it's still hard

[Babs]

my grandpa passed away in September of 2012. I realized at his funeral, that I really took him for granted and I never realized how generous and funny he was and what an interesting and colorful life he had. lately I've been having strange dreams every night for the past, like, 8 days, which is way more frequent than usual. my dream last night wasn't all that bad but The highlight was I stopped by my grandma's house and he was there, alive and I remember being so happy to see him! while we were there he was happy, my grandma was happy and I was happy, everyone was happy and now i'm so sad because I'll never see him again. the only time I do is in my dreams and those aren't real. lately I've been i'm such distress. i'm so discontent. I don't know what to do.

[MechaSniper]

my grandpa passed away in September of 2012. I realized at his funeral, that I really took him for granted and I never realized how generous and funny he was and what an interesting and colorful life he had. lately I've been having strange dreams every night for the past, like, 8 days, which is way more frequent than usual. my dream last night wasn't all that bad but The highlight was I stopped by my grandma's house and he was there, alive and I remember being so happy to see him! while we were there he was happy, my grandma was happy and I was happy, everyone was happy and now i'm so sad because I'll never see him again. the only time I do is in my dreams and those aren't real. lately I've been i'm such distress. i'm so discontent. I don't know what to do.

I'm very sorry for your loss. :console::hug:

[imthomas]

I'm very sorry

[Fanta_Lover44]

I'm sorry for your lost, losing a loved one hurts, its nothing to worry about. The mind works in a strange way when we sleep, its nothing to be worried about.

[ChrisTJ]

Yeah losing a loved one is always really hard and having dreams about it afterwards is quite common. If it's really bothering you speak to your family about it, I'm sure they will be able to offer support

[Pulp501]

I think I understand what you're going through, my mom passed away very recently, and it makes me so sad because for the last year or two of her life we spent very little time together, the last time I saw her in person was before going to bed and I didn't even hug her or say I love you, and the last time we talked on the phone I was angry, and she was angry, it's hard to know your last words to someone you love were said so harshly like mine were. I realized just how amazing she was after she passed and it hurts a lot. I had a few dreams about her, the only one I remember well was really weird. In the dream, her body was in our guest bedroom, and my stepdad told me to take some plastic bags to wrap her up in to take to the funeral home, and I said there was no way I was going to wrap up my dead mother so he just told me to bring in the bags for him to do it. I went it, and then looked at my mother, she sprung up and didn't know what was going on, I said "Mom, you're dead, you're dead, this is just a dream, it isn't real," and she said, "No, Brennon, I'm alive, I'm alive, this is real" But I knew it wasn't, but she was still there, and I just said, "Mom, I love you, tell me you love me." She said no because I was acting ridiculous, she thought she was alive, but I knew it wasn't so I made her say she loved me back. My step dad walked in and her body was back on the bed like it was before, but then I saw her eyes blinking at me, and I asked my step dad if he saw it too, and he said no and the dream ended. Sorry that was long, I know you didn't want to hear it, lol. Hopefully it will get better for you though, I'm sorry about your grandpa.

[Cece14]

You never relize how much you love someone until they are gone.... i went threw the same thing you did... my grandma passed away in August ans we were really close, the last words i said to her were, i love you.... it broke my heart when she died, but i didnt cry or anything, i tried being positive because i will see her again, when i die and go to heaven she will be there waiting, just like your grandpa will be there waiting for you. Hold on to those dreams you are having, keep them with you along with all your memories, and just remeber when you are feeling sad that you will see him again.....

Put Your Hearts Up

[Ozymandiaz]

I know that no words from strangers on the internet are going to do anything to soothe your loss, but i just want to say I really am sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, loss is a part of life and, by extension, so is grieving. Take as long as you need to come to terms with his passing. I know this is going to sound really cliched, but you'll always have the memories of the times you two did spend together. It's a fact of life that we only appreciate something after it's gone, but try not to beat yourself up over it. I'm sure he knew you loved him. I want to say that he's in a better place, but truly I have no idea of what comes after death. One thing I am certain of though is that as long as you can remember the good times you two shared, that he'd be content.

[Babs]

thanks to everyone who replied. it has all been helpful. i'm still very sad but i'm learning to celebrate the wondeful life he had and the memories he had with us.

[Poison_Ivy]

I'm sorry for your loss, my condolences for you and your family hopping you get over it soon

[JamesSuperBoy]

my grandpa passed away in September of 2012. I realized at his funeral, that I really took him for granted and I never realized how generous and funny he was and what an interesting and colorful life he had. lately I've been having strange dreams every night for the past, like, 8 days, which is way more frequent than usual. my dream last night wasn't all that bad but The highlight was I stopped by my grandma's house and he was there, alive and I remember being so happy to see him! while we were there he was happy, my grandma was happy and I was happy, everyone was happy and now i'm so sad because I'll never see him again. the only time I do is in my dreams and those aren't real. lately I've been i'm such distress. i'm so discontent. I don't know what to do.


can you talk about this with family?

[Lost in the Echo]

I understand how you feel, my grandfather passed away 5 years ago, and to this day I still have dreams about him. He was like the best friend I've never really had, and to this day it hurts to know he's gone.
But then I just remember all the good about him, and the good times we had, and then I begin to feel a bit happier.
So just cherish the good memories and make peace with the fact he's gone now, because being hung up and depressed over this will not bring him back, all it will do is make you feel depressed and miserable.
So yeah, just remember the good times. I'm sure that's what your grandpa would want. :)