Expensive Clothes

[benlodge123]

My girlfriend (Yna) was flexing her friends Champion jumper today that her boyfriend had given to her. Yna said "i wish you could buy me a Champion jumper". Knowing that i barely have enough cash to buy my family presents or pay for my driving lessons. It sparked a disappointed feeling in me. I wish i could buy her a champion jumper but she is clearly expecting me to buy her one. She claims that the "material is better" than for example a jumper from Nike etc. 100% cotton is 100% cotton. I told her that she needs understand that i cant always buy her expensive stuff. For christmas I got her an oversized hoody from ASOS which was £25 and the Ariana Grande Perfume which was £30 so i spend £55 on her and now she is saying how much she wants me to get her a champion jumper. I CANNOT DO IT. Its driving me insane :( I would love to buy her one but I need to buy my own things first.

The bottom line is I feel like Yna is admiring that fact that her friend Jordanne can be given an expensive item of clothing by her boyfriend Oscar and immediatly thinks that i should do the same. :(

Any help on the situation? Its close to christmas and i may have sparked an argument but actually telling her that she should admire Oscars expensive tastes in clothes until I can do i can buy her stuff.

[ska8er]

Tell her u cant compete with Oscar. Does she
like u for u or for the stuff she can get from u?
U have to rethink that and b realistic. I think
what u bought for her is very nice and she
should appreciate it and say thanks. Don't
buy her love cause it never works out.

[Shiny Moon]

She needs to understand that you have to spend your money in other things first, and that you can't buy everything she wants.

To be honest, to me it sounds like she's pretty spoiled. How old is she actually? If she's old enough she should be able to understand your situation.

Btw, don't feel bad about it, you do what you can with the money that you have. You already spent some money on her gifts. You're not the problem here, the real problem is her attitude.

[tessa-]

Sounds like a vain, vapid gold digger
I’d ditch her before she costs you too much money and energy

[DarkKnight16]

Yeah, it do sound like she is spoiled. She should know your situation and shouldn't be like that towards you. But I know the feeling when you want to get your girl what she wants but dont have the means for it just yet.

[tessa-]

She’s using you

[InternetTeen]

I wouldn't get her the jumper. She sounds spoiled and is using you for expensive items.

[SethfromMI]

Explain to her as much as you would like to if you could, you simply cannot. I would also be upfront with her about the way she made you feel. That is a very disrespectful thing to do on her part, as others have been saying, a very spoiled thing to say. I understand you want what you want. I even understand certain brands fit better and are made of a better quality. It is one thing if you asked her specifically, but to just come out and do that. Try not to feel bad about it. It is not your fault. She has to learn. I would also make sure she isn't just try to use you. What is more important to her: you or what she thinks she can get out of you.