old crush - what to do?

[centreoftheuniverse]

hi :metal:

i've recently met a boy at camp. he's a few months younger than me, and so i feel a lot more confident around him than guys in my school year/age group, who are generally a little older than me. it took me a week to like him, and then i sent him a message after the camp telling him that i like him. he responded with we can meet at camp next year (he lives over an hour and half away from me, so outside camp we can't meet).

the thing is, there are two other guys i'm unsure about.

one; i've liked him for maybe three or four years now, only i know that he's a bit out of my reach - popular, sporty, etc. most boys at school don't really like me, but i couldn't help like this one. he's pretty cute, but i can't see myself having a chance with him. besides, i'm pretty sure he likes another girl.

the second guy is a little more within my grasp. we're a little more on the same social level, and i talk with him more often at school (mostly banter). i'm 99% sure i like him, but not 100. the thing is that i think he likes a friend of mine - they're in the same class, unlike me, and are always hanging out.

do you think i should just forget the two older boys and see where i can go with the younger one? or should i try pursue one of the older boys?

(i kind of know what to do, i'm just looking for an outside perspective + advice)

[Katie2003]

I see a couple of possible courses of action here.

My mom always says you will never know what's possible unless you try; and later in life you will regret the things you could have done but didn't far more than you will regret any mistakes you may have made along the way. She's a psychologist so I tend to trust her outlook.

So which one means the most to you on an emotional level, and which means the most as a friend but not necessarily as a romantic partner? The answer to your question is right there. Simply go for the one that is most important at this time in your life. :) If it happens to be the same person for both my questions, that's totally awesome!

[Semi_IronMan]

It seems like you’re shooting the possibilities down before you even try them out. I say GO FOR IT! LIVE A LITTLE. The first guy being im a different social circle shouldn’t be an obstacle, I would like to think that people aren’t that shallow anymore, I mean it’s flipping 2018!!!! Just talk to him, find out if you really do like him and whether or not the feelings are reciprocated.

With the other guy I don’t think you should just assume how he’s feeling, don’t mistake what could probably be friendly affection with romance. I think you should find out how your friend feels about him and how he feels about your friend, then you should make up your mind. I’m not gonna tell you what to do, you will know what to do, do whatever your heart tells you.

As for the guy at the camp, you might just be infatuated. Think about it like this: you guys were in an isolated environment and hormones where in play, it was bound to happen. I think before you totally make him your first priority you should try it out in THE REAL WORLD, how will the distance affect your relationship? And only seeing each other after a long time? Are u ready for a long distance relationship? Do you even want one?


I guess all I’m saying is, explpre all the possibilities, don’t be your own enemy and block your opportunities, just try it out, you might even get surprised. All the best though!

[centreoftheuniverse]

I see a couple of possible courses of action here.

My mom always says you will never know what's possible unless you try; and later in life you will regret the things you could have done but didn't far more than you will regret any mistakes you may have made along the way. She's a psychologist so I tend to trust her outlook.

So which one means the most to you on an emotional level, and which means the most as a friend but not necessarily as a romantic partner? The answer to your question is right there. Simply go for the one that is most important at this time in your life. :) If it happens to be the same person for both my questions, that's totally awesome!

i like you're approach! thank you for the advice :D

It seems like you’re shooting the possibilities down before you even try them out. I say GO FOR IT! LIVE A LITTLE. The first guy being im a different social circle shouldn’t be an obstacle, I would like to think that people aren’t that shallow anymore, I mean it’s flipping 2018!!!! Just talk to him, find out if you really do like him and whether or not the feelings are reciprocated.

With the other guy I don’t think you should just assume how he’s feeling, don’t mistake what could probably be friendly affection with romance. I think you should find out how your friend feels about him and how he feels about your friend, then you should make up your mind. I’m not gonna tell you what to do, you will know what to do, do whatever your heart tells you.

As for the guy at the camp, you might just be infatuated. Think about it like this: you guys were in an isolated environment and hormones where in play, it was bound to happen. I think before you totally make him your first priority you should try it out in THE REAL WORLD, how will the distance affect your relationship? And only seeing each other after a long time? Are u ready for a long distance relationship? Do you even want one?


I guess all I’m saying is, explpre all the possibilities, don’t be your own enemy and block your opportunities, just try it out, you might even get surprised. All the best though!

THANK YOU. i think i needed to hear something like this :D


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