I Want to tell my best friend I like him

[LollyPopOhLollyPop]

I’m a girl. He’s a guy. If I just tell him I could possibly lose my best friend. If I don’t tell him I’ll never tell know what could have happened. If I do tell him and we do date we’ll probably break up since we’re just in high school. Please give advice.

[Uniquemind]

I think it’s worth the risk people drift apart past age 18 anyway usually because after graduation people go to different colleges and then jobs eat up all the free hangout time.

[LollyPopOhLollyPop]

Do you have any ideas on how to tell him without actually telling him directly.

[EmilyM]

I would be honest about how you feel. You will always wonder what could have been if you don’t

[Katie2003]

Maybe the direct approach is best, sometime when there's nothing else going on just say something like "You know I've always liked you, don't you? Our friendship means a lot, but I think there could be more than that.......what do you think?"

And just see what his reply is.

My mom the psychologist always says that later on in life we will regret the things we didn't do much more than we will regret any mistakes we made along the way. If it's meant to be, you'll get a really positive response from him and I doubt he'll be surprised at all.

[mick01]

I would encourage you to speak up. He could possibly be thinking the same thing.

[ska8er]

So ur in high school. Its the best place to
crush on each other. Tell him u like him
and c where it goes from there.

[KyleM76]

I’d tell him

[Jordan99]

Do you have any ideas on how to tell him without actually telling him directly.

This is what frustrates guys about us...girls drop hints, suggest but never are just honest. Guys aren't able to read our minds. Be honest with him and just tell him how you feel. Nothing ventured/nothing gained.

[Uniquemind]

I too think the direct approach is best given that most guys don’t pickup subtle hints like to we drop like being a little more smiley around them, or more touchy like a lingering hot hand on their shoulder when socially appropriate.

The guys that DO get it, in my experience play this game, but sometimes this also indicates those guys are players with experience and you might be about to get burned months later. It just depends.


But I think the direct approach is best but should be a conversation set up when the two of you are alone and agree on how much to publically show off the fact you are together assuming it turns out well. Some new couples like to flaunt they’re a new item, and others like to be more low key and coy.

[Fourth]

The best approach would be.... to tell him directly. My advice is just to build it up, don't just drop the bomb like "I really like you." kind of thing, it might overwhelm him.

I have been in this situation before. I really didn't tell her directly that I liked her and just became her close friend. Then she got in a relationship, and it made me regret that I didn't just say it. It surprising that even though it was years ago (we're still good friends now, btw) it still makes me think what would've happened if I told her.

So yeah, you won't know unless you try.

[LollyPopOhLollyPop]

What all of you are telling me is that I should take a chance at losing my best friend in the whole world?

[Uniquemind]

What all of you are telling me is that I should take a chance at losing my best friend in the whole world?

Yes; because it's possible you'll lose them anyway if you had the ability to gaze into the future. Inaction, isn't a safe option to preserve the friendship either.

What makes friendships that go into relationships that end up breaking apart, is usually traced to other problems like cheating or lack of communication or an unbalanced sense of mutual possession of each other.

[Ben99]

I would do it. I doubt he will just stop being friends with you. Maybe if he doesen’t say yes now, he might get feelings for you in a few months.