Gf mad at me

[coolmatt]

I had to talk to my gf about some serious stuff yesterday and now i think shes mad at me. Im worried about her. I just wanted to help her because i noticed shes not eating and I told her mom but now she won't talk to me. I haven't got a text back all day. I don't know what to do. Any advice?

[BlackParadePixie]

Just let it play out.... just because you notice someone not eating at one meal doesn't mean they have an eating disorder. Maybe she eats a big breakfast every day and that's why she doesn't eat lunch.

But if she DOES have a problem, and you got her mom involved....then yeah, she's probably gonna be mad at you for a while. Not really much you can do but wait to see if she gets over it.

[coolmatt]

Just let it play out.... just because you notice someone not eating at one meal doesn't mean they have an eating disorder. Maybe she eats a big breakfast every day and that's why she doesn't eat lunch.

But if she DOES have a problem, and you got her mom involved....then yeah, she's probably gonna be mad at you for a while. Not really much you can do but wait to see if she gets over it.

It is a problem. I made a post about it during the week in the eating disorder forum. She always says she hates her body. I always eat lunch with her at school and I noticed she stopped eating. I just wanted to help her but now im worried she will breakup with me

[BlackParadePixie]

It is a problem. I made a post about it during the week in the eating disorder forum. She always says she hates her body. I always eat lunch with her at school and I noticed she stopped eating. I just wanted to help her but now im worried she will breakup with me
Most girls her age say that. And again...how do you know for sure its a problem? Unless she is willing to admit that she is bulemic or anorexic, you're really not going to know for sure. Her getting any help she might need should be more important to you than whether or not she breaks up with you.

[Second Chance]

I had to talk to my gf about some serious stuff yesterday and now i think shes mad at me. Im worried about her. I just wanted to help her because i noticed shes not eating and I told her mom but now she won't talk to me. I haven't got a text back all day. I don't know what to do. Any advice?

I am sorry that your girlfriend had gotten mad at you especially since you tried to help her. You had noticed a problem and did the responsible thing by talking to an adult. At this stage you should not feel badly since you did not do that to hurt her but rather to make sure she is safe. If she does not appreciate your effort to do the right thing, then it is really too bad since you cared enough to help her.

At this stage I would let her calm down. Chances are she is having a tough discussion right now with her family, and she is most likely being taken to a professional for evaluation. I bet you that her family did find something wrong, and she is probably upset that she is being forced to get help. The easy thing for her to do is to get mad at you rather than accepting the fact that there is a problem. All the warning signs were there that your girlfriend has a problem be it not eating and body image issues.

I would not worry about your girlfriend breaking up with you at this point. Give her a couple of days to sort things out. Honestly, you saw something that was not right, and you tried to do something about it. I respect that you thought about your girlfriend's interests. Give your girlfriend space and see what happens. She might need some time to work things out in her mind and perhaps work with a professional. I agree with the person above that your girlfriend getting the help she needs is what is most important even if that means that you two might not be a couple. I know that will hurt, but you did the right thing to get her help even if she does not appreciate it now. No question among parents you will have a good name and that you will be trusted.

[Oscar-V3.0]

I had to talk to my gf about some serious stuff yesterday and now i think shes mad at me. Im worried about her. I just wanted to help her because i noticed shes not eating and I told her mom but now she won't talk to me. I haven't got a text back all day. I don't know what to do. Any advice?

Go talk to her when you're back at school ;)

[coolmatt]

Go talk to her when you're back at school ;)

She wasn't at school today. I've been texting her alot and she still wont text back I'm really worried

[Second Chance]

She wasn't at school today. I've been texting her alot and she still wont text back I'm really worried

I am really sorry to hear that.

Can you show up at her house to talk with her?

[coolmatt]

I am really sorry to hear that.

Can you show up at her house to talk with her?

I rode past her house when i came home from school and it didnt look like anyone was home.

[Second Chance]

I rode past her house when i came home from school and it didnt look like anyone was home.

I hope your girlfriend is all right, but do not get too worried for the time being.

Can you contact your girlfriend's parents to see what is going on?

What I would do is leave a note in her mailbox to see if someone could call you back at least.

[coolmatt]

I hope your girlfriend is all right, but do not get too worried for the time being.

Can you contact your girlfriend's parents to see what is going on?

What I would do is leave a note in her mailbox to see if someone could call you back at least.

I didnt think about leaving a note. I think I will ride over soon and leave one. I hope shes ok

[Second Chance]

I didnt think about leaving a note. I think I will ride over soon and leave one. I hope shes ok

Yeah, leaving a note is the way to go and to see what is happening.

My guess is that your girlfriend might be a lot sicker than you thought she was, and she might be going for help. If that is the case, then the best thing you can do is wait until she gets home. I would see if you can at least talk with her parent(s) to see how you can help her which is the best way to go.

