So I told my mother that I was an atheist...

[Sir Suomi]

...And it went absolutely terrible. I was in the car with her, on the way home, and she told me that I needed to choose between going to Sunday morning church, or Wednesday night church, and I replied that I did not want to, and that I was too busy to do either. She told me I was going to have to drop whatever it was I was doing and I had to go to church, and I told her that would never happen, because I won't waste my time going to something I don't believe in. Well, she flipped shit, and is going to take away my phone, xbox, and going to be grounded, unless I "change my ways". I told her there was no way in hell I was going to let that happen, and she said I'm going to have to deal with it if I'm going to live under her roof. So I told her fine, and that I'll find somewhere else to live. She yelled at me more, and I yelled back, and went into my room, where I currently have been laying down. If my mom is going to be like this, I'm going to move in with my uncle and aunt, who live on the other side of town. I love my mom, but this is absolute bullshit. It's why I hate religion, because of shit like this. I fucking hate being in the Bible Belt. I'll try and keep you informed on what's happening. Hopefully I'll be able to keep my laptop or at least my phone so I can still at least be connected to the outside world. All I know is I'm not going to give in.

[Seemyheart]

...And it went absolutely terrible. I was in the car with her, on the way home, and she told me that I needed to choose between going to Sunday morning church, or Wednesday night church, and I replied that I did not want to, and that I was too busy to do either. She told me I was going to have to drop whatever it was I was doing and I had to go to church, and I told her that would never happen, because I won't waste my time going to something I don't believe in. Well, she flipped shit, and is going to take away my phone, xbox, and going to be grounded, unless I "change my ways". I told her there was no way in hell I was going to let that happen, and she said I'm going to have to deal with it if I'm going to live under her roof. So I told her fine, and that I'll find somewhere else to live. She yelled at me more, and I yelled back, and went into my room, where I currently have been laying down. If my mom is going to be like this, I'm going to move in with my uncle and aunt, who live on the other side of town. I love my mom, but this is absolute bullshit. It's why I hate religion, because of shit like this. I fucking hate being in the Bible Belt. I'll try and keep you informed on what's happening. Hopefully I'll be able to keep my laptop or at least my phone so I can still at least be connected to the outside world. All I know is I'm not going to give in.

I am religious but I don't force my beliefs on anyone else. So I agree she shouldn't force her beliefs on you, you're your own person, you are old enough to be making your own decisions on what you do or don't believe in.
I really hope everything works out

[conniption]

Shit, that's intense. I can't believe you're still holding strong. If my mom had reacted like that, I would have been at a church in seconds singing hymns and all that nonsense. Good luck, dude.

[Stronk Serb]

Holy crap. You can try finding something in the Bible to use for your defense. Or you can just say that you are tired of lying to her, the church and yourself. My coming out as an atheist went a bit smoother, dad's an atheist, and mom... she was not much of an example for a Christian. She went on my first communion and that ritual when they serve bread in wine. Now I get awkward looks when I draw daemonic signs and pagan symbols. I told my mom I am fascinated by my ancestral religion and the occult. Not believing in that, but the pagan rituals are pretty fun. I can't believe we abandoned the chill ways of the Old Gods for Christianity which tore the Slavic people apart. Anyway good luck. Try to get your older family members to talk some sense into her.

[DiamondsGirl]

Thanks a bunch, now I know I better not tell any of my parents at all. I mean... for goodness' sake, that's insane! Can it even go any worse?? Glad to hear you still have your uncle and aunt hope all goes well for you from here on.

I was about to start a thread regarding atheism and being accepted by the family and friends... but this whole thread has answered my question. Nope, am never going to tell anyone anything. Nope nope nope nope nope never. I'm leaving for the US for college real soon anyways soon these people would be nothing more than a distant memory.

[phuckphace]

IMO that's something that needs to wait until you turn 18 and/or have some way of making it on your own. pissing your parents off like this at 15 is literally biting the hand that feeds you, which is never a good idea unless they're unfit parents by the legal definition (physically abusive, strung out, etc.) of course I think she's overreacting and handling this poorly but at the end of the day you're a minor and she's your mom, so she's well within her rights to take away your phone and console for any reason. you definitely should've stashed your stuff at a friend's place before you "dropped the fedora bomb," but what's done is done.

[DiamondsGirl]

This ^^^

I was too shocked writing my first reply to remember mentioning this. I agree completely with phuckphace. I do know your mom is over-reacting and being completely unfair, but for someone who is deeply religious your confession must be a huge shock for her. And I guess it sorta pushed her to react that way.

You got me curious now though. Do you think she fulfills the "unfit parents by legal definition" criteria mentioned on the post above?

[Hope Is Here]

I was an atheist for some time, but I've changed my decision after all what I had in my life. So I think everyone needs time to understand, It must be your decision, but not your parents. Talk to your mome once again and tell her that you need some time to think about it.

[Gamma Male]

Fuck. That sucks.
Hope things work out with your aunt and uncle.

[plebble]

Well your mother is wrong. She has no right to decide what you believe in. Beliefs are beliefs and they should be kept to yourself. You've done nothing wrong.

[KaraaaHope]

Well your mother is wrong. She has no right to decide what you believe in. Beliefs are beliefs and they should be kept to yourself. You've done nothing wrong.

100% true all the way.

[Karkat]

Well your mother is wrong. She has no right to decide what you believe in. Beliefs are beliefs and they should be kept to yourself. You've done nothing wrong.

Exactly.

She shouldn't have overreacted. I hate it that religion does that to people as well. Best of luck.

