Feel ready, is it ok?

[Cody14]

So im 14, so is my gf. We have been bf and gf for just over 14 months. Our parents are friends and are going away for a week tomorrow. My older sister is watching us but will not be around all the time. Our parents think we are just like cute bf and gf so trust us to be at home together. We have been talking about having sex for a few weeks now and this will be the only time in a while we will be alone. We feel ready and I even managed to get condoms from a dispenser in the mens toilets in Tenpin lol. I would really like peoples opinions.
Thank you

[Jake445]

Hey Cody, it's great that you'll get the opportunity to be alone with your girlfriend but it doesn't sound like you two have ever done anything sexual together before? There is a lot you might want to try before having intercourse! Secondly, I really wouldn't use the cheap condoms from some men's toilet, go by a box of the expensive nice kind to be safe. It's a bit embarrassing but just don't let it be the only thing you buy, you'll get used to it fast. You might want to have lube too.
But in general, if you two feel ready and are doing it safely it should be fine and lots of fun!

[Cody14]

I get what you'r saying, I should of said. We have made out quite a bit, this is why i said 'our parents just think we are just a cute bf and gf' , also in uk the dipenser condoms are not cheap , they are Durex box of 3 condoms (Ribbed, Ultra Thin and Extra Safe)

[Adamant]

Not an expert on this but you said your parents trust you. Are you going to feel Ok with breaking their trust.
I am just a virgin with fantasies so I know i would be out of my depth and also it means my views aren't worth much.
One thing we were told in sex ed though was it was probably a good idea to practice putting on a condom by yourself before you need to do it for real.
For too important to mess that one up.
Good luck with whatever you decide.

[centreoftheuniverse]

just please, please make sure your girlfriend is okay with this. i cannot stress that enough. assure her that if she does not feel ready, she does not have to feel pressure to do anything, and sex can wait. and if you yourself have any last minute doubts, pull out (sorry, no pun intended). you need to both be 110% sure before sex.

[Connordude]

just please, please make sure your girlfriend is okay with this. i cannot stress that enough. assure her that if she does not feel ready, she does not have to feel pressure to do anything, and sex can wait. and if you yourself have any last minute doubts, pull out (sorry, no pun intended). you need to both be 110% sure before sex.

Totally agree
If there is any doubt - then there is no doubt, don’t do it yet

[ChrisA1998]

Not an expert on this but you said your parents trust you. Are you going to feel Ok with breaking their trust.
so what ? does he have to ask mum and dad for their permission to have sex ?

[tomhero]

Hey Cody,
It‘s great both of you feel ready. That’s much better then. Being unsure is totally normal. If you think you are and know that she is ready too, then it’s all fine. If you both wanna wait, that’s perfectly fine too!

[xSashax]

If you both feel ready then go for it! Hope you have a nice time!

[NickX01]

If you both believe you are ready then have fun and be safe

[Caitigrrl]

If you both have no doubts and are safe - decide at the time

[Ashley2004]

If you are not 100% sure that you're ready, then you're clearly not ready.
You say you've made out. Why do you need to jump to sex? Maybe seize the opportunity to fool around more but you don't have to go all the way. Then there's less pressure.

[Cody14]

So sorry not been on for ages, in the end we did do it. We both talked a lot first , and actually waited another two weeks, but we thought a bout it a lot and where ready. we still love each other so much and althogh we feel a little bad about doing this behind our parents back, we feel our relationship now is stronger and we know so much more about each other body. Thank you for everyones opinion.

[Claire Asteroid]

I hope you both had a great time and it was good to be intimate for both of you. It's good you have a stronger relationship now that sex is part of your lives.

[Microcosm]

So sorry not been on for ages, in the end we did do it. We both talked a lot first , and actually waited another two weeks, but we thought a bout it a lot and where ready. we still love each other so much and althogh we feel a little bad about doing this behind our parents back, we feel our relationship now is stronger and we know so much more about each other body. Thank you for everyones opinion.

You're very mature for a 15-year old (I assume you are 15 since you were 14 when you made your last post).

Many relationships at that age don't last very long and often people won't ask for advice or take precaution before having sex.

[Uniquemind]

You're very mature for a 15-year old (I assume you are 15 since you were 14 when you made your last post).

Many relationships at that age don't last very long and often people won't ask for advice or take precaution before having sex.

That’s true and untrue, given that social isolation due to online behavior is on the rise. There’s a bell curve developing where couples are staying together longer and following normal divorce statistics as the general populace for a myriad of reasons.

But the reasoning behind why younger couples not maintaining a romantic relationship from teens, to say, late 20’s or even 40’s is weakening significantly using that rationale alone.


It’s really coming down to the individuals in the relationship to keep the spark alive and cognitively understanding what relationships are like to maintain, the cadence of it.

Kinda like how as a metaphor, high school was nothing like high school musical we watched as little kids, and if you expected that you were probably predisposed to be upset, but if you just experienced high school as what it was, then yeah there were ups and downs and outright dull moments, but you survived and hopefully met your goals.

Relationships I think are similar, take them for the reality’s of them, not just the ideation of them or being in one just to be in one.