giving this a try

[arnorway]

so i have a crush on a girl from church i know little about. i know her first name and that she isn't from my village but have no clue where she's from. she is visiting her grandparents most weekends with her family and they all go to church together. i do greet her (like a quick "hi") and we have exchanged a sentence or two a few times. we do smile at each other when we look at another, which i think means she might like me back. but i'm very shy in person and get nervous around her. even if i could get over that, i also often tent my pants around her, which i try to hide by wearing baggy pants, but still feel weird about for having trying to chat her up - if i found the courage to actually do that.
any advice? (other than: ignore your shyness and go talk to her!)
ps: thanks to Natacha for the encouraging messages about this earlier today :)

[SethfromMI]

I mean, part of breaking down the shyness is forcing yourself to talk to her. Maybe try getting her number, facebook, or something like that and try getting to know her that way as well. Then when you do see her in person, you will know each other better and feel more comfortable.

[arnorway]

I mean, part of breaking down the shyness is forcing yourself to talk to her. Maybe try getting her number, facebook, or something like that and try getting to know her that way as well. Then when you do see her in person, you will know each other better and feel more comfortable.

thanks, but how do i get her number/whatever without talking to her? as far as i know, we don't have any common friends and it's not like i could ask my mom or dad to ask her grandparents or something :confused: even if we had common friends, i wouldn't ask them for her number either, quite honestly

[SethfromMI]

thanks, but how do i get her number/whatever without talking to her? as far as i know, we don't have any common friends and it's not like i could ask my mom or dad to ask her grandparents or something :confused: even if we had common friends, i wouldn't ask them for her number either, quite honestly

do you know her last name? does she have Facebook or something? maybe that's a better way. If not, maybe you will have to talk to her to at least say "want to text sometime?" Unfortunately, you're in a position where you only have so many options. I will say the more you talk with someone, a lot of times the easier it becomes.

[arnorway]

do you know her last name? does she have Facebook or something? maybe that's a better way. If not, maybe you will have to talk to her to at least say "want to text sometime?" Unfortunately, you're in a position where you only have so many options. I will say the more you talk with someone, a lot of times the easier it becomes.

no, i don't know her last name

[SethfromMI]

no, i don't know her last name

I mean, you are going to have to start talking to her to some extent, otherwise you will never get to know her and there is not going to be any progress in the relationship. I am sorry but that's how it works

[Oscar-V3.0]

things are not gonna happen by themselves by magic, you gotta make them happen. So you overcome your shyness, and you launch yourself at going talk to her. I'm not saying it's easy, but now you're a big boy, so you have to take matters in hand :)

[TRAbitha13]

Just be upfront and ask her, after you talk to her for a little bit. If she doesnt give you a straight answer, forget about her imo

[arnorway]

Just be upfront and ask her, after you talk to her for a little bit. If she doesnt give you a straight answer, forget about her imo

what should i ask her?

[Oscar-V3.0]

what should i ask her?
Start talking with her about school, or favorite subject, what sport she plays or what leisures, what kind of movies or tv series or music she likes... Anything that can make her think you are interested in her ;)

[WHATWOULDYOUDOFORLUV]

I have pale skin. I cannot do any sort of public speaking. In similar situations my heart races so much my speech gets choked up while I look like a tomato ,and that's when I already know what I'm going to say. Um...um.. awkward silence..

I feel for you..I just took a public speaking class in order to combat this.. I got a job as a waiter just to get used to speaking to people I've never met before.

You are deffinately not alone.
I got lucky in the that the girl I was talking to got flattered that some body could get so choked up over her. I got her phone number. I couldn't hit the call button til the tenth attempt.
If her eyes smiled back have confidence she will talk to you. Confidence.

Good luck

[Pultost]

Ask her if she'd like to go somewhere with you (cafe or whatever), what's the worst thing that could happen? You might want to take care of your "tent" before you do, though.

[arnorway]

You might want to take care of your "tent" before you do, though.

not really possible at church but thanks :P

[Pultost]

not really possible at church but thanks :P

Ah, yeah, it probably wouldn't be appropriate. xD

[arnorway]

Ah, yeah, it probably wouldn't be appropriate. xD

but i will try to hide it best i can :P

[Pultost]

but i will try to hide it best i can :P

Good idea, or think about something boring. ;)

[arnorway]

Good idea, or think about something boring. ;)

like math? ;-)

[Pultost]

like math? ;-)

That's certainly boring enough, give it a try. xD

[arnorway]

thanks for the support, i would not have talked to her without the help from on here. so yes, we talked after church. not for long, her family wanted to leave. i asked if she wanted my phone number and she did. and she already texted me yay :D

[MasonBA]

thanks for the support, i would not have talked to her without the help from on here. so yes, we talked after church. not for long, her family wanted to leave. i asked if she wanted my phone number and she did. and she already texted me yay :D

Fantastic news!