Erection and orgasm troubles

[Aero Solas]

I recently got a gf and we have tried intercourse multiple times. I got rid of my v card with her the first time we did it.

We have been trying to have intercourse ever since. Every time, I can never orgasm from penetrating and I have to finish myself off for her (which even that at times takes me a while to do.) She has tried giving me bj's and handy j's too but it still doesn't work. Judging by many people saying that on their first time, they came before they even penetrated, I feel like there may be something wrong with me.

On the erection part of the post, I find that I dont get hard as easily as others seem to. I also dont get random hard-ons as much as others it seems.

If anyone could help me with these issues in one way or another, it would be much appreciated. I'm 15 btw.

[Cycler21]

can you get hard looking at straight porn?

[Aero Solas]

Without touching? Sometimes. With touching? Easily

[Aero Solas]

can you get hard looking at straight porn?
Sorry I'm new I forgot to tag your comment.

[that guy97]

yo im the same way
you jerkoff so you know what you likeso when someone else does it that not that good you go forever

[Second Chance]

I recently got a gf and we have tried intercourse multiple times. I got rid of my v card with her the first time we did it.

We have been trying to have intercourse ever since. Every time, I can never orgasm from penetrating and I have to finish myself off for her (which even that at times takes me a while to do.) She has tried giving me bj's and handy j's too but it still doesn't work. Judging by many people saying that on their first time, they came before they even penetrated, I feel like there may be something wrong with me.

On the erection part of the post, I find that I dont get hard as easily as others seem to. I also dont get random hard-ons as much as others it seems.

If anyone could help me with these issues in one way or another, it would be much appreciated. I'm 15 btw.

My thinking is that you are pressuring yourself too much when you have sex, and you have in your mind how you want things to go and get frustrated when thing do not work out. I think you should take things really slowly and not try to have "perfect sex." What I mean is enjoy the moment and have fun with your girlfriend, and everything else will just happen. If you go soft while having sex, then laugh about it and do not get upset. Sex is also about feedback, and make sure you're telling your partner what works and what does not. I am sure there might be some positions she takes that makes you feel really good while there are other ones that are not so good. You two are probably just getting used to each other, and just talk things out. It might take you a little bit to get good at sex, and do not worry if things are not going as planned right now. You are normal, and you just need some practice confidence, and know that it is all right to make mistakes.

[Aero Solas]

yo im the same way
you jerkoff so you know what you likeso when someone else does it that not that good you go forever

Yea i have heard about that

[Aero Solas]

My thinking is that you are pressuring yourself too much when you have sex, and you have in your mind how you want things to go and get frustrated when thing do not work out. I think you should take things really slowly and not try to have "perfect sex." What I mean is enjoy the moment and have fun with your girlfriend, and everything else will just happen. If you go soft while having sex, then laugh about it and do not get upset. Sex is also about feedback, and make sure you're telling your partner what works and what does not. I am sure there might be some positions she takes that makes you feel really good while there are other ones that are not so good. You two are probably just getting used to each other, and just talk things out. It might take you a little bit to get good at sex, and do not worry if things are not going as planned right now. You are normal, and you just need some practice confidence, and know that it is all right to make mistakes.

ya that makes sense.. thanks that kinds boosted my confidence :3

[scott2002]

I remember reading that guys that routinely masturbate using an aggressive or fast and hard stroking of their penis can accidentally train their penis to NEED extremely intense physical stimulation to reach orgasm. It talked about it taking a while where the guy has to almost totally avoid masturbating in order to reset it to require much less intense physical stimulation to reach orgasm. So, do you think you could control yourself to not masturbate at all for maybe a whole week, and then penetrate her? (Also, do you need to wear a condom or not when having sex? Having to wear a condom might make it more difficult, too, I think.)

[ska8er]

I think ur under a lot of tension during
intercourse and maybe it would b better
if u ease up a bit and enjoy it more and
then have a more intense orgasm without
doing so on ur own. After losing ur v-card
sex may then not b as great as the
first time. I would say it comes down to
control and taking ur time.

[Aero Solas]

I remember reading that guys that routinely masturbate using an aggressive or fast and hard stroking of their penis can accidentally train their penis to NEED extremely intense physical stimulation to reach orgasm. It talked about it taking a while where the guy has to almost totally avoid masturbating in order to reset it to require much less intense physical stimulation to reach orgasm. So, do you think you could control yourself to not masturbate at all for maybe a whole week, and then penetrate her? (Also, do you need to wear a condom or not when having sex? Having to wear a condom might make it more difficult, too, I think.)

Shes on the pill so i dont have to and what your describing is basically what i did. im taking 3 weeks off of no masturbating before i have intercourse with her again. this is my first eek complete.

[Aero Solas]

I think ur under a lot of tension during
intercourse and maybe it would b better
if u ease up a bit and enjoy it more and
then have a more intense orgasm without
doing so on ur own. After losing ur v-card
sex may then not b as great as the
first time. I would say it comes down to
control and taking ur time.

Fair and my first time didnt go well at all haha id rather keep the memory of losing it with someone i love and not remember how it went :p

[Turbofan explosion]

Is it easy when you jerk off by yourself?

[Aero Solas]

Is it easy when you jerk off by yourself?

Fairly easy yes

[jamie_n5]

I would say that you are too worried about performance. Just enjoy yourself and look for the ultimate pleasure and orgasm and don't worry about her so much and enjoy the sex.

[Aero Solas]

I would say that you are too worried about performance. Just enjoy yourself and look for the ultimate pleasure and orgasm and don't worry about her so much and enjoy the sex.

Yea that's the plan for the next time I'm with her

[baseballhockey5]

I would reccomend maybe watching porn before to make you more aroused

[garfield221]

I got the same problem