out,first kiss and being a gentleman. Maybe that's to much to ask for in a boy.

[Dav1d]

I wish girls were more forward.

[EvaNL]

It's 2019. If you (any gender) would like to go out with another person (any gender), ask them. It's okay.

[PlasmaHam]

If you aren't comfortable asking the guy out (be it tradition or just nerves) then the best route would be to send stronger signals to him that you are interested, to the point where there should be no doubt in his mind about it. A good idea would be to invite him to a group get-together with your other friends. Would show that you value his company and give you a chance to talk to him, without the awkwardness of a date.

[Zika]

I have never done it as I and my mom is what they call old school. We feel that the boy should make the first move asking the girl out,first kiss and being a gentleman. Maybe that's to much to ask for in a boy.

Under the heading of 'old school' roles, I think a woman should fix her man a sandwich and get him a beer while he's watching the game on tv; be a real woman. Maybe that's too much to ask for in a girl.

[Karalectric]

If you aren't comfortable asking the guy out (be it tradition or just nerves) then the best route would be to send stronger signals to him that you are interested, to the point where there should be no doubt in his mind about it. A good idea would be to invite him to a group get-together with your other friends. Would show that you value his company and give you a chance to talk to him, without the awkwardness of a date.

This is a fine idea too. Headed out to school soon. We'll see what the day holds!! :wub:

[Oscar-V3.0]

I have never done it as I and my mom is what they call old school. We feel that the boy should make the first move asking the girl out,first kiss and being a gentleman. Maybe that's to much to ask for in a boy.

Or maybe you have a crush on a boy but he hasn't quite noticed you yet because he doesn't really know you... So you go talk to him and when he starts to know you he appreciates you back, like 'hey, I didn't know this girl before, but she is really cool. Maybe I should find out some lore about her'
And something may happen...

Or you can do nothing. And nothing will happen between you for sure...

[Karalectric]

Well yesterday i chikened out, totally froze up!!! But today i did it... well my bestie kinda forced me. During lunch she said, "well if you won't do it i guess i gotta ask him out for you." And made to get up and head towards him. She was joking... I THINK. If you knew her you would know she is different than me. Very outgoing and i would not put it past her to actually do it. So i stopped her. "NOOOOOO!! DON'T YOU DARE." lol So... i did it. I said, "hey, was wondering, you wanna go to a movie with me this weekend??" He responded, "OH. like... a date?" And i said, "ummmm yea." There was an awkard pause. "I like you, Kara, but i don't LIKE like you.... sorry. But i like that we are friends." Another awkward pause. I didn't know what to say. "Okay.... cya". My friends were like oh it is his loss. But omg i felt so silly.

So yea just thought i would let you know...

[arnorway]

Well yesterday i chikened out, totally froze up!!! But today i did it... well my bestie kinda forced me. During lunch she said, "well if you won't do it i guess i gotta ask him out for you." And made to get up and head towards him. She was joking... I THINK. If you knew her you would know she is different than me. Very outgoing and i would not put it past her to actually do it. So i stopped her. "NOOOOOO!! DON'T YOU DARE." lol So... i did it. I said, "hey, was wondering, you wanna go to a movie with me this weekend??" He responded, "OH. like... a date?" And i said, "ummmm yea." There was an awkard pause. "I like you, Kara, but i don't LIKE like you.... sorry. But i like that we are friends." Another awkward pause. I didn't know what to say. "Okay.... cya". My friends were like oh it is his loss. But omg i felt so silly.

So yea just thought i would let you know...

i am really sorry to hear! i know you wanted him to say yes, and so everyone on here did for you, i think ;)
but no need to feel silly :) hope you don't feel like it any longer! nothing silly or bad happened, even if it isn't the outcome you wished for
and i am sure it is his loss too, for sure :yes:

[Oscar-V3.0]

But omg i felt so silly.

