Anyone else feeling "confused" and "unsure" of their masculinity as a guy these days?

[Luciano700]

I can assure you I am probably not the only one, but I don't know how big the epidemic is still.


For those feeling confused and unsure about it, how do you embrace your masculine traits and mentalities? All advice would be appreciated if I can figure out my masculinity once and for all. My habits shouldn't define me, is my character. My habits make me feel as if I was unintentionally emasculating myself, but I still have courage and braveness in me.

[joefelix]

I'm not really sure what you're talking about, but for me personally, I just live my life without thinking about trivial things like that.

[Luciano700]

I'm not really sure what you're talking about, but for me personally, I just live my life without thinking about trivial things like that.

What about very important masculine traits though? Such as confidence, bravery, critical thinking, responsibility, independence, etc?

No? That don't matter either?

Before this goes on any longer, I just said habits don't define masculinity, your traits do. I could care less if a buff ass bodybuilder wanted to wear nail polish on his toenails. Is all about the traits you have on your back.

Or if a guy wanted to show his feelings, so as long as the guy learns from those feelings and not use them for the sake of being a baby b!tch.

[joefelix]

I never said those traits weren't important, and at the same time I wouldn't say they're inherently masculine, for example, I am sure there exist females with a higher capacity for critical thinking that you (and myself of course). What I am saying about your original comment is that you're making a fuss over nothing. You talk about embracing masculine traits, how about you just embrace yourself. You talk about an epidemic, there isn't one. Just try to be a bit more comfortable about yourself and if you want to improve certain qualities there are ways to do so, but not as 'metaphysical' as you're talking about.

[ska8er]

I don't know what is troubling u other than
maybe identity issues. What habits do u claim
u have that makes u feel less masculine? A lot
of us have doubts of how we r but u have to
make the best of it and don't let it bother u.
U have to accept urself as u r or u r not going
to have any peace.

[jamie_n5]

We are all different and have different traits. You are who you are and can't change genetics. Some guys are very masculine and some are somewhat feminine. This is just how life works. I am Gay and if you didn't know me you would probably never guess it by my actions or the way I conduct myself. Some gays are the stereotypical types but I would say the majority are not. Like I said before we are who we are.

[Luciano700]

I don't know what is troubling u other than
maybe identity issues. What habits do u claim
u have that makes u feel less masculine? A lot
of us have doubts of how we r but u have to
make the best of it and don't let it bother u.
U have to accept urself as u r or u r not going
to have any peace.

So how do I find a purpose in life?

[joefelix]

Your traits don't define or determine your purpose, you must understand. Find purpose in being yourself, because I can guarantee the majority of people live their lives without fitting into any moulds.

[ska8er]

So how do I find a purpose in life?

Find something that u r good at as a hobby or music
sports reading or writing-something new and do ur
very best at it and u will get to like urself better and
make that b ur purpose in life.:)

[JQL---]

Dudes can be feminine. I say, do what you're comfortable with! It's not my(nor anyone else's place to decide)!

[LITHIUM101]

I sometimes feel physically inadequate compared to some other guys my age but i prove my self in other ways hobbies and stuff.

[Falcons_11]

I guess I'm still too young to think about my masculinity. I haven't really given it much thought. I like who I am. I like being a male and wouldn't want to ever change that. As far as I know most of my friends have the same feelings about themselves too. When I get to be an adult, I might worry about my masculinity. But, right now, I just will have fun living my life.