Is this rape? Or abuse? Or just stupidity?

[tessa-]

Theoretical one
Say a girl is young like just became a teen and a guy is almost 18
If she feels she willingly had sex because he convinced her it was a good idea, that it was best she did it with someone like him who she can trust not to hurt her or tell anyone after they did it... because he’s someone like a brother or closest friend
Then after a few times he gets with someone else and strongly encourages the girl to get with his friend otherwise maybe she is really too young to hang with them and he’s a good guy etc and she goes along with it, her choice and the guys friend enjoys the girl like a toy

What is that?

[Maxbreak]

In the UK, sex is legal at 16. If a girl is 12 or under, the boy would be charged with rape, even if the girl says yes. 13 to 15, as well as rape, there is a crime of "sex with a minor", which is a lesser crime, but still a crime.
At the very best, the girl has been tricked and should get out. At worst the girl could bring police charges. Though it would depend on the rules of that country

[BlackParadePixie]

if the guy is 18... that's statutory rape. If not...why just "go along with it"? This person has a brain, and a voice. Say no.

[tessa-]

If it were that easy to say no...

[BlackParadePixie]

If it were that easy to say no...
It is. You're already questioning if doing what you're doing is worth it...so just don't go along with it.

[Oscar-V3.0]

If it were that easy to say no...
It is. If you dont feel ready for it or you don't want to for whatever reason, it is the thing to say.
You're probably afraid it will make him upset or that he gets angry or thinks you're not so cool, or even uptight or whatever. The thing is if he really cares about you, he will respect your choice. If he doesn't, that means he's not worth it it

[tessa-]

It is. If you dont feel ready for it or you don't want to for whatever reason, it is the thing to say.
You're probably afraid it will make him upset or that he gets angry or thinks you're not so cool, or even uptight or whatever. The thing is if he really cares about you, he will respect your choice. If he doesn't, that means he's not worth it it

So easy for a boy

[Oscar-V3.0]

So easy for a boy
Please enlighten me

[Katie2003]

If the boy is above the age of consent, and the girl is below that age, then it's rape and nothing can change that because she isn't able to give him permission even if she says she wants to and willingly participates, it's still a serious criminal offense for him.

It may be very naive on the part of the girl to allow it, no matter what her feelings were at the time. Some would say it's plain stupid on her part, but sometimes things are done out of curiosity, or even mistaken for love. That doesn't make a wrong thing right though.

[Zika]

So easy for a boy

Nothing about relationships is easier for a boy than a girl.
Standing up for yourself and having a backbone is not sex related.

I would imagine what this girl is struggling with is enjoying the attention her young body is buying, with what she feels in her gut is the right thing to do for herself.

At 13, she IS too young to hang with 18 year olds. The question is, how much is she willing to pay to have other kids see her with an 'older' guy and the social worth of that. She has a choice.

As for what that is legally, it depends on where you live, but in most places in the US, it would be considered statutory rape, or some version of that.

[tessa-]

Nothing about relationships is easier for a boy than a girl.
Standing up for yourself and having a backbone is not sex related.

I would imagine what this girl is struggling with is enjoying the attention her young body is buying, with what she feels in her gut is the right thing to do for herself.

At 13, she IS too young to hang with 18 year olds. The question is, how much is she willing to pay to have other kids see her with an 'older' guy and the social worth of that. She has a choice.

As for what that is legally, it depends on where you live, but in most places in the US, it would be considered statutory rape, or some version of that.

Of course it’s easier for a boy, especially for an older one

[RileyX]

sounds like manipulation and youre afraid of saying no because you feel guilty about something so what ever it is you gotta face it and say no, you shouldnt be treated like a toy

[Just JT]

Of course it’s easier for a boy, especially for an older one

No it’s not easier for a boy. Boys get raped allthe time. We just donttalk a outa it as much cause it’s a dirty like topic nobody wants to read about


But yeah it’s rape. He used his I f,hence anc coersjon to a manipulate an underage person to have sex

That’s wrong I.legal and rape regardless of whatgenderrapedwhat gender

[tessa-]

Makes do not get raped or sexually assaulted as often as females

[Zachary G]

technically it could be statutory rape, but it could also be bad judgement on the part of the girl because she didnt have to submit to the will of the guy, she could have said NO and walked away. There are so many factors here and so many different ways it could have turned out, its just hard to say.