So yea just thought i would let you know...
You dont have to feel silly. He just was'nt meant for you.
Dont worry, there are plenty of other cool and sweet boys. I'm sure you will find one that suits you ;)

As a friend says "there are plenty of other fishes in the sea..." :lol:

[Maxbreak]

Well yesterday i chikened out, totally froze up!!! But today i did it... well my bestie kinda forced me. During lunch she said, "well if you won't do it i guess i gotta ask him out for you." And made to get up and head towards him. She was joking... I THINK. If you knew her you would know she is different than me. Very outgoing and i would not put it past her to actually do it. So i stopped her. "NOOOOOO!! DON'T YOU DARE." lol So... i did it. I said, "hey, was wondering, you wanna go to a movie with me this weekend??" He responded, "OH. like... a date?" And i said, "ummmm yea." There was an awkard pause. "I like you, Kara, but i don't LIKE like you.... sorry. But i like that we are friends." Another awkward pause. I didn't know what to say. "Okay.... cya". My friends were like oh it is his loss. But omg i felt so silly.

So yea just thought i would let you know...

i am really sorry to hear! i know you wanted him to say yes, and so everyone on here did for you, i think ;)
but no need to feel silly :) hope you don't feel like it any longer! nothing silly or bad happened, even if it isn't the outcome you wished for
and i am sure it is his loss too, for sure :yes:

Agreed with Arn. As long as you're still friends. U tried. There's a saying from an old comedy I like "he who dares wins" (OK in this case she!). If you never try you will never know. Maybe the next boy....

[Karalectric]

You dont have to feel silly. He just was'nt meant for you.
Dont worry, there are plenty of other cool and sweet boys. I'm sure you will find one that suits you ;)

As a friend says "there are plenty of other fishes in the sea..." :lol:

i am really sorry to hear! i know you wanted him to say yes, and so everyone on here did for you, i think ;)
but no need to feel silly :) hope you don't feel like it any longer! nothing silly or bad happened, even if it isn't the outcome you wished for
and i am sure it is his loss too, for sure :yes:

Agreed with Arn. As long as you're still friends. U tried. There's a saying from an old comedy I like "he who dares wins" (OK in this case she!). If you never try you will never know. Maybe the next boy....

Thanks you guys! Yea i mean it is now kinda awkward seeing him in classes and hallway and stuff, but yea at least i don't have to wonder what if or hate in myself for never saying anything. Looking back i can tell during that silence before that he was trying to think of a way to say it that would not hurt ny feelings too much. So sweet. Part of the reason why i like him so much!

[arnorway]

Thanks you guys! Yea i mean it is now kinda awkward seeing him in classes and hallway and stuff, but yea at least i don't have to wonder what if or hate in myself for never saying anything. Looking back i can tell during that silence before that he was trying to think of a way to say it that would not hurt ny feelings too much. So sweet. Part of the reason why i like him so much!

i'm glad he tried not to hurt your feelings, which makes me sure he will not want it to be awkward, or at least not do anything that would make it that for long

[Oscar-V3.0]

Under the heading of 'old school' roles, I think a woman should fix her man a sandwich and get him a beer while he's watching the game on tv; be a real woman. Maybe that's too much to ask for in a girl.

That was a little harsh :D
But not untrue I admit :P

[PositiveVibes]

Hetero girls... or bi girls.... have you asked boys out? If yes, how did it go?

Boys, do you like when girls do that or the idea of such a thing?? I.... might do that because there is a guy i like but he doesn't seem to pick up my signals! but OMG i am so nervous just thinking about it!! I guess that is how you feel huh??

Do it!

[sand900]

If she is my type then I wouldn't mind

[Zika]

That was a little harsh :D
But not untrue I admit :P

How was that harsh? I simply took Barbara.'s lead and used the male/female version of what she said. Interestingly, though not surprisingly, she hasn't responded

[Barbara.]

How was that harsh? I simply took Barbara.'s lead and used the male/female version of what she said. Interestingly, though not surprisingly, she hasn't responded
I have not responded because this is not a debate,but simply replying to the question.

[Zika]

I have not responded because this is not a debate,but simply replying to the question.

Excellent excuse.

[Karalectric]

Do it!

I did! Scroll up!!