Younger siblings -Be open with them

[Merk]

If you've got a younger brother or sister, and they're going to be, or are, going through puberty, then I ask of you, please start and maintain an open, comfortable dialog with them about puberty, bodies, and even new emotions. Sometimes it can be hard as the younger sibling, they don't know what you already do, remember that. I really do believe that when entering puberty you should be able to talk about it and understand what's going on, but I don't think anyone should go as far as to promote sex of any kind to anyone still developing, it's hard enough with the pressures from peers, don't be one to further them into that trap. It's not your fault when they rebel from innocence, so as time goes on make sure they know how important it is to tell you, or your parents, when something does goes wrong, even if they were somewhere they shouldn't have been, other teens are assholes, and I pray to God nobody is forced to encounter a pedophile, it's important. Thank you.

I felt this important to bring up, it should be brought up. It is important.

[Katie2003]

Yes, it is quite important.

I've always been totally open with my little sis who's 11, she happens to be transgendered from boy>>> girl and since the holidays last winter has been presenting herself as a girl and wearing girls clothes 100% of the time. She knows that we can talk about anything and that I'll give emotional support and honest answers to any questions, and that if there's something I'm not qualified to help with that I will help her find the appropriate person to talk to. She has an amazing resource in her transgender advocate, who knows the answers to everything.

[jamie_n5]

I am very close to my sister. I have always been very open with her and she with me. I will answer any questions the best i can and honestly.
I would do this with anyone that has a question.

[Ragle]

I don't. I've two older bros and they annoyed me with those stuff several times. I got through puberty on my own so far and it works very well for me.

And cause I'm a dude, I won't talk to my younger sis about it.

Also she claimes she's more mature than I am. So she knows it all. No need to bother her with puberty stuff.

[Ben99]

I agree with this. I am an only child so i didn’t have an older sibling to explain everything to me when i started puberty. That prob would have made it easier!

[MasonBA]

I talk with my little brother all the time. We share a room so we're naked together and he sees my body changing so if he has any questions we talk about them. We also talk with dad about everything

[Jordan99]

When my little brother was about four he asked why I didn't have a "pee pee" and why did I have "those things on my chest"? He was and is so cute. He's still very young and very innocent but when he asks questions I answer them.

[xSashax]

I’d agree. I’m glad my older siblings are very open to me and I don’t have to be shy or worry about whatever I’m gonna say to them.

[ImXur-girl]

When my little brother was about four he asked why I didn't have a "pee pee" and why did I have "those things on my chest"? He was and is so cute. He's still very young and very innocent but when he asks questions I answer them.

That's precious!!

[wrecked]

My little Sister and I are close enough that we talk about anything and everything with each other.

[Gabriel The French]

Im very close with my bro and I m very open about everything! So yeah, he hasn’t had any troubles or anxiety about his puberty and he is glad that taught him every body changes he ll have

[Falcons_11]

My brother and I are very close. I have helped him with puberty as much as I can. He is just beginning and I told him that I will be there for him. My sister has started puberty. But she is closer to our mom than to me. It's best that way for her. I really can't relate to girl's puberty stuff. But I did tell her that I would be there for her if she needs me and help her as much as I can.

[Jordan99]

That's precious!!

Aww, thanks :) I thought so too :)

[wheredidyousleeplast]

Couldn't agree more. great post.

[mick01]

My older brother was there for me and now I'm there for my little brother. We all have a pretty open relationship and can share anything. It's pretty nice to have.

[gurquenjen]

Without my older sisters being as open with me about development and sex and everything as they were, I think I'd have had a much less pleasant teenage experience in general. We (the older girls and I) are all really open with our younger siblings.

[citycanuck]

My little brother is 12 and has started puberty. We've always been quite close and we're both pretty comfortable around each other and talking about anything. I've been honest with him about anything he's been curious about or wanted to know. I think it's brought us even closer together.

[sweetiekate]

Yeah bring open is good. Awesome to have someone to share with.

[Soccerboy2005]

I have two younger brothers. Whatever question they have I will answer

[ImJulia]

I don't have any sibling but I would def be open to them about this if I did.

[coolmatt]

My older sister says I can talk to her but its weird cause im a guy. She said i should be able to come to her about anything but I feel weird about it. I dont want to talk about boners with my sister.