[Maxbreak]

Makes do not get raped or sexually assaulted as often as females

That is true. Sadly in both cases, so often the reasons are different for not reporting it. For girls, it's the worry for either the shame that "she asked for it" when that genuinely wasn't the case, or just simply not the case. For boys, it's the stigma, especially if boy on boy.

In either case, I would still urge girl or boy to report it. Never believe you are in the wrong

[BlackParadePixie]

I would still urge girl or boy to report it. Never believe you are in the wrong

I really don't think this is the right course of action. The girl is going along with it...is it for stupid reasons? Yes, probably...but she's still agreeing to give herself up and do it...and obviously getting something in return. Social status? Ability to hang with the "older" crowd...? I don't know. That's way different than being forcibly taken against your will.

I think its wrong to turn around and try to cry rape just because you feel dirty about something stupid you did.

I know that may not be a very popular opinion in today's hashtag culture...but I'm sorry, that's just the way I feel.

[tessa-]

I really don't think this is the right course of action. The girl is going along with it...is it for stupid reasons? Yes, probably...but she's still agreeing to give herself up and do it...and obviously getting something in return. Social status? Ability to hang with the "older" crowd...? I don't know. That's way different than being forcibly taken against your will.

I think its wrong to turn around and try to cry rape just because you feel dirty about something stupid you did.

I know that may not be a very popular opinion in today's hashtag culture...but I'm sorry, that's just the way I feel.

I understand what you’re saying
Just trying to understand a situation not accuse anyone

[The Good Kid]

In the US, this would be statutory rape if the girl were under 16 and/or the guy was over 18.

But also, in this case, the girl willingly had sex with him and that makes it a tad bit more complicated.

In the end, statutory rape is still rape, a law was still violated.

[TRAbitha13]

Theoretical one
Say a girl is young like just became a teen and a guy is almost 18
If she feels she willingly had sex because he convinced her it was a good idea, that it was best she did it with someone like him who she can trust not to hurt her or tell anyone after they did it... because he’s someone like a brother or closest friend
Then after a few times he gets with someone else and strongly encourages the girl to get with his friend otherwise maybe she is really too young to hang with them and he’s a good guy etc and she goes along with it, her choice and the guys friend enjoys the girl like a toy

What is that?

Since he is way older than u, i think that is very fair to you. Its like he took advantage of you. Im sry to hear that.

[Zika]

Of course it’s easier for a boy, especially for an older one

What about relationships is easier for a boy?

I agree, the older party, male or female usually has an advantage at this age.

Makes do not get raped or sexually assaulted as often as females

Overall that's slightly true. If you include all the rapes in prisons, which occur overwhelmingly to men, the gap narrows considerably.

In the US, this would be statutory rape if the girl were under 16 and/or the guy was over 18.

But also, in this case, the girl willingly had sex with him and that makes it a tad bit more complicated.

In the end, statutory rape is still rape, a law was still violated.

The statutory age is not 16 in every state. Some are lower, a couple are higher. Most states now have an "age difference" with an absolute minimum age as a definition of statutory rape.

That she had sex willingly doesn't make it more complicated. It's what distinguishes rape from statutory rape.


The OP asked "what is this." I don't know if she's asking what it is legally, or what it reflects about the girl.

I believe it would constitute statutory rape in all states at least because of the age difference.

What it reflect about her is a bit more complicated. What it clearly is, is poor judgement on her part. It probably also is her exploring the value of her sexual currency with boys and how she can improve her social standing with her female friends. She's learning to use her body and gender to get things.

Posts merged. Use the multi quote button next time. ~Mars

[Dmaxd123]

I would say a very hard lesson learned, but not even close to a friend to put you into that situation so a few lessons learned

[tessa-]

Overall that's slightly true. If you include all the rapes in prisons, which occur overwhelmingly to men, the gap narrows considerably.

No. Not slightly true. Totally true. Females are sexually assaulted at a far higher rate.
Yes a lot of horrible assaults occur in prisons. As prisoners only account for a tiny segment of the population it’s barely relevant

Way to excuse an issue because you feel left out as a male

The statutory age is not 16 in every state. Some are lower, a couple are higher. Most states now have an "age difference" with an absolute minimum age as a definition of statutory rape.

That she had sex willingly doesn't make it more complicated. It's what distinguishes rape from statutory rape.


The OP asked "what is this." I don't know if she's asking what it is legally, or what it reflects about the girl.

I believe it would constitute statutory rape in all states at least because of the age difference.

