I don't like my girlfriend's flirty 'jokes'

[Gregson]

Hi

I don’t really know how to deal with this and I don’t know if I’m over reacting.

My girlfriend is very outgoing and she is very flirty with my friends.

She likes playing a joke on them because she thinks it’s funny to see their reaction.

I know she only means it as a joke but I’m not comfortable with it and when I try to speak to her she tells me it’s only a joke and I need to lighten up.

I don’t know what to do :(

[ShineintheDark]

For some people, they're naturally flirty with others. Hell, I've been known to jokingly hit on pretty much any guy. However, if it makes you really uncomfortable then it's equally her duty to listen to your concerns and try and reach a conclusion you both agree with since it isn't helpful for your relationship to have this issue between you.

[Gregson]

Thanks

I know she isn't really hitting on my friends and that she isn't interested in them and that's why she thinks I need to lighten up because she says it's just a fun game she likes to do to see them blush.

It's difficult to know what to do :(

[Vilnius]

Explain to her that it bothers you. Of course it’s her choice, but part of relationships involves coming to healthy compromises for your significant other.

[Gregson]

I have explained that to her. She just doesn't see what the problem is because she's not interested in hitting on my friends.

She just wants to embarrass them and think it's just a joke.

[BlackParadePixie]

any way you can be a little more specific about what she's doing? You left things kinda vague...so don't really know what you're talking about.

[ska8er]

If she is not hitting up on anyone
with her flirty jokes then b a sport
lighten up. She could b doing or
saying a lot of other things that
could b considered a prob. Id
laugh with her too.

[Gregson]

any way you can be a little more specific about what she's doing? You left things kinda vague...so don't really know what you're talking about.

Whenever we're together as a group of friends for a meal or at someone's house she'll sit facing one of my friends then take her shoe off and rub her foot up and down his private parts under the table.

She'll laugh as she's doing it and say stuff like that 'Let's see how much of this you can take'

I know she isn't interested in any of my friends. She thinks it's funny and likes seeing their reactions when she does it.

[Vilnius]

Whenever we're together as a group of friends for a meal or at someone's house she'll sit facing one of my friends then take her shoe off and rub her foot up and down his private parts under the table.

She'll laugh as she's doing it and say stuff like that 'Let's see how much of this you can take'

I know she isn't interested in any of my friends. She thinks it's funny and likes seeing their reactions when she does it.

Yeah, that’s not something you should deal with at all. She needs to understand why this would bother you.

[Gregson]

Thanks

I don't know what to do. When I've spoken to her she doesn't seem to see what the problem is.

Why do you think she's doing it?

[nickole999]

Thanks

I don't know what to do. When I've spoken to her she doesn't seem to see what the problem is.

Why do you think she's doing it?

it's just her nature

[Keenan.]

Just tell her you're not up for it. What your not comfortable about, she should know

[Harrier]

People who are dating don't "own" their dates. They aren't property and can't make them change their ways. All people that have relationships should know that. Besides explaining to her how it makes you feel, you can't make her change. If she ignores that she is hurting you then she obviously doesn't care about your feelings. And touching guys dicks with her feet is pretty bold. Ask her how she would feel if you touched girls boobs with your hand.