How to get a gf?

[coolmatt]

I am starting school tommorow and i really want a gf this year. are there any tips for how to get one? i really like one girl but idk if she likes me and i just want a chance with her.

[Second Chance]

I would say try to find a girl that has common interests with you. If you are trying to find one at school, then it could be something as simple as getting to know someone at your bus stop (if you take a bus) who is someone in your neighborhood to someone on a school club.

Just be careful that hormones do not overtake good sense, and remember that having a girlfriend/boyfriend takes a lot of work. There is an emotional side to having a girlfriend/boyfriend and not just the physical side which most guys like to have.

The most important thing about finding a girlfriend is being yourself, being respectful to the other person, and taking things slow. You might start out as friends and work your way up to a girlfriend. Do not be in a rush to compete with others to get a girlfriend, and it is all right to be single for a while if you cannot find the right person. Just make sure whoever you find is someone who is like you and is not just someone who looks good. Many times it is far better to be with someone who appreciates you for being you as opposed to going with someone who wants to make you into someone they want you to be.

[mick01]

I wouldn't rush into anything either. Just get used to the new school year before you worry about getting a gf. Let it happen naturally. One day you'll find some girl looking at you and you'll look at her and that will be the one.

[ska8er]

Start with smiling and saying
Hello-introduce urself-b self
confident and don't try to act
cool cause it might come off
as showing off at first. Get to
know her better asking her
what she likes to do then talk
to her about her interests. Try
not to act desperate.

[wallflower101]

Don't get a girlfriend just to get a girlfriend. Maybe make friends with a few girls and so where it goes from there. Take it slow and don't rush into anything, because then your gonna be left in a situation where the relationship stays in one spot. Be yourself and have fun. If you get a girlfriend and decide it isn't time for you or your not interested then be honest with them.

[coolmatt]

I talked to the girl I like a few times now and she always smiles at me and laughs at my jokes. I think she likes me. I think I will ask her to be my gf soon

[InternetTeen]

Just be patient and wait. The right person will eventually come along. I haven't had a girlfriend in over 2 years. I know that i will find someone later in life that will be perfect for me.

[Second Chance]

I talked to the girl I like a few times now and she always smiles at me and laughs at my jokes. I think she likes me. I think I will ask her to be my gf soon

I would get to know her firstly and see if she honestly likes you as more than a friend. It is going to take at least two months to figure things out assuming that you do not already know her. You need to do your homework and figure out who this girl is and if she is someone you would like to be around.

You also need to know what your definition of a girlfriend is and what the girl's definition of a boyfriend is so that you both are working on the same page.

If you have a female relative who is close in age to you, then it would be a good thing if you ask them what a girl wants because it is always good to learn from other's perspectives.

Some things you really should figure out about the girl:

1. What kind of things she likes to do
2. Who her friends are
3. Where she hangs out during her free time
4. Has she had a boyfriend before?
5. Is she controlling/clingy, or will she let you do your own thing?
6. Do your friends like her?
7. Would her parents like you?
8. What she wants out of a boyfriend and if you agree with that?
9. What you want out of a girlfriend and if she is all right with that?
10. How her personality is like especially when she is frustrated because that tells you a lot about a person.


The following are reasons to stay away from a given girl:

1. Her friends do not like you
2. Your friends do not like her
3. She is someone who is high maintenance
4. She has an alcohol/drug problem
5. She demands to get physical when you're not ready.
6. You want to get physical but she's not ready
7. Either or both of your families do not allow dating
8. Her parents do not like you for whatever reason
9. Your parents do not like the girl
10. Your expectations of a relationship are totally different between the two of you.

I agree with the person above who said not to get a girlfriend just for the sake of getting one. All because your friends may have girlfriends/boyfriends and you're single does not mean there's something wrong with you. Having a girlfriend takes a lot of work, and never rush into these things. Take things slowly, and even if you both are not a couple, then you both still can be friends. More than anything you and the girl need to have a lot of things in common otherwise like the person above said, your relationship will get stuck in one spot. Think with your big head and not your little one, and do not let hormones attract you to the girl when instead you have to look at the whole package especially personality.

Also, in the event she turns you down and does not want to go out with you do not hold that against her. The way you handle her rejection is going to set the tone on how other girls view you. If she is not nice if she rejects you, then do not worry because it will be her loss and not yours in the unlikely event that it does happen.

Good luck!

[coolmatt]

I been texting with her all week and getting to know her. We are hanging out with a group of people this weekend. I do think she likes me

[Second Chance]

I been texting with her all week and getting to know her. We are hanging out with a group of people this weekend. I do think she likes me

I think texting her is the way to go, and hanging out with a group is even better still because you can see how she interacts with people that you both consider friends.

The key is seeing how you both interact in real life and whether there is more than a physical attraction between you both. As long as you both like a lot of the same things and agree on a lot of things, then you have a good chance with her.

Remember, take things slowly, and this girl has to be your actual friend firstly before you can even think about becoming boyfriend-girlfriend. Never be clingy, and give her space.

I really hope you have fun this weekend and that things work out!

[EmilyM]

Just be yourself and be confident. Don’t rush or force it . Things will work out like they should

[coolmatt]

Getting ready to hang out im really nervous i hope she likes me. I want to make her laugh alot today cause she has the best smile and i hope her friends like me to

[EmilyM]

Getting ready to hang out im really nervous i hope she likes me. I want to make her laugh alot today cause she has the best smile and i hope her friends like me to

You’ll do great! Just be yourself! Good luck! Let us know how it goes

[julienprod]

i've been looking for a gf/bf for a looong time and then i stopped, and more boys and girls came to me, so just live your life and be yourself !