[Maddie2000]

My little brother and sister can come to me about anything. I’d hate for them to be confused or nervous about something and feel they don’t have anyone to talk to

[ashleigh7]

My older brother was always excepting of me and my needs, and always helped me if I needed it. :)

[big-girls-dont-cry]

My older sister says I can talk to her but its weird cause im a guy. She said i should be able to come to her about anything but I feel weird about it. I dont want to talk about boners with my sister.

My younger Brother has never come out and asked me about "boners" but now that he is as the age where he gets embarrassed by them and acts "weird" when he has one, i have told him a few times that he is only drawing more attention to himself when he tries to hide it.

[Allover Kelly]

For what I have done I will never tell my step brothers or half sisters anything

[gymgurl]

me and my lil sis are cool and open about everything.

[Ben7]

My little brother and I are very close, we share a room and we often talk about anything and everything. We often change in front of each other - its common to see each other in our underpants (esp. because we often sleep in them) and sometimes naked too, but not as often. We are comfortable talking to each other and he sometimes asks me stuff and while he might feel a little awkward asking, I think he still trusts me enough to ask and it feels good to know that your little brother trusts you so much and looks up to you enough to ask you anything. So yeah, it's a great thing to get along with younger siblings, and I couldn't think of any other way to be with my brother.

[Pultost]

My younger Brother has never come out and asked me about "boners" but now that he is as the age where he gets embarrassed by them and acts "weird" when he has one, i have told him a few times that he is only drawing more attention to himself when he tries to hide it.

That's something all boys should keep in mind. They might believe they're being discreet, while they're really not. xD

[Oliviaaa]

When my little sister asks me anything, I try to answer truthfully.

[Cangirl]

That's precious!!

When my little brother was about four he asked why I didn't have a "pee pee" and why did I have "those things on my chest"? He was and is so cute. He's still very young and very innocent but when he asks questions I answer them.

Thats what I was thinking too! So cute :)

[Cangirl]

I think this is a great post especially about peer pressure and trying to fit in and be cool. That even happens with older siblings who don't know any better and for us younger siblings who want to be grown up like them. Pressure is pressure even from them. My siblings, I have a big brother and sister and little brother, are open with each other and its great because my sister can answer girl things and my brother can answer guy things. yeah its embarrassing but we actually do have interesting chats.

[Cangirl]

For what I have done I will never tell my step brothers or half sisters anything

How come? What about just answering questions they have without saying what you've done. I know that it's your private business and that's ok not sharing with them if you don't want to but I think the OP was more about sharing information right? or maybe I misread lol. :) anyway hi!

[Lucy G]

When my little sister asks me anything, I try to answer truthfully.

That's good. I'm an only child but if I did have siblings (older or younger) I'd definitely try to be as open as I could

[Allover Kelly]

How come? What about just answering questions they have without saying what you've done. I know that it's your private business and that's ok not sharing with them if you don't want to but I think the OP was more about sharing information right? or maybe I misread lol. :) anyway hi!

I might tell later. But from the time I was 11 till a month before I moved in with my Dad I did things when I was on the streets and drinking and drugs that make feel shameful. Like how you tell someone you can never have a baby because you fucked up and your insides got a STD and you had to have part removed. Some things you can't gloss over.

[Jordan99]

Thats what I was thinking too! So cute :)

Aw, thanks :) He is cute!

[Connordude]

Totally, my sis is 13, we tell each other everything and she usually has questions and wants to know things from a boys POV

[arnorway]

i have 2 younger brothers, one is starting puberty. he asked a few questions about masturbation (if i do it, how often, ...) and porn (if i look at it, where to find it, ...) a few months back and i told him but it was weird. i'm not a whole lot older and would want him to ask whatever he wants but i fear it was too weird for him too.
maybe i talk to him again, so much positive comments in this thread

[arnorway]

My younger Brother has never come out and asked me about "boners" but now that he is as the age where he gets embarrassed by them and acts "weird" when he has one, i have told him a few times that he is only drawing more attention to himself when he tries to hide it.

poor brother but they are hard to hide :(

[Maxbreak]

i have 2 younger brothers, one is starting puberty. he asked a few questions about masturbation (if i do it, how often, ...) and porn (if i look at it, where to find it, ...) a few months back and i told him but it was weird. i'm not a whole lot older and would want him to ask whatever he wants but i fear it was too weird for him too.
maybe i talk to him again, so much positive comments in this thread

