Friend Gave Up On Me

[wallflower101]

My friend gave up on our friendship .-. She keeps saying that friends aren't forever and happiness is only temporarily . We both go to different schools and she's lonely. I try to talk to her as much as I can but it's like she pushing me back. I have a hard time making friends and she was the most important one to me. I pulled her out of some tough times and we bought were there for each other. She was the only friend I can count on and I'd always know she'd be there. We haven't seen each other in months and it breaks my heart to see her go. I tried my best , but she's not budging. She stopped talking to me and I'm left here to wonder.

[Just JT]

Well....that sucks....but....sounds like she’s really struggling with something and won’t let you help or in. Nothing you can do about that, sorry for your loss...

Reality is I think she’s kinda wrong, friends are forever, but we all use that word to loosely don’t we?

I say if something small and trivial draws 2 people who they believed were friends away from each other, then the friendship wasn’t as strong as they believed, or wasn’t ever a friendship to begin with....

I get it’s hard to make new friends, and you’ll need to try, so be open about it, try harder, but not to hard...join a club or 2, get I volved in some volunteer work you like, you’ll meet people with common interests and go from there...

[Katie2003]

Sometimes things happen that we simply can't change. It sounds like your friend might have emotional issues that are affecting her life and her thoughts about your friendship. Unfortunately I don't think there's anything you can do at this point other than to wish her well and leave the door open in case she ever wants to contact you in the future.

Many things in life aren't forever, people make new friends, and old friends drift apart or break up for various reasons. It's usually no one's fault, it's just that maybe you weren't perfectly suited toward each other all along and she could have been struggling with things she's never been comfortable about putting into words. I know you must be heartbroken and hurting over losing your friend, but be thankful that you had each other at a time that both of you needed what the other could provide in emotional support.

I had a very good friend back away from me recently, as we got older her thinking and values on some things that are apparently very important to her now have changed and she regrets having done or supported certain things that happened in her life previously, some of which involved me. At least we are still speaking to each other politely, but she's made it clear that we aren't going to be hanging out together any longer. She's not mad at me, and I'm not mad at her, but we've agreed to disagree on those things and let life go on.

[ska8er]

Tell her that her friendship was most
important to u and that denying u of
her friendship is hurting u. Seems like
she is depressed. Keep in contact with
her and tell if she wants to open up-u
will listen. Even tho u think she gave
up on u text her asking how she is
doing. There was a friendship there
once-don't give up on her.