Obsession

[Blashyrkh]

I got rejected by her 1 year and 1 month ago. But i can't stop loving her. I collect her photos. I wan't to die with her. Help me.

[ska8er]

Ur holding on to this too long. She
told u No so there is no use in u
thinking things r going to change.
Get out and meet new people. Get
a job to forget the past. As for the
dying part-find someone to talk this
over with. She is not worth the hurt
u have been carrying this long. Find
someone whos going to appreciate u.
BTW-that dying comment concerns me.
This rejection is not the end of the world
so don't make it urs.

[Blashyrkh]

I don't think things are going to change. I can't talk about it with anyone i know. No one listens to me. And if they do, they don't take me serious.

No one likes me the way i am. I always have to act.

Day dreaming about that one tought makes me find peace. Holding hands with her while slowly passing out. Gliding into eternity.

I can't even cry.

[ska8er]

No one here has that kind of help
that can walk u through ur thoughts.
Find a professional that can help u
with mind therapy-and the sooner
the better.

[Second Chance]

I got rejected by her 1 year and 1 month ago. But i can't stop loving her. I collect her photos. I wan't to die with her. Help me.

At this stage you understand you have a problem, and what you are describing is not safe or healthy. You have to get professional help as soon as possible and understand that the person who you like does not feel the same about you. It does not mean you are a bad person or unworthy of love, but all that means is that she has ever right to her feelings no different than you. She made a choice that she does not want to be with you which is her call which you need to respect.

You can start out by helping yourself by getting rid of any photographs you have of the girl. Getting rid of immediate reminders of the girl is important as well as stopping yourself from stalking her either in person or digitally. You also need to get your mind off of her by doing other things.

Above all else, please seek professional help. There must be a counselor at school you can see who can assist you. You have to get to the root of why you are so obsessed with this person so that you can avoid having that kind of feelings in the future.

If you are in a position where you cannot get professional help, then you have to try to talk things out with someone who is trusted. This can include a family member, a friend, a member of the clergy/religious organization, or even an older trusted person. What you cannot do is expect people to justify your obsession, and I think your best bet is to ask people to help you get your mind off of it.

Again, if there is anyway you can seek professional help, then you can certainly use it. There is no shame in it because it seems like you're hurting, and a professional can really put things into perspective for you.

[Blashyrkh]

Update: It's gone. I don't love her anymore. After a year and 2 months, my obsession is gone on it's own. I don't know how. But like 2 or 3 days ago when i looked at one of her photos, i realized that i don't feel anything towards her anymore. She's just like another person walking past the street for me. I am completely neutral. I can't understand after a year and two months of intense emotions (love, hate, romantic fantasies, dreams, nightmares and suicidal toughts) how did my feelings stopped immediately. Think of it like a switch turned off. It's weird.

[hayley2003]

i've never heard that happening before either. strange that it would just suddenly end.

[BlackParadePixie]

nevermind. didn't see the update.

[ska8er]

Update: It's gone. I don't love her anymore. After a year and 2 months, my obsession is gone on it's own. I don't know how. But like 2 or 3 days ago when i looked at one of her photos, i realized that i don't feel anything towards her anymore. She's just like another person walking past the street for me. I am completely neutral. I can't understand after a year and two months of intense emotions (love, hate, romantic fantasies, dreams, nightmares and suicidal toughts) how did my feelings stopped immediately. Think of it like a switch turned off. It's weird.

If this is true then I hope things will
work out for u but Id still try and talk to
someone over the suicidal thoughts u had.
Depression and elation don't mix with past
relationships. :confused:

[Jrunner]

Can’t rly talk about how much breakups hurt (Haven’t had a relationship or a breakup yet lol) but I’m just wondering, does being “over her” (if u rly are) kinda put into perspective the whole wanting to die w her thing? Bc damn, I’ve never heard anyone say THAT before, not tryna make light of ur sitch or anything.

[Blashyrkh]

I'll tell exactly what happened. When I was checking if she updated her whatsapp photo (to download it) i saw that she uploaded a photo with her new boyfriend. Then i was like "I am not going to download this". I saw her with 3 other guys in total after she rejected me but i didn't mind them and i kept loving her. But this last one had an effect on me unlike the others. I don't know why. After a day or two, i realized that i don't feel anyhthing towards her anymore.

I'm not sure if it's related to this but since then (like 2 weeks) i feel like I am an unidentifiable spirit that lives in a human body. I don't feel like a human but I behave like one. What I see in a mirror is not the true me.

[Uniquemind]

I'll tell exactly what happened. When I was checking if she updated her whatsapp photo (to download it) i saw that she uploaded a photo with her new boyfriend. Then i was like "I am not going to download this". I saw her with 3 other guys in total after she rejected me but i didn't mind them and i kept loving her. But this last one had an effect on me unlike the others. I don't know why. After a day or two, i realized that i don't feel anyhthing towards her anymore.

I'm not sure if it's related to this but since then (like 2 weeks) i feel like I am an unidentifiable spirit that lives in a human body. I don't feel like a human but I behave like one. What I see in a mirror is not the true me.

I think you’re having some kind of spiritual epiphany, like your beginning to see the difference and the connectedness between the spiritual world and the physical one, so you’ve got a paradox where one world says gender is an illusion and another one that says it matters because the physical environment of others and social roles makes it matter.

It’s a type of dissociation, but it could be a healthy learning experience to move on and find someone new.