VoxeD
September 11th, 2018, 09:03 PM
Hoi. This is my first post here and I'm not sure whether you guys can help or not but I just need someone's opinion about this because I'm pretty stressed out and worried right now, so have at thee.
Heads up, there's a lot of things to be told, so this is going to be really long. In the middle of seventh grade, a girl who I saw plenty of times at school started a conversation via text with me after I replied to her Instagram story. We talked for a very long time, and soon we became really close friends. The first month or so I thought of her as just a friend. As time passed by, I started to have a crush on her, and by the end of 7th grade, it grew into love, but she still thought of me as just a close friend.
We started to grow really close as time passed by. She told me a lot of her secrets and I helped her go through her tough times. Sometime in May, I confessed my love to her, and to my surprise, she didn't mind as much as I thought she would. She was used to stuff like this because a lot of 6th graders were telling her that they liked her. She later said that my feelings for her were a little weird but she didn't mind that much.
She started to date around June. Her first relationship lasted for like 2 weeks, and her second relationship lasted around a couple days. You will see the second boyfriend later in this thing, so I'll call him M. In the late summer, she started to date another guy. I'll call this guy G. I'll call my friend E as well. E and G showed more promise than E and M and her first relationship. When the start of 8th grade was coming, she said that she was dealing with some bad stuff and she couldn't talk right now. I sent her a message of encouragement and love and said stuff like "Hi" hoping she would talk with me. She saw them but she never responded.
School started, and I was surprised that she was acting normal and talking with friends a lot so I messaged her again. This is where her ignoring got pretty bad for a couple of days. On Friday, she finally responded and apologized that she wasn't talking to me as often, but I forgot to ask her why she was ignoring my messages. She told me that she was having more issues with M and G, and she wasn't really open to talk to me about it. I was a bit offended, but I let it go. After all, I shouldn't force her to tell me if she doesn't want to.
The week after, her ignoring-thingy got better, but it was still there, and on another Friday, she told me that M was constantly bothering and hugging her, and M and G were going to fight tomorrow. I didn't take this seriously at first so I joked about it, saying "Yeesh, forget Logan Paul vs. KSI". She got seriously upset about this, and told me to not to talk to her.
I was really confused and remorse, so I decided to talk to G (whom we were friends at the time). I asked him to explain about what's going on, and he did, but most of the stuff I already knew via E. The only new things I learned is that he cancelled the fight and that Esther was mad at him right now. Take a note that I asked him politely and didn't force him to explain anything nor begged him to.
The next day, wrote a really long apology to E about the joke on her Instagram DMs, but her response was completely different than what I expected. She said the joke thing was fine, but she was upset that I talked with Joseph. She said that I invaded her and G's privacy and what Joseph told me was none of my business. I mindlessly apologized, but I didn't know what I was apologizing for. She told me to fuck off and never talk to her or G again, as G was disturbed as well according to her. She then blocked me on Instagram.
I was absolutely perplexed. If she's upset about me talking to G, and the little bits of information he told me was "none of my business", then why did G tell me this? As said before, he told me this completely on his own will, and he wasn't pressured to, so I assumed that what little he told me wasn't "private" or anything. So isn't this G's fault and not mine? Also, G was really open and friendly when I talked to him. He said that I helped him, and he treated me as if I was a good friend, but NOW he's mad at me too? So what did I do wrong? Was there is a misunderstanding or they think I did something else that I didn't?
Desperate and confused, I messaged Joseph, but to no response. After one last try, I gave up and asked E on Hangouts to explain what exactly what I did that breached her and G's privacy, and how did it do so, but she ignored that question and told me why she blocked me instead:
1. She wanted to block me for a long time (Note that the "breach of privacy" was a day before this response)
2. G told her to block me
3. "It" was an invasion of her and G's privacy
Needless to say, she blocked me on Hangouts as well.
This only made things so much unclear for me, so the next day, at a last desperate attempt to know what I did wrong, I messaged Joseph asking him the same thing, and I told him that if he ignores the message like he did with the others, I will never message him again, and viola, he ignored it!
And here we are today, where I apparently "invaded" my friend and her boyfriend's privacy without knowing how, and now I just lost one of the best friends I had in my life who also happens to be the girl I love most. I don't know if I'm not getting it because I'm really stupid and delusional, or there's a huge misunderstanding going on, but yeah. Some input would be appreciated here....