What it reflect about her is a bit more complicated. What it clearly is, is poor judgement on her part. It probably also is her exploring the value of her sexual currency with boys and how she can improve her social standing with her female friends. She's learning to use her body and gender to get things.

Oh screw it
It was me okay
My brother with help of his gf got me to have sex with his friend because they thought it would be cool and solve the “third wheel” issue / him being annoyed / keep him happy or not jealous because he holds the best parties, has a boat etc
Never mind he’s almost 18 and I just turned 13 and still really look 12ish

I’m an idiot I get it
I was made to feel mature and special and I was stupid

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[Maxbreak]

Oh screw it
It was me okay
My brother with help of his gf got me to have sex with his friend because they thought it would be cool and solve the “third wheel” issue / him being annoyed / keep him happy or not jealous because he holds the best parties, has a boat etc
Never mind he’s almost 18 and I just turned 13 and still really look 12ish

I’m an idiot I get it
I was made to feel mature and special and I was stupid

Please do not feel that you are an idiot. Weather deliberate or not, they took advantage of you. even if they were misguided and though it was something u wanted they were wrong. Or even made you think at the time they were wrong. Ur bro is older than U and took advantage.

The first step to accept U did nothing wrong. Only then can you start to move on. Only then can you figure out if what they did was deliberate or misguided.
U have to learn to love yourself and put yourself first. What has happened has happened. Weather or not you forgive them is up to you. At the very least make them understand that they hurt u, and see if they are truly sorry.
I hope that U can take time to think of yourself and move on

[tessa-]

Thanks it’s just too much to deal with but people here have really helped

[nudiegurl13]

Oh screw it
It was me okay
My brother with help of his gf got me to have sex with his friend because they thought it would be cool and solve the “third wheel” issue / him being annoyed / keep him happy or not jealous because he holds the best parties, has a boat etc
Never mind he’s almost 18 and I just turned 13 and still really look 12ish

I’m an idiot I get it
I was made to feel mature and special and I was stupid

You're not an idiot. Being nearly adults, your brother and his girlfriend shouldn't have pressured you into having sex for their convenience. You should be able to have sex when you feel ready, not when others think you're ready. I think sex should be a decision between the people engaging in it, not others. I'm sorry this happened to you. You should definitely let your parents or another adult you trust know what's going on with your brother.

[Zika]

No. Not slightly true. Totally true. Females are sexually assaulted at a far higher rate.
Yes a lot of horrible assaults occur in prisons. As prisoners only account for a tiny segment of the population it’s barely relevant

Way to excuse an issue because you feel left out as a male

haha I "feel left out as a male?" I lol'd at the stupidity of that statement.
It seems quite the opposite; you as a female have a victim mentality.

Yes, prisoners account for only a small segment of the population and the number of females who are raped are only a small segment of the population.

look up the numbers. While far fewer males than females are raped in free society, when you include prison rapes, the numbers are much closer. Still more women than men, but not by a lot.

I work from facts, not political agendas.

Oh screw it
It was me okay
My brother with help of his gf got me to have sex with his friend because they thought it would be cool and solve the “third wheel” issue / him being annoyed / keep him happy or not jealous because he holds the best parties, has a boat etc
Never mind he’s almost 18 and I just turned 13 and still really look 12ish

I’m an idiot I get it
I was made to feel mature and special and I was stupid


That your brother put you up to this is absolutely outrageous. I'm loathe to suggest putting a wedge between siblings, but you shouldn't trust your brother in the future. at. all.

You were flattered by the attention of older boys and the thought that you were of interest to them. That's normal. It happens to a lot of younger people....in any age range.

You may not like to hear this, but (almost) no 13 year old girl is mature enough to be of legit interest to a mature 18 year old guy. So if an older guy is paying attention to you, it would be best to assume they're trying to play you. That's no reflection on you; you're 13. Stick with 13-15 year olds.
If a 15 year old boy makes you feel special and is not pushing for sex, you can probably trust that his feelings are sincere.

I don't know what to say about your brother. He used you, betrayed you and facilitated a predator. You have every right to be angry with him. I don't know if you can express that to him. I doubt you want to get your parents involved.

I would just suggest you stay out of his social circle. Don't be too impressed by his great parties. They may be impressive to a 13 year old, but at 18, they're not that big a deal.

I can't read the op, but as I recall, you said you had sex with one boy and then he got you to have sex with another. Am I right in assuming neither of the boys you had sex with are you brother?

btw, IF the pics you've posted are really you, you may want to consider taking them down.

