I'm having trouble trusting my gf. Help me

[DonnyH]

Hey guys this is my first time so please help me. So I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 months now and I love her more than anything and she says she loves me too. We've been fighting almost all weekend and I don't know why. Anyway yesterday, on her birthday, her best friend sent me screenshots of a conversation between my gf and some guy. In those texts the guy said he liked her even though he know we were dating. She said she liked him too and wasn't sure if she liked me anymore. I confronted her and she said she messed up and she blocked him and otherwise explained it away pretty well. We've never had problems before but I'm having a pretty hard time trusting her right now and I don't know what to do. Please help me.

[jamie_n5]

I think you should be supportive for now. See how things go for a while. See if she warms up to you and really acts like she loves you. If you haven't had sex yet then maybe this would be the time to move on to that and see how she accepts that.

[ska8er]

She said she blocked him so take her
word for it. I would not argue with her
cause it is not going to help. If u feel
she is playing u then just tell her it is
not going to work but Id give her a
second chance.

[BlackParadePixie]

Hate to break it to you...but it probably won't last. Why even tell a guy that you're not sure about liking the guy you're currently dating...if it's not true?

You're right to be apprehensive. I would not trust her either.

[Jinglebottom]

I don't think she deserves a second chance. She's already confessed that she likes another guy better than you... so what's the point? I wouldn't risk it if I were you. For all you know, she could mess with him behind your back at some point down the line. It doesn't seem worth it to me. And the fact that after just one fight, she's suddenly questioning her love for you while confessing it for another guy, is a huge red flag and I think you should proceed with caution.

[DonnyH]

Thank you all for your help guys I broke up with her last night hoping that we would be better apart so we'll see how well it goes

[Uniquemind]

I don't think she deserves a second chance. She's already confessed that she likes another guy better than you... so what's the point? I wouldn't risk it if I were you. For all you know, she could mess with him behind your back at some point down the line. It doesn't seem worth it to me. And the fact that after just one fight, she's suddenly questioning her love for you while confessing it for another guy, is a huge red flag and I think you should proceed with caution.

But to play devil’s advocate: isn’t questioning and experiencing different attractions to many people normal for anybody? Isn’t maturity about how you handle internal emotional conflicts as you understand responsibility?

Your underlying message seems confusing to me as if to guilt trip someone for not meeting the ideal of a loyal romantic partner.

I’ll probably start another thread but I wanted to point this out.

I’m not condoning cheating though don’t misunderstand me though.

[Jinglebottom]

But to play devil’s advocate: isn’t questioning and experiencing different attractions to many people normal for anybody? Isn’t maturity about how you handle internal emotional conflicts as you understand responsibility?

Your underlying message seems confusing to me as if to guilt trip someone for not meeting the ideal of a loyal romantic partner.

I’ll probably start another thread but I wanted to point this out.

I’m not condoning cheating though don’t misunderstand me though.
Yes of course experiencing different attractions to many people is a normal thing (whether you are in a relationship or not), but, I believe you should hold off confessing your feelings for a person while you're already committed to someone else. That's kinda the point of being together in the first place, right? To be exclusive?

[WHATWOULDYOUDOFORLUV]

One of the top reasons a girl will cheat is if her boyfriend misses or messes up her birthday. It kind of depends who started the argument her birthday weekend. If the relationship is serious, Ive learned to forgive the birthday pass (if it's my fault)

Seriously, try to avoid this in the future.

[ChrisA1998]

Hey guys this is my first time so please help me. So I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 months now and I love her more than anything and she says she loves me too. We've been fighting almost all weekend and I don't know why. Anyway yesterday, on her birthday, her best friend sent me screenshots of a conversation between my gf and some guy. In those texts the guy said he liked her even though he know we were dating. She said she liked him too and wasn't sure if she liked me anymore. I confronted her and she said she messed up and she blocked him and otherwise explained it away pretty well. We've never had problems before but I'm having a pretty hard time trusting her right now and I don't know what to do. Please help me.
Sorry to tell you that, but if she did it once, especially that apparently she had no reason to, she might do it again
I dont know how you could trust her after that