Online Relationships?

[Spook]

Hey guysss (guess who's back :rolleyes:).

What is your opinion on online relationships? Can they work?

Well, I met this guy through my sister and we started talking over Facebook. I know all the dangers, yeah yeah; but it seemed safe enough. Anyways, we started Skyping every day and have been for about a year now. A couple months ago we decided we wanted to date (i know, it sounds stupid), So we're trying long-distance until he can afford a plane ticket to visit me (my parents are fine with it).

I like him...alot. He's nice, funny, attractive, and he's never asked me to show boobs or the usual things I've encountered with pretty much every guy. The only problem is distance. So I guess long-distance/online relationships are relatively common, but usually between a few states or so. The only problem is that I live in America and he lives in Britain. He wants to move here someday; but I'm sixteen and I'm not sure if I'm ready to be tied down waiting for him. I mean, I see tangible attractive guys walk by me that show interest, but I can't do anything about it because I have a boyfriend over skype who is still debating whether or not he'll be able to visit this summer....

Any advice? :(

[Green Arrow]

The only thing I can say is follow your heart, you can't force yourself to do something you don't want to do. If you want to stay with him, stay with him online relationships work just as well as normal relationships they're just a little bit different. The key is commitment and honesty from both sides otherwise it'll just fall apart. What I'd do is try to meet up with him over the summer if he's willing to come over test the water so to speak. You've got a leap of faith ahead of you. :)

[Synyster Shadows]

They can totally work. You just need a lot of love, patience, faith, and communication, more than a tangible relationship. I agree with Tom - follow your heart and don't do anything you're uncomfortable with doing. Good luck

[Abyssal Echo]

They can totally work. You just need a lot of love, patience, faith, and communication, more than a tangible relationship. I agree with Tom - follow your heart and don't do anything you're uncomfortable with doing. Good luck

I have been in a few that didn't work :( I still think that Andrew is right.
If you are willing to put the effort into it then follow your heart.

[Melodic]

Well, I'm also in an online relationship but with someone I've already met.. but not actually sure about it lately..


But you shouldn't listen to statistics or facts because each relationship is different.. And if you two are really determined, it can work out in the long run. You both just need to set goals on what you really want to accomplish out of it.

[DarkHorse4eva]

i've been in some that didn't work out.
i'm currently in one, and it's not easy, cuz of distance and time zones, but we're making it work, because we put an effort into it and we love each other a lot.

it takes quite an effort, and time, but it's definitely worth it in the end :)

[Something Creative]

I'm really skeptical about this sort of stuff, because they rarely work out the way both people want them to. Sometimes they may even blow up in your face and hurt you real bad.

But if it's actually working, like in your case, I don't think there's anything wrong with it. If you guys know each other well and feel like meeting, I think you should do what you feel is best. If you want to meet him, you totally should.

[plebble]

I've had two online relationships (well 3... but with 2 girls) and they both ended horribly. The second girlfriend lives in America (i'm in the UK), we were best of friends then decided to get together. About 7 weeks later she left me because she couldn't bare the long distance and it depressed her, so she met a guy two days after breaking up with me to get her mind off me, that almost killed me because I had no idea why she left me at the time. 7 months later (now) I approached her online after ignoring many of her emails trying to get me to be friends with her again. We are now friends again, however I found out yesterday that she lost her virginity to some guy she knows. They're not even dating. As I've been talking to her more recently, my feelings for her returned, and when I heard this news, it crushed me.
That's my story about long distance relationships. Of course they're different for everyone... but be prepared. They are painful due to the actual long distance and will most likely end badly if you are attached/in love with them.

[DiamondsGirl]

I'm also very skeptical about online relationships. They might work for some people but the odds are really small. How can it be real if you've never met? =\

[Chris Daniels]

Prepare for the consequences but with effort, patience and trust, I guarantee you that it will work.

[Rallo]

In a long distance relationship myself (about the same distance, if not more, sadly), and wow they are hard at times.
The first few months are the easiest, after that these guys you see showing an interest (girls, in my case), the temptation just gets to be so much higher. For my relationship, it's got to the point where we've now hurt each other a few times. She's said a few things to various guys, I've 'talked' to a few girls.. Yet after all that, me and her are still together.