[Snydergate]

You're parents or at least your mom is a religious nut. I am religious but I don't care what others believe; I am very open with other belief systems and enjoy learning about them. People who demand you believe what they believe are crazy, literally crazy and very intolerant. You might just have to move out, or let you're mom calm down and try talking to her again in a calmer way. If that doesn't work, then I would start packing my bags.

[KaraaaHope]

The mom from "Carrie" comes to mind actually. Hopefully the end of this story doesn't involve a fire.

[FullyAlive]

I think both of you overreacted, she shouldn't have reacted so dramatically to what you said but you should have tried harder to to understand her point of view. If she's that religious she probably feels its her parental duty to keep you on the right track and for her that's the religious one. But to be honest you only have 3 more years until you're an adult I don't see that it's too much of an issue to continue going to church until then. You don't have to actually believe just comply with her wishes and attend, it would make your life a whole lot easier. It might be difficult to sit through things you don't believe but wouldn't you rather keep a good relationship with your mum and sit through a few hours a week of church?

[Hundred Spirited God]

First,your mom isn't being a b****,she want's what's best for you,if you go around doing whatever you want,your bound to get struck down by bad,if you went to church and made friends there instead of school,you wouldn't get made fun of,it's like two roads,the dangerous path and the safe path,you choose to be independent and take the dangerous path,where there's bad,and your mom wanted to go on the safe path where there's good,like I said,your mom want's what's best for you,it's Like karma too,you do bad things,bad things happen to you,you do good things,good things happen to you

[ryguy714]

Yes I think that it is wrong what she had said. However, your mother may be like this because she feels she wasn't able to raise you the way she wanted and she has not let go of you to do your own thing.

[Miserabilia]

Wow man.
All my feels go out to you.
I can't/don't even want to imagine what it must be like in such a strictly religious place...
It's crazy that you have to "come out" with being atheist anyway.
Like where I live they dropped that f*ing attitude right after WW2, they were like who needs this s*t anyways let's focus on accepting everyone and al of the sudden when the next generation became atheist the whole place became tolerant and everything thrived and,....
well I don't know.
Hope your family stops losing their s*t over something that ridiculous.

[Croconaw]

She sounds like a bitch. My grandmother would have that exact same reaction.

[Sir Suomi]

Well I suppose I should finally update this. Things chilled down about a week after the incident. She still leaves smart remarks every once and awhile about it, and she's still forcing me to go to church on holidays with her, which I agreed to, as long as I wasn't forced to go for the rest of the year. I love my mom, and I get that she wants to raise me up right, but in the end, I feel like it's my right to believe in what I want to believe, regardless of my age. It's not like I don't appreciate everything she's done, I do. And I know I can be a little shit from time to time. But still, I love her, no matter what she believes in.

[Ben_Frost]

IMHO, I think you should keep something like that only to you to avoid conflict with your family, and once you live by yourself do as you please... your mother only wants what she thinks is best for you, if I were you I'd play along just to have some peace of mind for myself and my mom. Good luck with your plans and best wishes for you.

[Microcosm]

I hate it when people do that. I am actually a bit confused with what I believe in atm, but my dad's mom's brother(who I see fairly often)is extremely religious ALL THE TIME! I don't like to have these things forced on me or anyone else.

[Aliases]

Ok, the only thing wrong I see here is the fact that she's not letting you voice what you believe in. So what if you're atheist, seriously.. It's not a damn crisis. She seems like she forces you to believe in whatever she feels is right, which is wrong.. considering everybody is different even if you're related or not.

[Body odah Man]

...And it went absolutely terrible. I was in the car with her, on the way home, and she told me that I needed to choose between going to Sunday morning church, or Wednesday night church, and I replied that I did not want to, and that I was too busy to do either. She told me I was going to have to drop whatever it was I was doing and I had to go to church, and I told her that would never happen, because I won't waste my time going to something I don't believe in. Well, she flipped shit, and is going to take away my phone, xbox, and going to be grounded, unless I "change my ways". I told her there was no way in hell I was going to let that happen, and she said I'm going to have to deal with it if I'm going to live under her roof. So I told her fine, and that I'll find somewhere else to live. She yelled at me more, and I yelled back, and went into my room, where I currently have been laying down. If my mom is going to be like this, I'm going to move in with my uncle and aunt, who live on the other side of town. I love my mom, but this is absolute bullshit. It's why I hate religion, because of shit like this. I fucking hate being in the Bible Belt. I'll try and keep you informed on what's happening. Hopefully I'll be able to keep my laptop or at least my phone so I can still at least be connected to the outside world. All I know is I'm not going to give in.

Wow, bro. Just...wow. That is some harsh shit right there. Still you did the right thing-u fought for what you believed in and did it recklessly so fuck yeah my friend! :) Stick to your guns, stay strong and hang in there-we're rooting for ya! :)

[Stronk Serb]

Well I suppose I should finally update this. Things chilled down about a week after the incident. She still leaves smart remarks every once and awhile about it, and she's still forcing me to go to church on holidays with her, which I agreed to, as long as I wasn't forced to go for the rest of the year. I love my mom, and I get that she wants to raise me up right, but in the end, I feel like it's my right to believe in what I want to believe, regardless of my age. It's not like I don't appreciate everything she's done, I do. And I know I can be a little shit from time to time. But still, I love her, no matter what she believes in.


Well, better that than nothing. She would get used to it and probably stop fprcing you after a while. Just like Cheesee said, they dropped that kind of attitude right after WW2 here too. The socialist government was secular and was against forcing kids to church if they don't want to. My family got used to the pagan/anti-theist/daemonic crap I have. Hope things keep getting better from now.

[Giando]

Hold on man.
Although it's your mother, you must make valid your opinions.
You haven't done anything wrong.