Posts merged. Use the multi quote button next time. ~Mars

[tessa-]

haha I "feel left out as a male?" I lol'd at the stupidity of that statement.
It seems quite the opposite; you as a female have a victim mentality.

Yes, prisoners account for only a small segment of the population and the number of females who are raped are only a small segment of the population.

look up the numbers. While far fewer males than females are raped in free society, when you include prison rapes, the numbers are much closer. Still more women than men, but not by a lot.

I work from facts, not political agendas.

Clearly not the case

[Zika]

Clearly not the case

Do you realize that reply is empty?

You should be able to do better than that; after all, you're not really 13.

[tessa-]

I am and you’re just mean

[Maxbreak]

haha I "feel left out as a male?" I lol'd at the stupidity of that statement.
It seems quite the opposite; you as a female have a victim mentality.

Yes, prisoners account for only a small segment of the population and the number of females who are raped are only a small segment of the population.

look up the numbers. While far fewer males than females are raped in free society, when you include prison rapes, the numbers are much closer. Still more women than men, but not by a lot.

I work from facts, not political agendas.

It's a shame, but I think more women are raped in the real world than would come forward. The court system brings up so many bad things and tries to put the woman in a bad light. At one point in the UK the conviction rate was only 4%. Does that mean 96% of females were lying?

I'd treat prison separately. Yeah I've heard some truly horrific stories in both male and female prisons, but that's the weirdos for U. It's partly skewed by the fact prisons are not mixed (though in some ways that would be worse!)

[Sailor Mars]

Keep this thread on topic. Insults and unnecessary comments will be removed, as it is completely uncalled for in this section of the forums. ~Mars

[Uniquemind]

Theoretical one
Say a girl is young like just became a teen and a guy is almost 18
If she feels she willingly had sex because he convinced her it was a good idea, that it was best she did it with someone like him who she can trust not to hurt her or tell anyone after they did it... because he’s someone like a brother or closest friend
Then after a few times he gets with someone else and strongly encourages the girl to get with his friend otherwise maybe she is really too young to hang with them and he’s a good guy etc and she goes along with it, her choice and the guys friend enjoys the girl like a toy

What is that?


To be honest, this is entirely messed up.

I don’t really consider something done of one’s freewill if there is a significant amount of leverage or influence encouraging a specific course of action.

In this case I’d not focus on the emotionality of internal conflict for things that already happened, I’d focus on the present and future of where you want to go.


The first step would be to get an STD and STI check, especially if it risky sex, and if you describe the situation where the girl was treated like a toy, that doesn’t sound medically safe or a good time.

Get a pregnancy test too, a couple of em.




I can’t go into specifics but the best encounters I’ve had, were instances where I felt save and not pressured into anything. The actual encounters if I were to describe them in adjectives where: calm, focused, loved, communicative, slow, and silky.

If you are being intimate with anybody other than pure internal motivating factors such as the need to attain status or material things, it’s quite possible you’ll be hurt at the end of the experience.


In regards to the physical feeling of having sex, good or bad, those sensations can mess with your head, even more so if you are put into a sexual experience before you are ready. Are you struggling with that aspect of the Experience?


Also try to judge a guy on a case by case basis, it help prevent 1 sexually traumatic experience tainting the ability to socialize and flirt with other guys who might be very healthy relationships for you. But recognize signs of PTSD in yourself should they be developing in your head.


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TLDR; in my view you were raped, the emotional confusion take-away inherent in your OP makes this very clear to me.

I’m also not going to say the age Gap is the cause, since this implies boys age 13-17 aren’t just as manipulative to get girls into bed for sex.

It can happen at any age, and I don’t want to marginalize those who feel they were raped when only a 1-4 year age gap was present.

[ChloeF]

[QUOTE=Zika;3754887]haha I "feel left out as a male?" I lol'd at the stupidity of that statement.
It seems quite the opposite; you as a female have a victim mentality.

Yes, prisoners account for only a small segment of the population and the number of females who are raped are only a small segment of the population.

look up the numbers. While far fewer males than females are raped in free society, when you include prison rapes, the numbers are much closer. Still more women than men, but not by a lot.

I work from facts, not political agendas.
Some ''facts'' to back up your assertion would be good.
Given the very small percentage of the male population in prison, what you're suggesting is absurd.

