Loosing your virginity

[Tori101]

What would you count as loosing your virginity? Some people count it as normal sex (penis in vagina) and some count it as just oral sex. I count it as normal sex but I waned to see what everyone else thought.

[logan2002]

I thought I lost mine when I put my penis in a girls vagina.

[INACTIVEchaosphere]

What would you count as loosing your virginity? Some people count it as normal sex (penis in vagina) and some count it as just oral sex. I count it as normal sex but I waned to see what everyone else thought.

I agree, in heterosexual couples, I would count it as penetrative sex, in homosexual couples it can be a little more ambiguous, but most people regardless of sexuality have some idea of what act they would specifically consider sex, so in that respect it can be kind of subjective. I think if a person believes they consensually lost their virginity, they then have. Though I don't believe it works both ways where a person who consensually had penetrative sex can then claim they're a virgin. Maybe it has more to do with the circumstances and sentiment surrounding the partners in their acts than then acts themselves.

[Jake445]

I wouldn't count oral sex but in general, it's more a mindset than a defined thing. For me personally it would be either vaginal or anal intercourse.

[Katie2003]

I wouldn't include oral sex either. I know that virginity is taken by allowing intercourse up your rectum, but some girls including me think we can still claim vaginal virginity if we've not had a penis inside there yet.

[Katrinchen]

I wouldn't include oral sex either. I know that virginity is taken by allowing intercourse up your rectum, but some girls including me think we can still claim vaginal virginity if we've not had a penis inside there yet.

yes to that - i think it is for girls only when a penis break your hymen
all other is "only" experience and playing

[mick01]

I think any kind of penetrative sex would count towards losing your virginity. so anal or vaginal penetration would mean loss of virginity.

[Ashwells9991]

vaginal or anal penetration for sure, i wouldnt count oral or anything

[jamie_n5]

I would count loosing your virginity as having sexual intercourse and not any oral sex or even using a dildo to masturbate with.

[MasonBA]

intercourse is my definition.

[Jordan99]

I wouldn't include oral sex either. I know that virginity is taken by allowing intercourse up your rectum, but some girls including me think we can still claim vaginal virginity if we've not had a penis inside there yet.

I agree. I wouldn't count oral as losing my virginity. I lost my vaginal and anal virginity both at 16 so in my terms, I am no longer a virgin.

[Tap27future]

I consider myself to have lost it twice, once receiving anal, once giving vaginal intercourse.

[KyleM76]

In my opinion vag or anal sex is how you loose it. Oral is a big step too but idt it counts as loosing virginity

[Jessi03]

In a hetrosexual relationship i think definitely when the penis goes in the vagina. In a homosexual relationship, i think the definition is a little more broad and open for interpretation.

[Katie2003]

In a hetrosexual relationship i think definitely when the penis goes in the vagina. In a homosexual relationship, i think the definition is a little more broad and open for interpretation.

I agree. I think that needs to be clearly defined for same gender interaction. It seems that it might be possible for two 100% lesbian women to have a lifetime relationship and be sexually active together yet still remain virgins based on the most commonly accepted definition if there is never a penis involved.

[ashleigh7]

In a hetrosexual relationship i think definitely when the penis goes in the vagina. In a homosexual relationship, i think the definition is a little more broad and open for interpretation.


I second this :) cheers everyone! ;)

[EmilyM]

Yeah I would say penetration is what counts

[Soccerboy2005]

I would say penetration is what counts as loosing your virginity

[ImXur-girl]

Yeah I would say penetration is what counts

I feel the same....

Until i have a penis in my vagina i AM a virgin!

[NamelessHuman]

I’m gay, so I think I’m a virgin until reviving anal I think?

[DanielleIU]

Virginity is a very general term. IMO, if you've never had vaginal sex (penetration), then you're a vaginal virgin. If you've never had anal sex, you're an anal virgin. Same for oral. As a general term for heteros, most people use virginity to refer to vaginal penetration. That's why I know girls who have had oral and anal, but still consider themselves to be virgins. Also, virginity should be considered something that is lost consensually. If someone is assaulted or otherwise forced into an act, they retain their virginity. Virginity is something you choose to lose, not something someone takes from you.

[ImJulia]

I have only done anal but I guess I don't consider myself a virgin

[annababy02]

In a hetrosexual relationship i think definitely when the penis goes in the vagina. In a homosexual relationship, i think the definition is a little more broad and open for interpretation.

