thoughts on virginity

[centreoftheuniverse]

personally, i think virginity is an outdated concept. well, it's still a big deal, but i think it shouldn't be as big as it actually is - you know, you're "pure" if you're a virgin, etc. i'm quite prepared to lose my virginity to any boy i like, and if that makes me sound like a slut, it's because i literally do not think it should be such a big deal. yeah, it's your first time having sex, but still. chill a little.

what are y'all thinking on this topic?

[Maddie2000]

I agree that people make way too much of it, it’s your business and your choice to decide when you want to do it! People these days are way to concerned with what others are doing.

[abcdeqwe]

I don’t know. I think that may be underplaying it’s importance a bit. Having sex requires a certain level of physical and emotional maturity. The people involved are really putting themselves out there and it is a very intimate thing they are doing . I don’t think it’s as important as other older generations make it out to be, but treating it like it’s whatever is inappropriate, at least to me it is.

[AshleighB]

personally, i think virginity is an outdated concept. well, it's still a big deal, but i think it shouldn't be as big as it actually is - you know, you're "pure" if you're a virgin, etc. i'm quite prepared to lose my virginity to any boy i like, and if that makes me sound like a slut, it's because i literally do not think it should be such a big deal. yeah, it's your first time having sex, but still. chill a little.

what are y'all thinking on this topic?

Virginity isn’t that important to me when I finally do have sex I won’t be doing to lose my virginity I will be doing it because I want to

[EvaNL]

I agree that people make way too much of it, it’s your business and your choice to decide when you want to do it! People these days are way to concerned with what others are doing.

Completely agree with this.
It's your body, your mind, your business, your choice, your decision.

It's nobody else's business, not even the person you lose your virginity to.

[Caro2004]

In another part of the forum I gave advice to someone today who was unsure about whether he was ready for sex or not. I said if he was wondering, then he wasn't ready. When you're ready, you know it for sure.

Whenever there are questions about virginity it's often older people, even just a bit older than us, who try to tell you to slow down, not to rush. It might be that they lost their virginity when they weren't ready and regret it, I'm not sure.


For me virginity isn't and wasn't something I prized or wanted to protect. I've got older brothers and sisters who lost theirs well before me and I could see the fun they were having as non-virgins. Sex was something else I learned to do, like walking, talking, maths, kissing, touching and then sex. Yes, you 'lose' your virginity but it wasn't really anything you could see or feel to start with.

Everyone is different, those thoughts are just how it seems to me :)

[Pultost]

People definitely make a big deal out of it, but the way I see it, it's all about individual preference.

Keeping my virginity for the right time with the right guy is important to me, though. I don't want to lose with just anyone, just to have done it, like it was a chore people expect you do have done.

[Anomaly6]

I kind of wish I wasnt a virgin.. Do girls like guys who are virgins??

[Matthew04]

I kind of wish I wasnt a virgin.. Do girls like guys who are virgins??

I would hope so other wise I will never lose it

[Maddie2000]

I kind of wish I wasnt a virgin.. Do girls like guys who are virgins??

I can’t speak for every girl but I know many including myself who have no problem at all being with a virgin! Everyone can be taught, so if it’s lack of experience you’re worried about...don’t be. Also if the guy is a virgin it’s less likely that he’s just sweet talking me to get in my pants and tell all his friends that his body count went up lol

[EvaNL]

I kind of wish I wasnt a virgin.. Do girls like guys who are virgins??

Either a girl likes a guy or she doesn't. The guy being a virgin or not is not an issue.
Well, if it is an issue for the girl, run away from her. She's not worth it.

[Anomaly6]

Thank you Maddie and Eva! That makes me feel a lot better! :D

[ImJulia]

I agree losing it is really not that big of a deal.

[Allover Kelly]

I have been a virgin 5 or 6 times

[xSashax]

I agree people are making a big deal out of virginity. It’s your body and choice. You can do whatever you want. For me, I don’t see a reason to preserve my virginity. I do whatever I want, and I don’t judge what others decide to do.

[Jessi03]

I don’t know. I think that may be underplaying it’s importance a bit. Having sex requires a certain level of physical and emotional maturity. The people involved are really putting themselves out there and it is a very intimate thing they are doing . I don’t think it’s as important as other older generations make it out to be, but treating it like it’s whatever is inappropriate, at least to me it is.

Virginity isn’t that important to me when I finally do have sex I won’t be doing to lose my virginity I will be doing it because I want to

I think these are great points which I agree with and think about for myself. :)

[Coping]

Virginity isn’t that important to me when I finally do have sex I won’t be doing to lose my virginity I will be doing it because I want to

Best reason of all to do so. :cool:

[ashleigh7]

I agree with AshleighB. (Great name by the way:) ) Losing your virginity is something very important....for both the boy girl. So I hope for everyone it's something they want to do with a person they really like..love and trust. I hope it's never done out of pressure or under the influence of something that would make you are them have regrets.