As a younger bro I'm close to my bro but not in that way. I hit puberty at 10 and it was difficult. It's good you are there for him. Just be honest. If there's things you are still learning. Just tell him. You can ask here too and get back to him

[NudistFun]

That's something all boys should keep in mind. They might believe they're being discreet, while they're really not. xD

Especially if they are nude already... WE ALREADY SEE YOU! Lmao, as if bathing suits are much better :)

[big-girls-dont-cry]

poor brother but they are hard to hide :(

I don't understand why boys try to hide them at all.........must be a boy thing

[NudistFun]

I don't understand why boys try to hide them at all.........must be a boy thing

Because they are taught it's shameful to be seen or have them :(

[arnorway]

Because they are taught it's shameful to be seen or have them :(

i was definitely not taught it's shameful to have them but i don't want my family to see. not that they never have, at least in like pajamas

[wrecked]

Because they are taught it's shameful to be seen or have them :(

Not me, growing up my Mom never made a big deal of it if i was hard while naked around her

[maria14]

my brother and i are cool and open about everything

[Jordan99]

I might tell later. But from the time I was 11 till a month before I moved in with my Dad I did things when I was on the streets and drinking and drugs that make feel shameful. Like how you tell someone you can never have a baby because you fucked up and your insides got a STD and you had to have part removed. Some things you can't gloss over.

I'm so very sorry for you, Kelly. No one (especially a child) should have to go through that. Is there no hope you will ever be able to have children?

[Jordan99]

Because they are taught it's shameful to be seen or have them :(

Yeah, and that is really sad our society teaches boys and men that. After all, girls are told to embrace their bodies and be proud of them. Most of us are not ashamed when we show camel toe or when our breasts are showing cleavage or a bit of cold nipple. It's how we're designed and there's NOTHING to be ashamed of!

[Allover Kelly]

I'm so very sorry for you, Kelly. No one (especially a child) should have to go through that. Is there no hope you will ever be able to have children?

No hope of having any of my own. I'm lucky they left the Ovaries to keep my body in balance. But they took the Cervix and Uterus and most of the tubes. I have no idea why they did not take all of them.

This is why I tell girls to always have the guy wear a condom. I have no idea the number of guys that got something from me. So glad I'm aids free, that I think was just luck.

[Jordan99]

No hope of having any of my own. I'm lucky they left the Ovaries to keep my body in balance. But they took the Cervix and Uterus and most of the tubes. I have no idea why they did not take all of them.

This is why I tell girls to always have the guy wear a condom. I have no idea the number of guys that got something from me. So glad I'm aids free, that I think was just luck.

Oh Dear, God! Kelly, you're only 15. I wish we were neighbors so I could come and just hug you and spend some time talking to you. This makes me so very, very sad. And, more than a little pissed off!

[Allover Kelly]

All I want is a better time. Now with my Dad it is such a huge change for me. All for the better. I will be going to a party for the first time in 4 months. No drinking, no drugs of any kind and home by 12. Love my Dad and his rules. Something I never had before him and his family.

[NudistFun]

All I want is a better time. Now with my Dad it is such a huge change for me. All for the better. I will be going to a party for the first time in 4 months. No drinking, no drugs of any kind and home by 12. Love my Dad and his rules. Something I never had before him and his family.

I'm so happy you have that now!! :)

[Mollypop]

All I want is a better time. Now with my Dad it is such a huge change for me. All for the better. I will be going to a party for the first time in 4 months. No drinking, no drugs of any kind and home by 12. Love my Dad and his rules. Something I never had before him and his family.

It's funny how you want that, since most teens want exactly the opposite. I know why it's that way for you, but it's a really different perspective to hear from someone who really wants those sorts of rules.

[melissa16]

I try to be open with my little brother, and try to answer any of his questions.

[martinaCRO14]

my brother and i sahre and talk about everything

[ashleigh7]

my brother and i sahre and talk about everything

That’s cool you guys are that close:)

[martinaCRO14]

yes! we never had a serious prob with each other

[Coping]

Im very close with my bro and I m very open about everything! So yeah, he hasn’t had any troubles or anxiety about his puberty and he is glad that taught him every body changes he ll have

That's really cool. I don't live at home any more but I still talk with my younger brothers all the time and I'm very open with them. :cool: