Question about the decision to finally bereave myself of innocence

[Zuka]

Technically saying, I have lately found someone I believe wishes to do it with me. Thus far, I ask - should I agree, and fall into their tease, or should I hold myself back, and lose my card at an older age? The thought is honestly tough. Hence my plead for help. I'm open to any good suggestions!

[MrGhosty123]

Honestly, I think it would be wise to wait. If you do "do it" at this early of an age, many things could happen: you could get in trouble with your family, friends, and even peers. Even worse, what happens if you get this person pregnant (assuming that they are female), are you ready for that kind of responsibly at your age (going off what is showing on your profile). I, and this is my personal choice, would choose to wait till I'm married to even think of engaging in any sexual intercourse. Now, other sexual activities that don't involve intercourse is entirely your choice, but as far as intercourse, I wouldn't. But, hey, it's all up to you. (^-^)

[Zuka]

Honestly, I think it would be wise to wait. If you do "do it" at this early of an age, many things could happen: you could get in trouble with your family, friends, and even peers. Even worse, what happens if you get this person pregnant (assuming that they are female), are you ready for that kind of responsibly at your age (going off what is showing on your profile). I, and this is my personal choice, would choose to wait till I'm married to even think of engaging in any sexual intercourse. Now, other sexual activities that don't involve intercourse is entirely your choice, but as far as intercourse, I wouldn't. But, hey, it's all up to you. (^-^)

Well, all right. And yes, the individual 'm talking about within this post is indeed female. As for impregnating her, we would surely use protection - therefore.. I'm not sure. She does as well know a number of the people I do too. That's one risk.

[ShineintheDark]

Only you can truly make this choice. You of course have to consider the fact that no type of protection is perfect and that you have to remain careful and vigilant at all times. You have to be sure of your choice because once you've had sex, it's done and nothing will undo it. It'll also change your mindset and how you approach relationships, whether you intentionally do so or not. It's honestly up to you and if you feel that you're ready and prepared for it then good luck man.

[West Coast Sheriff]

It depends on who the person is. Can you trust them? if they are a shady person, ignore them because you could face consequences. Who knows how they will react. If they are a trustworthy person, then it is still your choice but less could go wrong. If you think you are too young, maybe consider waiting. Like ShineintheDark said, once you've done it you will think about it and it changes how you think in many ways. other questions to think about might be Are you relatively mature for someone your age? What relationship experience have you had? Do you want to do this? Are you nervous? Excited?

[Soccerboy2005]

I would say only you can make that decision, but if you have to come
on hear and ask, I’d say you probably aren’t ready.

[Second Chance]

Technically saying, I have lately found someone I believe wishes to do it with me. Thus far, I ask - should I agree, and fall into their tease, or should I hold myself back, and lose my card at an older age? The thought is honestly tough. Hence my plead for help. I'm open to any good suggestions!

In the end of the day, like the others have said, the choice is yours. What I will say is make sure that if you are going to have sex that you are ready for the following:

1. That you can afford protection for yourself.
2. That you know for sure your partner is on birth control (assuming you want to have sex with a girl).
3. That your partner is clean of STDs and that she/he has a lab test to prove it.
4. That if something so happens to go wrong during sex that if it is a girl that you can go to a place for her to get emergency contraception or if it is a boy that you are willing to explain why you have a particular problem to a healthcare provider.
5. In the unlikely event that your partner was not truthful to you about STDs and that you need to get treated that you feel comfortable telling your parent(s) that you need to see a doctor or seek medical attention.
6. That you are ready for the emotional side of sex because it is not just physical feelings that are involved with sex. Especially with girls there is a major emotional side to sex.

Basically, as long as you are totally ready for everything that comes along with sex and have the financial resources to pay for your protection and potentially that of your partner, then I suppose you are ready. Just make sure you are having sex because you truly want to do so and not because you want to keep up with everyone else or because you feel you need to please someone else. Anyone who demands sex of you to stay in a relationship when you are not ready is definitely not worth your time.

Finally, you have to look at your family's morality and see if having sex right now fits into their values. If they are all right with your having sex, then you should be good to go; if they would not be all right with your having sex until you are out on your own, then wait until you're older.

[Zuka]

In the end of the day, like the others have said, the choice is yours. What I will say is make sure that if you are going to have sex that you are ready for the following:

1. That you can afford protection for yourself.
2. That you know for sure your partner is on birth control (assuming you want to have sex with a girl).
3. That your partner is clean of STDs and that she/he has a lab test to prove it.
4. That if something so happens to go wrong during sex that if it is a girl that you can go to a place for her to get emergency contraception or if it is a boy that you are willing to explain why you have a particular problem to a healthcare provider.
5. In the unlikely event that your partner was not truthful to you about STDs and that you need to get treated that you feel comfortable telling your parent(s) that you need to see a doctor or seek medical attention.
6. That you are ready for the emotional side of sex because it is not just physical feelings that are involved with sex. Especially with girls there is a major emotional side to sex.

Basically, as long as you are totally ready for everything that comes along with sex and have the financial resources to pay for your protection and potentially that of your partner, then I suppose you are ready. Just make sure you are having sex because you truly want to do so and not because you want to keep up with everyone else or because you feel you need to please someone else. Anyone who demands sex of you to stay in a relationship when you are not ready is definitely not worth your time.

Finally, you have to look at your family's morality and see if having sex right now fits into their values. If they are all right with your having sex, then you should be good to go; if they would not be all right with your having sex until you are out on your own, then wait until you're older.

All checked, except the bottom. My family surely would not react positively.

[Thecolynatorgator]

14 is a little young I think, I'd personally wait until at least 16. It may not seem like it, but at 14 you're still really innocent

[Tsall]

If you think you are ready, go for it. It is your choice, so make sure you have condoms.

[Second Chance]

All checked, except the bottom. My family surely would not react positively.

What I will say is that if you know for a fact your family would not be all right with your having sex, then you should hold off until you are on your own. As long as you live with your family, then they make the rules. Once you are on your own, then you can have sex with whoever you want since you are taking care of yourself. As long as your family pays for your upkeep, then they have a say over what you do.

If your concern is that having sex will make you an "adult" or make you "mature," then there is a lot more to becoming an adult than having sex.

[Zuka]

What I will say is that if you know for a fact your family would not be all right with your having sex, then you should hold off until you are on your own. As long as you live with your family, then they make the rules. Once you are on your own, then you can have sex with whoever you want since you are taking care of yourself. As long as your family pays for your upkeep, then they have a say over what you do.

If your concern is that having sex will make you an "adult" or make you "mature," then there is a lot more to becoming an adult than having sex.

You know what's funny here?.. I don't know how to express it.

[jamie_n5]

Only you can decide. I wouldn't do it just to do it. I would wait until I found someone I loved or really cared about. The decision is all yours my friend.

[Harrier]

You have to decide. But I have heard it said, "if you have to ask, you are NOT ready"