If your girlfriend is getting help, then she might not be able to use her electronic devices so that they can keep her focused. If that is the case, then do not be scared. As scared as you are it might be even more so for her family.

If you have her parents' telephone numbers, then you might want to try to contact them to see what is going on because that might be your best resource for information.

[coolmatt]

Yeah, leaving a note is the way to go and to see what is happening.

My guess is that your girlfriend might be a lot sicker than you thought she was, and she might be going for help. If that is the case, then the best thing you can do is wait until she gets home. I would see if you can at least talk with her parent(s) to see how you can help her which is the best way to go.

If your girlfriend is getting help, then she might not be able to use her electronic devices so that they can keep her focused. If that is the case, then do not be scared. As scared as you are it might be even more so for her family.

If you have her parents' telephone numbers, then you might want to try to contact them to see what is going on because that might be your best resource for information.

I just wrote a note to leave at her house with my phone number so if her parents wanna tell me whats happening the they can. I'm gonna go drop it off in like an hour

[Second Chance]

I just wrote a note to leave at her house with my phone number so if her parents wanna tell me whats happening the they can. I'm gonna go drop it off in like an hour

You did the right thing, and I really hope things work out.

Do not feel badly if your girlfriend is mad with you or if she blames you for anything. You are a good guy for trying to get her help, and your girlfriend is lucky to have a guy like you. In case the worst should happen, then just know that at least you were trying to keep her safe as opposed to being like some guys and not caring about her feelings. I really feel for you, and do not get discouraged.

[coolmatt]

You did the right thing, and I really hope things work out.

Do not feel badly if your girlfriend is mad with you or if she blames you for anything. You are a good guy for trying to get her help, and your girlfriend is lucky to have a guy like you. In case the worst should happen, then just know that at least you were trying to keep her safe as opposed to being like some guys and not caring about her feelings. I really feel for you, and do not get discouraged.

Thanks man. I really apreciate all the help you give me on all my posts. Is it ok if once I can pm I send you a message? It would be cool to talk 1 to 1.

I want my gf to get better and i hope I can be by her side when she needa me. I love her so much n I only told her that a few rimes

[Second Chance]

Thanks man. I really apreciate all the help you give me on all my posts. Is it ok if once I can pm I send you a message? It would be cool to talk 1 to 1.

It is not a big deal to PM once you can. I think you have to get to 100 posts to PM.

Helping is not a big deal.

I want my gf to get better and i hope I can be by her side when she needa me. I love her so much n I only told her that a few rimes

I know how you feel, and it is good that you care about her. I have been down this road with a girl once before, and I had to get her help when she most needed it. She was mad for a bit, but she had gotten over it and is now all right.

Just remember that if your girlfriend is mad or blames you not to take it personally. Chances are her family is adjusting to whatever issue she has, and she probably wanted to cover everything up. At least you had the guts to tell them what was wrong so that they could address the problem now before she ends up really bad later on. Trust me, these are things you want to catch early even if she is mad now. One day she will appreciate you if she does not do so now.

Just make sure to work with her family as she gets well because healing is a cooperative process.

Also, when your girlfriend gets out just take things slowly with her if she is good with you and that you both do not get physical. The last thing you want to do is be physically with someone who is on the rebound from something big. Especially now that you can cum now she might be curious, but just be careful and remember that you have the rest of your life to do sexual stuff. Staying focused on school is most important now because without an education you going nowhere fast.

[coolmatt]

It is not a big deal to PM once you can. I think you have to get to 100 posts to PM.

Helping is not a big deal.



I know how you feel, and it is good that you care about her. I have been down this road with a girl once before, and I had to get her help when she most needed it. She was mad for a bit, but she had gotten over it and is now all right.

Just remember that if your girlfriend is mad or blames you not to take it personally. Chances are her family is adjusting to whatever issue she has, and she probably wanted to cover everything up. At least you had the guts to tell them what was wrong so that they could address the problem now before she ends up really bad later on. Trust me, these are things you want to catch early even if she is mad now. One day she will appreciate you if she does not do so now.

Just make sure to work with her family as she gets well because healing is a cooperative process.

Also, when your girlfriend gets out just take things slowly with her if she is good with you and that you both do not get physical. The last thing you want to do is be physically with someone who is on the rebound from something big. Especially now that you can cum now she might be curious, but just be careful and remember that you have the rest of your life to do sexual stuff. Staying focused on school is most important now because without an education you going nowhere fast.

I just wish i could be with her right now. I cant imagine how scared and lonely she just feel. Im supposed to protect her from those feelings. Even if she breaks up with me im gonna keep showing her that I care and wanna be there for her. I'm not with her for sex especially now that she's sick.