Overall, it's just all dependent on how strong of a connection there is between you and the other person, how well you can resist temptations, how good you are with your partner at talking things over if one of you does end up hurting the other, etc. All of which are 10x (if not 100x) more difficult in a long distance relationship.

[NeuroTiger]

Love remains the key word. And by love comes faithfulness, patience and hope.
For this to happen...you need to trust your heart.
Such a relationship can work! ;)
Good luck!

[phuckphace]

physical closeness gives a relationship depth and an emotional connection that is impossible when people are separated by distance. personally speaking I would never ever have an LDR, because the vicarious interaction through a series of tubes makes it feel way too abstract and impersonal. it's irritating enough just being friends with people online knowing that I probably won't have the chance to meet them IRL anytime soon or ever. I'm broke as fuck, will always be broke as fuck, and airline tickets cost an absolute fortune.

tl;dr - cuddle on the couch erryday or GTFO.

[vLiinx]

They've never worked for me in the past. The minute someone closer such as from school starts liking you/them and if its mutual. It usually ends.

[Body odah Man]

Hey guysss (guess who's back :rolleyes:).

What is your opinion on online relationships? Can they work?

Well, I met this guy through my sister and we started talking over Facebook. I know all the dangers, yeah yeah; but it seemed safe enough. Anyways, we started Skyping every day and have been for about a year now. A couple months ago we decided we wanted to date (i know, it sounds stupid), So we're trying long-distance until he can afford a plane ticket to visit me (my parents are fine with it).

I like him...alot. He's nice, funny, attractive, and he's never asked me to show boobs or the usual things I've encountered with pretty much every guy. The only problem is distance. So I guess long-distance/online relationships are relatively common, but usually between a few states or so. The only problem is that I live in America and he lives in Britain. He wants to move here someday; but I'm sixteen and I'm not sure if I'm ready to be tied down waiting for him. I mean, I see tangible attractive guys walk by me that show interest, but I can't do anything about it because I have a boyfriend over skype who is still debating whether or not he'll be able to visit this summer....

Any advice? :(

I would say that you should stay true to him and follow your heart. Do not pass up love, no matter what wind carries it

[Spook]

Update: Well, I broke it off. He was talking to his ex-girlfriend to "lead her on" then "break her heart" apparently so he could hurt her as much as she'd hurt him. I just decided that indifference is when you've had enough of someone, and obviously he hadn't had enough of her. Long distance is already a problem, immaturity adds to it. Honestly the relationship took up too much time (to the point where my grades were dropping) so I honestly can't argue that I would've gotten anything healthy out of it in the end. I just can't wait around for a year when I'm not even sure about my feelings for the guy....I can't feel the chemistry without physical interaction....

[Hey-Im-Connor]

they can work but it's unlikely to be successful if you have to spend long periods of time without seeing eachother imo

[DiamondsGirl]

Update: Well, I broke it off. He was talking to his ex-girlfriend to "lead her on" then "break her heart" apparently so he could hurt her as much as she'd hurt him. I just decided that indifference is when you've had enough of someone, and obviously he hadn't had enough of her. Long distance is already a problem, immaturity adds to it. Honestly the relationship took up too much time (to the point where my grades were dropping) so I honestly can't argue that I would've gotten anything healthy out of it in the end. I just can't wait around for a year when I'm not even sure about my feelings for the guy....I can't feel the chemistry without physical interaction....

I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out... unfortunately that's often the case with most online relationships. It's alright though, chin up :) you did what's right and there will surely be someone out there who deserves you. Stay strong x

[workingatperfect]

Sorry it didn't work out. You can make them work, but it's very hard when you're young. Kids can barely commit to someone in their town, let alone someone online. It's not impossible though, I got into one with someone from this site when I was barely 17 and now almost 19 and still together.

[johnpatric]

online relationship is just a fantasy...

people get attracted to someone online easily than in real life....in my opinion any relationship lasts long only if they trust each other.....without trust no relationship lasts long...in the same,people who are in online relationship must have trust on each other and patience......:)

we're not sure about the other person....but if we trust them,its okay..i think its better to meet personally at least once before starting online dating......

many people succeeded in online relationships and some ended by hurting each other.....

love can start at anytime and anywhere...so i think its better to think twice and act wise before starting online relationship....they have to be CAREFUL !!

[Babiole]

I don't think it's a good idea. It's more fulfilling to date someone you meet in person, plus it's safer.