[Jordan99]

For me, I gave my BF my virginity when we first had penis in vagina sex. Mutual masturbation and my giving him a blowjob didn't count for me as having given up my virginity nor was his going down on me. Those things were just intimate ways of expressing our love, exploring our sexuality and sharing with each other. Once he broke my hymen with his penis, I was no longer a virgin. That's my humble opinion.

[Maddie2000]

For me, I gave my BF my virginity when we first had penis in vagina sex. Mutual masturbation and my giving him a blowjob didn't count for me as having given up my virginity nor was his going down on me. Those things were just intimate ways of expressing our love, exploring our sexuality and sharing with each other. Once he broke my hymen with his penis, I was no longer a virgin. That's my humble opinion.

100% agree with this

[ashleigh7]

For me, I gave my BF my virginity when we first had penis in vagina sex. Mutual masturbation and my giving him a blowjob didn't count for me as having given up my virginity nor was his going down on me. Those things were just intimate ways of expressing our love, exploring our sexuality and sharing with each other. Once he broke my hymen with his penis, I was no longer a virgin. That's my humble opinion.

I agree...very good way of putting it :)

[AshleighB]

I agree with AshleighB. (Great name by the way:) ) Losing your virginity is something very important....for both the boy girl. So I hope for everyone it's something they want to do with a person they really like..love and trust. I hope it's never done out of pressure or under the influence of something that would make you are them have regrets.

Yes it’s a good name 😀

[Jordan99]

I have been a virgin 5 or 6 times

How is that possible?

[Allover Kelly]

I told guys I was a virgin when I was younger. If they asked I just said yes.

[Oscar-V3.0]

I kind of wish I wasnt a virgin.. Do girls like guys who are virgins??

Either a girl likes a guy or she doesn't. The guy being a virgin or not is not an issue.
Well, if it is an issue for the girl, run away from her. She's not worth it.

I agree 100% :)

[Jordan99]

I told guys I was a virgin when I was younger. If they asked I just said yes.

Wow, this leads to a LOT of questions...You're only 15 so, if you don't mind me asking, when did you lose your virginity? Also, it was obvious to both my BF and me when I gave up my virginity so, to the guys that followed and asked you if you were a virgin or not, wasn't it obvious to them that you weren't? Not judging, just asking. Didn't it bother you to lie to the other guys though?

[Allover Kelly]

With my life I would not like to say a lot but I was young and it was one reason the state put me in a group home in FL. Later if a guy asked I said I was and they really did not care. I don't want to sound rude. Thanks for asking.

[Claire Asteroid]

I think the first time people have sex should be when they are married. But I know not everyone thinks that, and I don't think people aware not pure or something if they have sex before they are married. It's just my own belief for me.

[Katie2003]

I think the first time people have sex should be when they are married. But I know not everyone thinks that, and I don't think people aware not pure or something if they have sex before they are married. It's just my own belief for me.

That's a very valid reason for staying a virgin. I know that some religions, and some parents, believe that vaginal intercourse should be very limited as far as how many different people you do it with and that it's most appropriate place is within a lifetime committed relationship.

My mom has a slightly modified version of that line of reasoning, wanting us girls not to have vaginal intercourse until we are 19, and preferably saved for the partner we choose to be with in a long term commitment or limited to very few partners while getting to that point. But she's OK with and encourages us to explore all the other sexual possibilities with multiple partners of both genders, in order to determine our sexuality and orientation.

[Beccabear]

I’m still a virgin and it’s not that I want to stay “pure” or anything, it’s just that my last bf kept pressuring me to have sex and I realized he was definitely not someone I wanted to have sex with, other than him, I haven’t had a whole lot of opportunities. I’ll just wait until it happens

[Pultost]

I’m still a virgin and it’s not that I want to stay “pure” or anything, it’s just that my last bf kept pressuring me to have sex and I realized he was definitely not someone I wanted to have sex with, other than him, I haven’t had a whole lot of opportunities. I’ll just wait until it happens

Smart move. It's obvious that he wasn't interested in you as a person, and that's definitely not the way to kiss your V-card goodbye.

[arnorway]

i think it is made a big deal by others. a friend of mine (14) has already had sex but the rest of us has not. a few of my friends are really stressing about it. i try not to but sometimes i do too. i honestly don't think i'm ready for it. i wouldn't say no if a girl wants to but probably more so to tell my friends i did than for myself.
so i wish it were not a big deal but at least among my friends it is

[Natacha]

I agree. Virginity is so overrated. And the thing about purity is a load of crap

[Chris298]

Yeah I mean I don't think it is exactly a HUGE deal, but I guess its up to the individual how important it is to them... For me is was kinda like hitting a milestone as far as growing up, kinda like another step towards becoming an adult, like getting my drivers license and graduating high school... So yeah I mean I was pretty excited afterwards but at the end of the day, it doesn't actually change anything about me.

[Mswimmer]

I agree. Virginity is so overrated. And the thing about purity is a load of crap

I agree

[Oliviaaa]

Not very important to me. I loose it when I loose it, that's it.

[tessa-]

I lost mine but I still have the box it came in