Heartbreak

[mymy]

Hi, I introduce myself, I'm 16, I have never been in a relationship and I do not have a lot of girl friends. (What I find weird because I think to match the beauty criteria of our day (tall, athletic, etc.) besides that I find myself nice)

I had the misfortune to fall in love much too quickly ...
There is this girl at school, two years younger, whom I have always found cute. One Saturday night, for no reason, she began to text me. I then answered her and we continued to do it all the weekend. I had completely fallen in love.

Because of our age difference, we do not have the same schedule. So, on Monday, I only met her once before entering class. It really warms my heart. I had never seen anyone so happy to see me. This moment only increased the hope that something was happening with her. All the rest of the day I could do nothing but think of her.

After school, I had to hurry to not be late for my football practice. I quickly met her in the lockers but she was completely ignored. It really hurt me. I thought of her all the football practice, wondering why I fell in love so fast and why did she ignore me? After the football practice, in the evening, I texted her. I did not ask her why she had ignored me, because I thought she had not seen me. She was always happy to talk to me and we talked all night long. It had reassured me a lot about our relationship.

All night and all the way to school, I did nothing but think of her and how she looked at me Monday morning. Once at school, I stayed where the lockers, hoping to see her. She passed without even looking at me. At noon, I saw her again. I wanted to go talk to her but I was petrified: it was the first I tried to talk to a girl I was in love with. Seeing that she did not turn around when I said her name, I left.

Why did she does that to me? Why have she've been very social with me, implying that she would like us to be something? Why did she looks at me like that on Monday? And why, from one day to the next, she ignores me as if I had never existed?

What makes me think that I am in love with it is that I can not think of anything other than her. Even knowing that she does not care about me anymore. Here are my questions: Why did you think she ignored me? Do you think that there is a way to reconcile without talking to her because perhaps she never wanted a relationship (With small attentions for example)?

I know I should move on because it would be best for me. But deep inside me there is something that refuses.

[mymy]

I am not worried about the competition because she is quite superficial I measure 6'0", weighs 230 lbs, 15% fat. (she is tiny from the top of her 5'2")

[citycanuck]

I think at our age it's easy to "fall in love" when someone pays attention to us in that special sort of way. And it's especially true I think if you haven't had that kind of friend or relationship before. I'm sorry that you're feeling bad about it, it's hard when you feel that way and think the other person doesn't.

It's interesting that she seems more than willing to text with you at night, but not actually talk to you at school. I know from chatting online here at VT that it's sometimes easier to text and say things or talk to people that you might not otherwise. Is it possible that she's feeling as nervous as you are to talk to you in person? Especially an older boy on the football team, I'd guess she imagines that you are more mature, maybe more experienced, and that maybe makes her feel a bit timid at school and she's maybe waiting for you to initiate something in person?

I think if you want to know one way or another, you're going to have to take a risk and talk to her at school. Yes, you'll feel awkward and hurt if she rejects talking to you directly like that. But you're already feeling a bit that way anyway. That's the thing with finding someone romantic, you've got to take a chance and risk your feelings getting hurt. The alternative is waiting and hoping for someone else to take that chance - but what if that doesn't happen?

Anyway, good luck with whatever you decide to do!

[mymy]

It's interesting that she seems more than willing to text with you at night, but not actually talk to you at school. I know from chatting online here at VT that it's sometimes easier to text and say things or talk to people that you might not otherwise. Is it possible that she's feeling as nervous as you are to talk to you in person? Especially an older boy on the football team, I'd guess she imagines that you are more mature, maybe more experienced, and that maybe makes her feel a bit timid at school and she's maybe waiting for you to initiate something in person?

Anyway, good luck with whatever you decide to do!
You know what, you're right. I should go talk to her. But I really do not know about what.

[citycanuck]

You know what, you're right. I should go talk to her. But I really do not know about what.

What do you guys say when you're texting each other? Ask her anything. Ask her if she wants to come watch you play football. Ask her if she's into any sports. Ask her if she's seen <xxx> movie. Just start. Maybe it'll be a bit awkward if she's shy. Based on your texting, do you have an idea of what kinds of things she likes? Maybe you can ask her something about that.

[ska8er]

Next time u start texting tell her u saw
her in the hall and ask if she saw u. U
wanted to talk but probably say that
maybe she was in a hurry and ur paths
crossed. Then c what she has to say. It
could b that she is shy talking face to face
with someone and it is easier to open up in
text. That is one main prob with social media.
There is no comfort in face to face contact.
Don't give up on her.

[Anomaly6]

I'm the same exact way, I'm really not sure if I'll ever be able to meet someone I can have a real relationship with.. It sucks because I'm good at giving advice to others but my own love life sucks lol I always seem to screw things up if I care about someone too much!