Heads up, there's a lot of things to be told, so this is going to be really long. In the middle of seventh grade, a girl who I saw plenty of times at school started a conversation via text with me after I replied to her Instagram story. We talked for a very long time, and soon we became really close friends. The first month or so I thought of her as just a friend. As time passed by, I started to have a crush on her, and by the end of 7th grade, it grew into love, but she still thought of me as just a close friend.
We started to grow really close as time passed by. She told me a lot of her secrets and I helped her go through her tough times. Sometime in May, I confessed my love to her, and to my surprise, she didn't mind as much as I thought she would. She was used to stuff like this because a lot of 6th graders were telling her that they liked her. She later said that my feelings for her were a little weird but she didn't mind that much.
She started to date around June. Her first relationship lasted for like 2 weeks, and her second relationship lasted around a couple days. You will see the second boyfriend later in this thing, so I'll call him M. In the late summer, she started to date another guy. I'll call this guy G. I'll call my friend E as well. E and G showed more promise than E and M and her first relationship. When the start of 8th grade was coming, she said that she was dealing with some bad stuff and she couldn't talk right now. I sent her a message of encouragement and love and said stuff like "Hi" hoping she would talk with me. She saw them but she never responded.
School started, and I was surprised that she was acting normal and talking with friends a lot so I messaged her again. This is where her ignoring got pretty bad for a couple of days. On Friday, she finally responded and apologized that she wasn't talking to me as often, but I forgot to ask her why she was ignoring my messages. She told me that she was having more issues with M and G, and she wasn't really open to talk to me about it. I was a bit offended, but I let it go. After all, I shouldn't force her to tell me if she doesn't want to.
The week after, her ignoring-thingy got better, but it was still there, and on another Friday, she told me that M was constantly bothering and hugging her, and M and G were going to fight tomorrow. I didn't take this seriously at first so I joked about it, saying "Yeesh, forget Logan Paul vs. KSI". She got seriously upset about this, and told me to not to talk to her.
I was really confused and remorse, so I decided to talk to G (whom we were friends at the time). I asked him to explain about what's going on, and he did, but most of the stuff I already knew via E. The only new things I learned is that he cancelled the fight and that Esther was mad at him right now. Take a note that I asked him politely and didn't force him to explain anything nor begged him to.
The next day, wrote a really long apology to E about the joke on her Instagram DMs, but her response was completely different than what I expected. She said the joke thing was fine, but she was upset that I talked with Joseph. She said that I invaded her and G's privacy and what Joseph told me was none of my business. I mindlessly apologized, but I didn't know what I was apologizing for. She told me to fuck off and never talk to her or G again, as G was disturbed as well according to her. She then blocked me on Instagram.
I was absolutely perplexed. If she's upset about me talking to G, and the little bits of information he told me was "none of my business", then why did G tell me this? As said before, he told me this completely on his own will, and he wasn't pressured to, so I assumed that what little he told me wasn't "private" or anything. So isn't this G's fault and not mine? Also, G was really open and friendly when I talked to him. He said that I helped him, and he treated me as if I was a good friend, but NOW he's mad at me too? So what did I do wrong? Was there is a misunderstanding or they think I did something else that I didn't?
Desperate and confused, I messaged Joseph, but to no response. After one last try, I gave up and asked E on Hangouts to explain what exactly what I did that breached her and G's privacy, and how did it do so, but she ignored that question and told me why she blocked me instead:
1. She wanted to block me for a long time (Note that the "breach of privacy" was a day before this response)
2. G told her to block me
3. "It" was an invasion of her and G's privacy
Needless to say, she blocked me on Hangouts as well.
This only made things so much unclear for me, so the next day, at a last desperate attempt to know what I did wrong, I messaged Joseph asking him the same thing, and I told him that if he ignores the message like he did with the others, I will never message him again, and viola, he ignored it!
And here we are today, where I apparently "invaded" my friend and her boyfriend's privacy without knowing how, and now I just lost one of the best friends I had in my life who also happens to be the girl I love most. I don't know if I'm not getting it because I'm really stupid and delusional, or there's a huge misunderstanding going on, but yeah. Some input would be appreciated here....