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Hillary
December 30th, 2018, 10:37 AM
Throughout our meetings at work, this man who always chooses to sit right next to me. He and I are friends, but he also has other friends that he knows well within the group that he could have sat next to. Yet, he continues to sit by me, even when there are other seats available. I've tried moving to different spots, but he follows me and still finds a way to sit next to me. If other people are sitting by me and he isn't able to get a spot next to me, he'll stare at me when he thinks I'm not looking. He also mirrors my body language while looking and listening to other people. If I sit back in my chair, he sits back in his chair a 3 seconds later. Or , if I rest my hand by my neck, he'll do the same right after me. He's married and I'm single. Why is he always trying to sit next to me?

SethfromMI
December 30th, 2018, 10:40 AM
I hate to assume the worse, but even though he is married, he still may be interested in you/want to do things with you. Maybe he is just being horribly obnoxious but, I would let him know what he is doing is not appreciated and if he continues you will report him to the supervisor, HR, where ever you have to.

ska8er
December 30th, 2018, 04:47 PM
Seems like he is a stalker. Hes married-don't
get mixed up with him. Ur other posts seem
that u might b interested. Id get away from
him as fast as possible before a lot of people
get hurt.

PlasmaHam
December 30th, 2018, 05:34 PM
In my experience, if a guy makes a conceited effort to sit beside a girl, it's because he's interested in her. I'll admit that I'm sometimes guilty of it myself with a girl I like at college. Given that this guy is married, I would like to just assume he just likes you as a friend and has a hard time demonstrating it, however if you confront him about it and he implies that is not the case, then I would definitely make it clear you are not interested, and possibly report him to a higher-up if he continues.

Naturelover
December 31st, 2018, 12:31 PM
maybe he wants to stalk (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stalking) you

Pultost
December 31st, 2018, 02:16 PM
There's a guy that sits next to me every single day, no exception. But, he's my classmate, and that's the seat he got, so what can I do? xD

jamie_n5
January 1st, 2019, 05:13 PM
Sounds like he is interested in you and you obviously know that is a wrong and bad thing to get into. You could tell him flat out that he bothers you and that you don't want him around you anymore and that you definitely would not have any relationship with him if he has that intention. Be strong and stand up for yourself. If it gets worse or anything I think you should go to your boss or supervisor about it.

Karalectric
January 3rd, 2019, 12:09 PM
At first i was like, awwwww cute he definitely likes you. But then I read the end where you said he was MARRIED and the alarms went off!! Tell him to back off!! If he doesn't, talk to someone higher up.