Forever Alone?

[AndreaMaeBaby]

I've had one boyfriend, kinda. I've never been kissed, and guys are always looking at me like I'm nothing more than a piece of ass. I've tried to meet people, make guy friends. But its always the same thing. They want FWB or a hump and dump chick. It really gets on my self esteem, and lately I feel like shit.

I'm an active roleplayer in an online community which I wont name (just to keep my RP world private) and recently, a new boy joined. He immediately made himself known among the RPers, and has joined multiple stories. Well, last night, our characters were "shipped".

Here's whats botheirng me about that.

When I RP, I make my character as similar to myself as I possibly can, and in this specific RP, the only difference between myself and my character, is the name.

Why do people love my personality when they can't see my body, but as soon as they see that I have boobs, they decide that all they want to do is fuck me?

I feel like I'm just nothing.

I've never had a guy look at me and say "you're beautiful" and I've never met a guy who was more interested in my personality than my body.

I just hate knowing that no guy out there sees me as anything more than a sex toy.

[MechaSniper]

I don't have to see you to know your beautiful. The human body is like a vessel. people dont realize the box dosent matter. its whats on the inside. like twinkies.

[Melodic]

I get where you're coming from. I've had to deal with the same thing, shoot I still have to deal with it sometimes..

But not all guys just/ or even want that. There are plenty of guys who want a good personality and heart. It may take time to find one, but you'll find him eventually.

[AndreaMaeBaby]

Oh my god, like Twinkies...that made me laugh

[MechaSniper]

Oh my god, like Twinkies...that made me laugh

I have one joke for you. Whats blackon the outside and everyone loves the filling?

Answer: oreos

[random canadian]

I don't have to see you to know your beautiful. The human body is like a vessel. people dont realize the box dosent matter. its whats on the inside. like twinkies.

That's awesome

[Synyster Shadows]

I don't know you or your personality but you seem like a nice person who has her priorities straight in terms of what to look for in a relationship. I promise you, someone out there is looking for someone just like you. Don't think you're forever alone. I used to have the same mindset and it made me so pessimistic. Stay positive. Someone is out there for you

[DiamondsGirl]

Andrea, you're beautiful. You are. You don't need a mirror to tell you that. Believe it or not, the reflection you see is only as beautiful as you want it to be. Everyone's beautiful in their own special way, and that's not always physical. I know someone who is... well, not exactly the kind of girl you'd call "hot". But she's a lively, friendly, kind-hearted person. She has more friends and admirers than anyone would have ever guessed :)

[giofighter]

I don't really know you Andrea but don't let a bunch of douchebags ruin your day. Maybe it'll take time to find the right or a right guy but you'll need a lot of patience. I am looking for the right one too but it's really difficult. Here, in my country we have a lot and i mean a lot of girls who are sluts and for a guy who's looking for a girl with nice personallity,beauty and smart it's almost impossible,so you just need a lot of patience. Just be patient ;)

[plebble]

Guys in your area are clearly dicks.

I personally am not interested in the body, I only go for personality. Hence why the only relationships I've had were online. Online relationships to me seem like the only legitimate ones that only happen from liking the other person and nothing to do with sex or anything physical. I'm just saying that like me, not all boys are in it for physical.

You're only 17, you've got like 60-70 years left, I guarantee you'll find someone, probably in your 20s. Teen relationships are mostly about sex anyway.

[ScottishCanary]

Really sorry to hear that you have come across guys who are dicks. Trust me there are plenty guys out there who are not all about personality. I also think age plays a part. Most straight teen boys view women as sex objects but they do grow up in their twenties and start caring more about personality than bra size. Until then just let your personality shine, it will do wonders. :)

[Saint]

That's how it is unfortunately. There are always going to be some people that want nothing more but FWB. Especially teenagers,but what you could do is to set boundaries and let another guy know that you're not going to be who they think you are. Just tell the guy off if he's coming onto you with the wrong intentions. And like what everyone else mentioned,a nice guy will stroll along and you'll know it when it happens.