[Second Chance]

I just wish i could be with her right now. I cant imagine how scared and lonely she just feel. Im supposed to protect her from those feelings.

I would say that she is not alone because she's probably with her family and professionals. If she is getting help, then she's with professionals who are trained to be with her. Her family is definitely a part of her treatment process. It is not like she is locked up in a room with rubber walls and is in a straight jacket. You did protect her by making sure that she had gotten the help that she needs, and you did do your duty.

Even if she breaks up with me im gonna keep showing her that I care and wanna be there for her. I'm not with her for sex especially now that she's sick.

The best way you can show her how you care is to work with her and her family to figure out what you can do. However, if she needs space, then let her have it as well and do not feel badly. It is going to take time for things to be all right.

[coolmatt]

I would say that she is not alone because she's probably with her family and professionals. If she is getting help, then she's with professionals who are trained to be with her. Her family is definitely a part of her treatment process. It is not like she is locked up in a room with rubber walls and is in a straight jacket. You did protect her by making sure that she had gotten the help that she needs, and you did do your duty.



The best way you can show her how you care is to work with her and her family to figure out what you can do. However, if she needs space, then let her have it as well and do not feel badly. It is going to take time for things to be all right.

Part of me regrets it because i want her back but I know I did the right thing. I dropped off the note a few minutes ago. It just says that I hope my gf is ok and I gave them my number and asked if i can help.

[Second Chance]

Part of me regrets it because i want her back but I know I did the right thing. I dropped off the note a few minutes ago. It just says that I hope my gf is ok and I gave them my number and asked if i can help.

I know how you feel, but in the end, hopefully, your girlfriend will get the help she needs.

I am glad that you had dropped off the note, and I hope that your girlfriend or her parents will get back to you.

Just give things time and know that at least you made the effort. It takes two hands to clap, and you just need to wait things out to see how they will work out.

[coolmatt]

I know how you feel, but in the end, hopefully, your girlfriend will get the help she needs.

I am glad that you had dropped off the note, and I hope that your girlfriend or her parents will get back to you.

Just give things time and know that at least you made the effort. It takes two hands to clap, and you just need to wait things out to see how they will work out.

My gfs mom called last night and talked to my mom. My mom told me that my gf is sick right now and needs to stay in the hospital. I didn't think she would have to go to the hospital

[Second Chance]

My gfs mom called last night and talked to my mom. My mom told me that my gf is sick right now and needs to stay in the hospital. I didn't think she would have to go to the hospital

I kind of figured she would have to go to the hospital especially in light of her body image issues and her lack of eating. You really did the right thing by letting your girlfriend's parents know so that she could get the help that she needed.

I am really sorry that things turned out to be very serious with your girlfriend. Clearly, she is in the right place now, and it is going to be a process to get her all right.

It is good that your Girlfriend's Mother touched base with your family and at least let you all know what is going on.

What I would do is drop off a get well card at your girlfriend's house in the hopes it can get to her. Sometimes something small like that can make a big difference.

[coolmatt]

Update time. Whats going on?

She broke up with me :( she said she couldn't be with anyone right now.

[coolmatt]

I'm sorry that sucks. You tryed to do a good thing and it ends up messing things up. I don't know all the things that went on but may be I can help you with trying to get a better outcome next time.

First a example; you may have experienced this or not but its some thing alot of ppl get wrong. Your with some one and they bitch and complain about there family (for example) and you listen and understand. Then you meet the family and they are just like the other person describe. So later you make a comment about what dicks they are or whatever then your friend gets really mad at you for what you said. Your confused becos its the same thing they said 100 times your just agreeing with them why are they mad? Well... its becos its family. They are allowed to say it becos its there family. You aren't becos they aren't your family. May be sounds messed up but its almost always true.

So your situation. You might have got better result if you work with her more for the solution instead of going around her. You took away her being in charge of herself which is a big part of eating disorders anyway. Its like if we went out and I was wearing a skirt that was so short or tight that alot of ppl were staring and you said Hailey you need to change clothes instead of Hailey your getting alot of stares do you want to change clothes? See the first way you would be taking my being a person with my own ideas and stuff away by making the decision for me the second way your trying to work with me.
So about her eating if you had tryed to work with her to try and find a solution it might have worked better. No guarantee of course just a idea how you might have played it different.

I am still sorry it went bad for you just trying to help but maybe this will help you get a better result next time. :)

I think i understand. I made a post in the mental health eating disorder forum section before all this happened because I didnt know what to do or if i could help her. I did what they said i should do and it all blew up in my face. I still try to be there for her but it feels like the more I try the more mad she gets at me and she tells me to just leave her alone. Thats what im trying to do now. I haven't talked to her in a week and I miss her. I know she is going through alot but I just wish I could go back to how things were before