Long distance relationship, or not?

[Popcorn]

So I will try to condense this as short as possible but I tend to ramble, so... A year ago I was at a three day event in my area. While there I met a guy, we really hit it off, ad we hung out a good deal while there. We exchanged phone numbers and have texted and talked on the phone a lot since then. I'm 16, he's 18 and live four hours apart. He's in his first year of college, and I'm starting in the fall. He's the nicest person I've ever met, he writes me poetry (even though I'm not a fan lol), always wishes me a good day, compliments me, and has helped me through a few difficult situations. He never makes snide comments or dirty references like most of the guys I'm around, he's just really respectful. I could tell him anything really. We've told eachother that we fancy eachother and would gladly be girlfriend/boyfriend. I guess my question is, is this a relationship? We do call eachother dear and love and all those cheesy names, but do I consider myself as having a boyfriend? Honestly I can hardly look at another guy cause I'm so enamored with him. And if this isn't a relationship, should it be? What would that entail? I mean, geez, I have no idea. Thanks for any advice! :P

[Living For Love]

If you're both in love with each other, and if you don't even look at other guys because of him, then yes, it is a relationship. Of course, you have the distance separating you two, but as long as both of you are faithful to each other, it can definitely work. Just tell him that, that you want to be his girlfriend.

[project_icarus]

I guess it may be, though you mightn't want to think/speak of that as something concrete until you have a talk with him about that.

If it is (or does become) a relationship regardless of distance, you have to be sure that you're both putting as best of an effort as you can otherwise it'll just fail sooner or later, quite honestly.

All the best. :)

[JamesSuperBoy]

I hope it works for you both - but it seems odd maybe that you have never met up since the event a whole year and only 4 hours apart.

[FullyAlive]

Personally I wouldn't call it a relationship until you've had that whole exclusive chat, but it certainly sounds like it's heading that way.
As for the distance once you start college you'll realise four hours isn't as far as it seems really if you put in the effort I know of quite a few people doing that sort of distance and sure they say it's hard but they're managing it. How far away will your colleges be?

[DiamondsGirl]

I'd have to agree with FullyAlive here. It's not a relationship until one of you exclusively chatted about it. Seriously though... I know it's hard to stay rational when you're in love, but I think you might want to think this through a little more. I'm a huge paranoid, and I'm afraid this boy sounds just a little too perfect. I hate to sound like this but... When it's too good to be true, it is. I mean.. when you're having a LDR with a guy, you want to be very sure he's exactly the kind of person you think he is.

Now about LDR. LDR is definitely a harsh situation that destroys, dare I say, 90% of relationships. If you want to take the plunge, then go for it. But don't say you haven't been warned. I know I know I sound like a complete pessimistic, party popper jerk right now but it's just that I'd hate to see you, or anyone really, being heart broken. If you want to play safe, take it slowly. Let it flow and get to know every single side of him before making a decision.

BUT: what's a teenager without a drama or two? what kind of teenager plays safe and realistic? Do ignore my granny-like advice and do what you want :) good luck x

[tmack1908]

If you and him end up going to the same college, I'd say go for the relationship. But if you don't go to the same college and keep living far apart, I wouldn't bother. You're both young and are going to meet many more people who could potentially be bf/gf material and who live closer so you don't have to worry about the problems that come along with long distance relationships.

[Jenny3]

I think it sounds like a really nice relationship that you guys have. You don't have to end up at the same college but maybe try to make the distance between you two shorter, move closer to him? With 2 or 3 hours of distance you could actually meet every weekend without any problems... Talk to him and try to make yourselves serious :) herinterest.com/7-signs-that-you-are-in-love

[Body odah Man]

If you truly love each other than go for it. I'm sure you 2 won't regret it.

[Rallo]

4hours isn't overly 'long distance'; he can actually come see you at times!
I would go for it, don't let the distance worry you at all; it won't be too hard for him to come see you at some point (or you go see him).

Long distance only becomes a real annoyance when it's thousands of miles(/KM) away or a different country which would require complicated passports, etc etc. So best advice I can give is to not worry about the distance, that part will be fine. Just think about the usual things that are good to consider before starting a relationship. :P

[Popcorn]

Thanks everyone for the advice. Actually a few days after I posted this he called me up and asked me *officially* to be his girlfriend :) And he's going to come see me in a month or so, so yay

@jamesSuperboy- 4 hrs is a long way when I just got my license and he's been busy with college and a job
@Diamondsgirl- NI'm with your so-called granny like advice, I feel the same he's just a little too perfect haha. I guess that's why it freaks me out a bit. But I honestly believe he's a decent guy, I've never had a reason not to believe so. Also never said I loved him, I don't go for that kind of stuff, I'm rational enough to know that's highly unlikely.
@Jenny3- Not moving anytime soon, I'm only 16. We actually were both thinking of going to the same college eventually so we shall see if it lasts long enough to make it there :P

thnaks again :)