[ChrisA1998]

Theoretical one
Say a girl is young like just became a teen and a guy is almost 18
If she feels she willingly had sex because he convinced her it was a good idea, that it was best she did it with someone like him who she can trust not to hurt her or tell anyone after they did it... because he’s someone like a brother or closest friend
Then after a few times he gets with someone else and strongly encourages the girl to get with his friend otherwise maybe she is really too young to hang with them and he’s a good guy etc and she goes along with it, her choice and the guys friend enjoys the girl like a toy

What is that?

technically it is not rape because he did not force you.

However, I'd say he definitely took advantage of you. You are younger, this love thing is new to you, while he probably has more experience, and it is so easy for an older boy to put pressure on a younger girl.

the single fact he asks you not to tell anyone you did it, proves he is pretty much aware he did something wrong

and telling someone to "get with his friend otherwise maybe she is really too young to hang with them" , I call that blackmail. Purely and simply. This is definitely not a healthy relationship, I would go as far as "toxic", so the best you can do is get out of it

[tessa-]

technically it is not rape because he did not force you.

However, I'd say he definitely took advantage of you. You are younger, this love thing is new to you, while he probably has more experience, and it is so easy for an older boy to put pressure on a younger girl.

the single fact he asks you not to tell anyone you did it, proves he is pretty much aware he did something wrong

and telling someone to "get with his friend otherwise maybe she is really too young to hang with them" , I call that blackmail. Purely and simply. This is definitely not a healthy relationship, I would go as far as "toxic", so the best you can do is get out of it

I did
It kind of blew up in a big way with parents catching etc

[Zika]

I did
It kind of blew up in a big way with parents catching etc

Did your parents catch you with your brother or with the second guy?

[WHATWOULDYOUDOFORLUV]

No. Not slightly true. Totally true. Females are sexually assaulted at a far higher rate.
Yes a lot of horrible assaults occur in prisons. As prisoners only account for a tiny segment of the population it’s barely relevant

Way to excuse an issue because you feel left out as a male



Oh screw it
It was me okay
My brother with help of his gf got me to have sex with his friend because they thought it would be cool and solve the “third wheel” issue / him being annoyed / keep him happy or not jealous because he holds the best parties, has a boat etc
Never mind he’s almost 18 and I just turned 13 and still really look 12ish

I’m an idiot I get it
I was made to feel mature and special and I was stupid

Posts merged. Use the multi quote button next time. ~Mars
Older brothers are supposed to protect the virtues of little sisters , not p☆mp them out. He's an a**hat for doing that.
That's why there are laws to prevent the manipulation of inexperienced teens.. you did nothing wrong but trust someone you thought was trustworthy.
If I did that to my little sister , holy hell would rain down on my head.. I hope he gets the same. Something comparable to the trauma you suffered.. Good luck.

[tessa-]

Older brothers are supposed to protect the virtues of little sisters , not p☆mp them out. He's an a**hat for doing that.
That's why there are laws to prevent the manipulation of inexperienced teens.. you did nothing wrong but trust someone you thought was trustworthy.
If I did that to my little sister , holy hell would rain down on my head.. I hope he gets the same. Something comparable to the trauma you suffered.. Good luck.

Thank you
You sound like a good brother

[tessa-]

Did your parents catch you with your brother or with the second guy?


Bro with his gf, his friend on me

[Zika]

Bro with his gf, his friend on me

I take it they had more of an issue with you than your bro?

were you doing it in the same room?

do they know your brother did you first?

[Gabrielle1]

Thanks it’s just too much to deal with but people here have really helped

I’m here for you anytime and anything you need you deserve better what he did was wrong and if I were him I’d be ashamed of myself.

[Maxbreak]

I did
It kind of blew up in a big way with parents catching etc

Did you tell parents or did they actually catch the 4 of you together?

[tessa-]

Did you tell parents or did they actually catch the 4 of you together?

They caught us and saw what he was doing to me and it kind of exploded and mom took me away from it

[Maxbreak]

They caught us and saw what he was doing to me and it kind of exploded and mom took me away from it

Do U now feel better that Ur mum got U out of that situation?

[tessa-]

Do U now feel better that Ur mum got U out of that situation?

Definitely, both of my parents
It just got real ugly after

[Maxbreak]

Definitely, both of my parents
It just got real ugly after

I hope things are getting better, and a better new year for U.