Agreed!

[KateMarshal]

I did oral sex and I EM VIRGIN! I never had penis in my vagina and anithink in my butt.

[ClaraPott]

Penis in vagina = you arent virgin anymore.

[Pultost]

Until the day I get a penis inside my vagina, I consider myself a virgin, no matter what I else do.

[Anomaly6]

Oral doesnt count, it has to be penis into vagina I'm pretty sure!

[Claire Asteroid]

I did oral sex and I EM VIRGIN! I never had penis in my vagina and anithink in my butt.

I've had oral sex from a girl but I never gave it to a boy and I've never had a penis in my vagina so I'm a virgin.

[xSashax]

I’d think it’s just normal sex

[Exiros]

Normal sex for me.

[stoneflowe96]

For mr it is any sexual interaction with someone. One can have sex in so diffrent ways that it would be strange to call someone virgin who has sexual experiance. One cool definition from a TED talk was getting an orgasm as definition of losing once virginity. I don't know if there was the requirement to be with someone.

[Bluegrass]

Oral? Is that like just talking?

[Maxbreak]

Oral? Is that like just talking?

Oral is when you put the boy's penis in Ur mouth and make him cum that way

Sadly I've done nothing

[ArthurHannenburg]

I'd say it's actual penetration. Then for gay couples the same but anal, I'm not sure about lesbians so please educate me

[stoneflowe96]

Oral? Is that like just talking?

This means stimulating the vulva or penis of your partner with the mouth, or receiving this sexual act

[tessa-]

I don’t think anyone really considers it losing their virginity if they have oral
Or even anal

[Chris298]

I considered myself a virgin until I put my penis inside my girlfriend's vagina, although I have to admit, I didn't feel like I really lost it until the first time I had sex without a condom, maybe its just me, but I felt like I didnt really lose I until I had that actual skin on skin contact

[SethfromMI]

I think any kind of penetrative sex would count towards losing your virginity. so anal or vaginal penetration would mean loss of virginity.

I'd say it's actual penetration. Then for gay couples the same but anal, I'm not sure about lesbians so please educate me

These answers right here. At the end of the day if someone wants to count oral, then so be it. I wouldn't though.

[Oliviaaa]

Vaginal intercourse.

[Lila123]

Vaginal sex is what I believe losing your virginity is from

[tessa-]

Vaginal intercourse.

Agreed

[Mariooo]

definitly vaginal intercourse (penis in vagina)

[ashleigh7]

Vaginal sex is what I believe losing your virginity is from

I agree with Lila.

[InternetTeen]

Vaginal definitely.

[vandilization]

definitely vaginal intercourse

[Falcons_11]

Vaginal and anal intercourse would qualify.

[scentlessapprentice]

"virginity" isn't really real. It's just a word that was made up years ago to describe the first time a man's penis goes inside a woman's vagina.

It doesn't really take into account anyone other than straight people. Because if the definition of "losing your virginity" is penetration, then by that logic, lesbians are virgins forever.

[Oscar-V3.0]

Because if the definition of "losing your virginity" is penetration, then by that logic, lesbians are virgins forever.
Virgin is only a word. As long as they have pleasure and feel good with each other it doesn't matter what they're labeled

[Jrunner]

To me (and this is just me) I think it's penetrative sex

[mattsmith48]

Penetration with at least one participants having an orgasm

[StephWilson]

I consider it losing your v card when a guy has his penis inside you

[Sammy_03]

Personally, I would only count (for heterosexual couples) putting a penis in the other's vagina. But gay couples, I would count anal. Since I'm bi, I would count giving/ receiving anal (w a guy) or 'normal sex' with a girl. That's just what my friends and I have thought and consider to be 'the norm'.

[Connordude]

Vagina penetration if straight / anal if gay male / oral for gay fem was my understanding

[PositiveVibes]

I feel the same....

Until i have a penis in my vagina i AM a virgin!

Yeah i see it like this for sure

[mixel19]

for str8 people and gay guys I think you lose your virginity through vaginal and/or anal penetration involving a penis. For lesbians or other non binary types who don't use a penis during sex, I guess you lose your virginity when you and the other person(s) both perform a similar sex act on each other during the same session. Like, you can't go down on your partner and not receive anything from them and say you lost your virginity, but if you both do it, then you can? That's just my 2 cents, I have very little perspective on the matter so don't quote me on that