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thatboi
January 1st, 2019, 12:27 PM
(English isn't my native language so forgive me any mistakes I might have made)

My love life is a bit complicated right now as I'm gay and not everyone who might be gay is out of closet (even I am not). I have a very good friend of mine and I know him since we were 9 or 10. Yesterday he written to me that "now things will be as we both want them to be" and then few messages further he called me "darling". From last 2 years I was supposing that he may be gay. Now I'm pretty sure he really is as we began to get really close to each other a year ago. But there's a boy who I met on some kind of get-to-know lgbt group and I have known him for 1 week. We are still writing with to each other. However it's much more uncomfortable for me now than it was on the first or second day. It began to be uncomfortable as he told me he is painting his nails on pink or rainbow colors and that he does make up. I like to date/meet more masculine guys and my friend is one of them. I want to finish this internet relationship but I want it to be nice and polite as he wrote to me that his life has no sense, he is ugly, and his parents are alcoholic, everyone in his town calls him a fag and he has no life in school. I don't want to make him kill himself or smth like this I just want to break up nicely and politely. Also we live very far from each other so we even will probably never meet.

ska8er
January 1st, 2019, 12:34 PM
Stay with the friend u know in person
but tell ur online friend that u want it to
b a friendship and nothing more but that
u will b there for support if he needs it. I
don't think there is anything more u can
say or do.

jamie_n5
January 1st, 2019, 05:07 PM
Well as ska8er said stay with your friend and maybe move on to a relationship with him.
This other guy sounds like bad news and you should ends things with him. Just message him and tell him that you are not interested in any more of a relationship with him and you need to end things. Tell him you are about to start a relationship with someone else. Now just go for a relationship with your friend and be happy.

Oscar-V3.0
January 1st, 2019, 08:45 PM
Just tell your internet friend that he is cool, but he is not your style (the nail paints, clothes, etc)
If you feel more secure and more comfortable with your real life friend, go with it

thatboi
January 2nd, 2019, 02:50 PM
UPDATE: I'm still writing with him however it went much less romantic than in the begging and he stopped being romantic too. So I will just wait to the moment it ends up.