[tessa-]

Thanks you too <3

[RileyX]

They caught us and saw what he was doing to me and it kind of exploded and mom took me away from it

Oh dang that wouldve been interesting, at least youre out of that situation now

[tessa-]

Oh dang that wouldve been interesting, at least youre out of that situation now

Yeah I was a literal mess (stuff on me and tears) and she pulled me away and dad was (verbally) ripping the others a new one and chased the boy out of the house, he ran to his car holding his clothes still nude and raced off

[RileyX]

Yeah I was a literal mess (stuff on me and tears) and she pulled me away and dad was (verbally) ripping the others a new one and chased the boy out of the house, he ran to his car holding his clothes still nude and raced off

I dont know how old he was but even for your brother and his gf they shouldve known thats not what you wanted, its just not okay, and it sounds really bad the way he was treating you, im glad you were caught, it saved you from being stuck in that horrible position

[tessa-]

I dont know how old he was but even for your brother and his gf they shouldve known thats not what you wanted, its just not okay, and it sounds really bad the way he was treating you, im glad you were caught, it saved you from being stuck in that horrible position

It did save me yes
My bro and his friend are almost 18, my bros gf is almost 16
It was different at first
It was exciting and sexy and he made me feel special and was gentle
But by the end I felt like a toy
He didn’t have feelings for me, i was easily duped because I was so naive

[RileyX]

It did save me yes
My bro and his friend are almost 18, my bros gf is almost 16
It was different at first
It was exciting and sexy and he made me feel special and was gentle
But by the end I felt like a toy
He didn’t have feelings for me, i was easily duped because I was so naive

I find when you first start doing things its always exciting and you get really caught up in it, im not sure why he changed and started using you like a toy, i guess that just says something abput who he is, at least you now know that people arent always what they seem to be, i still cant get over him using you, it drives me crazy knowing that this happens to people, like he should go and find someone he likes, not abuse someone who is 5 years younger, (side note, hopefully i can get to 100 posts soon so that we could talk more privately cause its a touchy subject)

[tessa-]

I find when you first start doing things its always exciting and you get really caught up in it, im not sure why he changed and started using you like a toy, i guess that just says something abput who he is, at least you now know that people arent always what they seem to be, i still cant get over him using you, it drives me crazy knowing that this happens to people, like he should go and find someone he likes, not abuse someone who is 5 years younger, (side note, hopefully i can get to 100 posts soon so that we could talk more privately cause its a touchy subject)

I’d be happy to PM you when you hit 100
You can get there really quick by answering lots of polls etc

[Gabrielle1]

I find when you first start doing things its always exciting and you get really caught up in it, im not sure why he changed and started using you like a toy, i guess that just says something abput who he is, at least you now know that people arent always what they seem to be, i still cant get over him using you, it drives me crazy knowing that this happens to people, like he should go and find someone he likes, not abuse someone who is 5 years younger, (side note, hopefully i can get to 100 posts soon so that we could talk more privately cause its a touchy subject)

Same here because you deserve better. Why boys and men can’t treat us better idk we are not sex toys or sex slaves we are people to we also have feelings. If you want a sex you go buy your self a sex doll.

[Zika]

Definitely, both of my parents
It just got real ugly after

What did your parents say to your brother? were they aware he put you up to it?
Were they aware of your involvement with him?

How did they take you away from it.

You did get duped, but not because you're stupid, but bec you're 13 and they're 18.
I'm more concerned that your brother is predatory, than I am of the boy you got caught with.
It's not uncommon for people to take advantage of others to get what they want. It is uncommon, and terrible for a sibling to use a younger sibling the way your brother did, both sexually and him hooking you up with his friend.

Is the situation safer for you now?
I hope it is.

[RileyX]

I’d be happy to PM you when you hit 100
You can get there really quick by answering lots of polls etc

I noticed but im not on here all the time and sometimes i have no comment on peoples' posts

[Oscar-V3.0]

I noticed but im not on here all the time and sometimes i have no comment on peoples' posts
There are plenty of sections on the forums, so you can reach 100 quickly (but hey, no spamming lol)

[vandilization]

I'm not sure where you're located but in pretty much all states sex with anyone under 16 at the very least is illegal. Not only that, but he would be trying to play with your emotions by telling you "you're not cool enough to hang with them". You would be the better person by telling him to get lost.

[Kazuki-San]

That would be classified as Child Sexual Exploitation. The mark, or girl, would be baited into giving permission for sex and the man would gradually get into the girl's mind. Slowly but surely making her trust him and other friends of his. When actually, it may just be human trafficking or even worse. CSE Cease foundation helps with this.