Expectations with my bros buddy

[tessa-]

I was really into it at first so I probably set the expectation
But my bro and his gf usually have me go on dates with them because his buddy usually tags along too
I feel I’m expected to be his gf or his ongoing friend with benefits because I let him do stuff before
I know they get excited about being in the same place or car getting it on

Just started to feel a bit trapped
What can I do?

[Karalectric]

It should be okay to say no. If your brother truly cared for you, he would respect your feelings on that.

[Maxbreak]

Never do anything ypu dont want to. If you go alomg with it they might think you are even enjoying it. Tell them how you feel. You have the right to say no.

[ashleigh7]

It should be okay to say no. If your brother truly cared for you, he would respect your feelings on that.

Yes exactly this above.

[Oscar-V3.0]

I was really into it at first so I probably set the expectation
But my bro and his gf usually have me go on dates with them because his buddy usually tags along too
I feel I’m expected to be his gf or his ongoing friend with benefits because I let him do stuff before
I know they get excited about being in the same place or car getting it on

Just started to feel a bit trapped
What can I do?
I take it that basically your brother is trying to have you date his friend?

[NudistFun]

I was really into it at first so I probably set the expectation
But my bro and his gf usually have me go on dates with them because his buddy usually tags along too
I feel I’m expected to be his gf or his ongoing friend with benefits because I let him do stuff before
I know they get excited about being in the same place or car getting it on

Just started to feel a bit trapped
What can I do?

Definitely talk to your bro and let him know how you feel. A good brother will hear you and stop asking you to be the fourth with their friend.

[BlackParadePixie]

Ummmm stop what you've been doing, and just say you don't want to do it anymore.

[JakeMakes]

Ummmm stop what you've been doing, and just say you don't want to do it anymore.

This!

[Jordan99]

Tessa, it's easy!!! Just stop hanging out with them!

[ska8er]

Don't go with them.

[RileyX]

You dont have to do anything you dont want to do, also you can still hang out with them if you want, just dont do what you dont want to do, peer pressure is hard but its really down to you

[SethfromMI]

Ummmm stop what you've been doing, and just say you don't want to do it anymore.

this. if your brother is a true brother who loves you, he will understand you, respect you, and even defend your decision to not want to be a part of it anymore.

[Zika]

did you post this before or after the other one?

[Naters2000]

There should be absolutely zero expectations for you to do anything with this boy. Your brother should not force this on you, it's incredibly wrong and insensitive. If he had your best interests in mind, this would not be happening.

[ArfyMcPeesh]

Wait they do things in the car with you two in the cat too? Okay, if you aren’t into him then tell him and tell your brother no more.