Have a Girlfriend, But Have A Crush On A Guy?

[newyorker19]

So I'm 18 years old and have been dating my girlfriend for well over a year. I believe I am bisexual (though completely inexperienced with guys) and we still have sex regularly.

I found out today that a friend of mine (former best friend), who is gay, is moving across the country to go to college. I have always secretly held a small torch for this friend. I'm kind of sad to hear that he is leaving and I'm not sure why. I'm mostly sexually attracted to him, so I think I'm just sad that the "possibility" of being with him is disappearing. I don't really know what to do about these feelings.

What do you guys think?

Sorry if this isn't clear, please feel free to ask questions.

[Living For Love]

I believe that now you must worry about the relationship with your girlfriend. Do you think you still have feelings for her, like, is there still that "sparkle" when you two are together? If so, then I think you're fine, even if you have a crush on an guy, who is moving, so the feelings you have for him will probably fade away.

[Harley Quinn]

So I'm 18 years old and have been dating my girlfriend for well over a year. I believe I am bisexual (though completely inexperienced with guys) and we still have sex regularly.

I found out today that a friend of mine (former best friend), who is gay, is moving across the country to go to college. I have always secretly held a small torch for this friend. I'm kind of sad to hear that he is leaving and I'm not sure why. I'm mostly sexually attracted to him, so I think I'm just sad that the "possibility" of being with him is disappearing. I don't really know what to do about these feelings.

What do you guys think?

Sorry if this isn't clear, please feel free to ask questions.

The feelings you have, have probably progressively becoming more apparent due to the fact that he is moving. You're somewhat being forced to realise what you feels because he won't be near you any more. That being said, it's okay to have crushes and whatever when you are in a relationship, that is totally normal as long as you don't act on it while you are with someone. I think you need to talk to your girlfriend about all of it, then maybe talk to him so all the feelings and emotions are out in the open. I don't think at this point it's a major issue, you're just realising some things.

[newyorker19]

I believe that now you must worry about the relationship with your girlfriend. Do you think you still have feelings for her, like, is there still that "sparkle" when you two are together? If so, then I think you're fine, even if you have a crush on an guy, who is moving, so the feelings you have for him will probably fade away.

Yeah, that "sparkle" is still there. We're absolutely fine, not like anything has gone stale.

The feelings you have, have probably progressively becoming more apparent due to the fact that he is moving. You're somewhat being forced to realise what you feels because he won't be near you any more. That being said, it's okay to have crushes and whatever when you are in a relationship, that is totally normal as long as you don't act on it while you are with someone. I think you need to talk to your girlfriend about all of it, then maybe talk to him so all the feelings and emotions are out in the open. I don't think at this point it's a major issue, you're just realising some things.

I think you're right. I think I have always hopes there was a chance we could fool around or something, so I'm sad for that opportunity to go. He's a nicer a genuine person, as well as one of the only gay males I know, so I think I was just hoping for something that could never really happen.
I'm kind of non-confrontational (which is annoying), so I'm not sure about talking to my girlfriend or my friend about it. I wouldn't mind saying something to him after he left, but then what's the point of that?

[Luminous]

Attraction to others even while in a relationship is normal. I think you need to assess your feelings for your girlfriend and make sure that it really is her you care about.

[JustAnotherTeen]

I think you should put your girlfriend first. Your feelings for your friend have probably been rose by the fact he's leaving and you won't see him anymore.