Best Friend?

[ryguy714]

We'll call my friend Drew. I like that name :3

I met him in sixth grade. It was awkward in the beginning, we didn't have much in common. We randomly began talking because we both had the same first name. Over time we got to know each other and we were best friends.

In eighth grade a new kid came, let's refer to him as Ray, moved to our school. I guess Drew and Ray hit it off because it was a month of silence between us. Drew has a lot of friends. I understand he wants to hang out with all of them.. Kinda. (I'm clingy okay?!) I felt like Ray broke Drew and I up.

Over the summer, he randomly texted me. Maybe it was because Ray and him got into a fight but we hung out. After that, we began hanging out again. Like he made a schedule.

Now, in ninth grade, we both began a group chat with a girl... Kelsey. I liked Kelsey, and so did Drew. Kelsey didn't like me back, she liked Drew. Kelsey didn't want to date him though because her best friend liked him too. He didn't feel this guilt with me liking her, maybe it's a girl thing. She now only talks to Drew.

I love performing, and I did the play this year. Drew did the play too even though he never showed interest. He ignores me every rehearsal. We have rehearsal Monday to Friday. He didn't contact me in any way and when I texted him he cut the conversation short.

Lastly, he slept over last weekend. It was awkward. Like when we met. We were going to see Divergent. He skipped the movie and said he wanted ask Kelsey out, doubt she'd say yes anyway.

I feel like we hit a climax of our friendship and now it's going downhill. I don't want to stop hanging out with him, I think of him as a brother even if he doesn't think of me as one. Maybe I'm just one in the crowd of his friends. And he just plucked me out for this weekend.
Is our friendship actually over?
Please tell me what you think.

[Gwen]

I think he is just really focused on that girl right now. Maybe you should give him time and maybe encourage him with what he wants to do. When people have crushes that are working out they tend to forget about other people but it usually stops after awhile. If he continues to ignore you for long enough try and talk to him alone about the problem. Communication is really the only way.

I doubt it would be over though, if you guys were as tight as it sounds most people won't just throw that away.

[JamesSuperBoy]

I think friendships change as we grow up - meet new people form new interests we hang out less.

[DiamondsGirl]

you really don't need to hang onto him if he makes you feel so awkward and ignored. I think he's just a little bit too focused on that girl right now though, once he got over this mini drama he might go back being the Drew you once knew. Still, from my personal experience, when somebody is your best friend they don't simply cut you off when they're going through a problem. Instead, they'd discuss it with you so that you can work out a solution together. You can either ask him what did you do wrong and explain that he means a lot to you, but if that's too much of a hassle I think it's time to wait and see who else life would bring forth.