And if your friend told you that he is gay?

[Gustavo13]

Hi :)
Before i get started write, forgive for any mistake, i am from Brasil and i dont speak english fluently !
Well, i am gay, and i am feeling me so bad and lonely lately...I dont have nobody to converse about how i am really feeling... I dont know how my friends will treat me if i talk with somebody about this...And this is why i am asking that... What would you do if your friend tell for you that he is gay???? Please, be since...

[Harley Quinn]

P101 :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[Meganium]

I would proceed to not give a singular fuck. He's still my friend, simple as that.

If you have genuine friends, then they won't leave you because you're gay. That's ridiculous. If they deny you after you became friends, then you're better off without them.

[backjruton]

I'd do what my friends did when I told them.

I'd probably laugh to start with but I would accept it, definitely, because I've had great conversations recently and I've decided I am myself. I even told one friend I'm physically attracted to him and got no bad feelings from it :D but I can't explain everything. Just because I'm physically attracted to him (personality and looks I am in love with) it doesn't mean I want to have sex with him which is what I think he is assuming :P

[yonkers7]

your friends won't care...friends are friends...they always treat each other with care and respect

[Celtics]

One of my best friends know I'm attracted to him and don't care, I actually think he likes it to ;). If he is your friend he won't care and if he does then he isn't your friend after all.

[Ethe14]

True friends won't care, if they didnt want to be your friend after you tell them then find some new friends. My friends were accepting and made no big deal out of it, they treat me no differently. I don't care if they that's so gay because I know they don't mean it literally.

[Seemyheart]

My friend once told me she was bi and had feelings for me... I accepted her, and just acted like nothing happened, we didn't act differently or anything. I agree with everyone else... true friends won't care :)

[Gustavo13]

Thanks for all the answers :)
I'm still thinking about it... I dont have many friends, and i'm afraid of losing them... But if you were to tell a friend that will, as you would tell?
I've tried it will tell a friend, but the words just did not leave on time...

[ScottishCanary]

Of course a lot of this will depend on the local culture around homosexuality and the level of homophobia in the area. I personally wouldn't care if a friend came out to me as LGBT, I would like them just as much as before they told me. Good luck whatever you decide :)

[Living For Love]

I wouldn't have any problem accepting him/her. I think you're too young to worry about this. If you're sure you're gay, that's great, at least you don't have to struggle with yourself in that matter, but it's not necessary to come out now. Nevertheless, if they are your real friends, they will accept you.

[ATOMICskittles]

As a gay too, you just have to do it with your closet friends and work outward. I am the type of person who can two flying fucks what or how someone thinks of me. So being openly gay wasn't a problem. Only you can determine how would be trustworthy as a friend. Good luck

[Luminous]

If your friends don't like it, they're not good friends. It may take them a little bit to understand it and accept it, just like it did for you when you started to figure it out, but they are your friends and should stick by you through everything.

[Gustavo13]

again, thanks for all the answers...But i and my best friend are not telling us... he starts to be close to a guy i hate ( so stupid, selfish, ignorant), and distance themselves for me...We do not discuss, do not fight, we simply drifted apart... I' am really sad and alone... Anyway, now i really don't have anybody to talk,i no longer need to make that decision. thanks for all.. bye

[ksdnfkfr]

Any friend worth having knows everything about you and likes you anyways.

[Bmble_B]

I would be glad that he told me, we would still remain friends as well of course. ( Considering the fact that I'm like, 80% gay any way so :P )

[Croconaw]

I wouldn't care if any of my friends were gay. It doesn't matter because we all deserve a friend. If my friend told me they were gay, I'd be sort of shocked at first, but I'd accept it. I wouldn't think of them any different because they'd still be my friends.

[steellord321]

I want to offer a different view, as someone who lost all friends over this. It's so easy to say "oh if they reject you they aren't worth keeping anyway." Well if it's your best friend since 1st grade or ALL your friends, easier said than done. Really, better off being alone? Of course, the closet sucks too so even then you might wanna just get it out there.

[From Chris]

Hi :)
Before i get started write, forgive for any mistake, i am from Brasil and i dont speak english fluently !
Well, i am gay, and i am feeling me so bad and lonely lately...I dont have nobody to converse about how i am really feeling... I dont know how my friends will treat me if i talk with somebody about this...And this is why i am asking that... What would you do if your friend tell for you that he is gay???? Please, be since...

Hi there Gustavo! I understand well how lonely you can feel about your sexuality when people around you don't understand or accept it. It's hard to deal with things when you can't talk to people. Seeing as how i'm gay, of course i wouldn't mind a friend coming out to me. I know it's hard to talk to people about you being gay and telling your friends because you risk them not accepting you. However part of coming out and talking about your sexuality is risking people not accepting you. If they are good friends they should accept you for who you are! :) Hope this helps.

-Chris <3

[PinkFloyd]

I would accept him for sure. He's my friend and I would not ever judge him on his sexuality just like I wouldn't ever judge him on his sexuality.

[HeroesAndCons]

Friend: I am gay.
Me: Sweet! Me too. Let's get ice cream

[Celtics]

I wouldn't care at all.

[Typhlosion]

If you and your friend are parting ways, I think it'd be good to first reestablish the friendship before telling him. Appearing out of the blue and just telling him might be awkward for both of you, you'll show your despair and might just worsen your distancing.

But before telling, do you know what your friend thinks about homosexuality? Brazil really isn't the most accepting country to non-standard people, with the constant jokes about [faggots, transsexualism]. If you're feeling safe on telling him, include such info casually in a conversation and see how that conversation works out: if he's interested, doesn't care, finds it odd...

[ugaboy]

Any friend of mine telling me they were gay would have nothing less than my support and understanding. No difference at all in the friendship. Well maybe a little different, as I would think more highly of him for trusting me with that information.

[Bolwing]

I'd high-five him.