Confusing situation :(

[psychologywizard]

I'm currently in a bit of a confusing and upsetting predicament. I liked this guy on and off for about two years, and this year we have suddenly become a lot closer, and have even kissed and cuddled a few times. I like him a lot, and we flirted online, mostly, a lot and he has been asking to meet up this summer. I'm not sure if he wants anything serious though, or just wants to be friends with benefits. I get very nervous having these kind of conversations with people, out of fear of becoming too needy or clingy or scaring them away.

I did mention to him before we broke up for summer that I didn't want to be friends with benefits. Admittedly, he has not been messaging me as much since I told him that, however he still wants to meet up and we do talk occasionally. On that day, I also asked if what we did meant anything to him and he said yes, so I suppose that's a good sign?

I suppose I just don't know whether or not I'm wasting my time pursuing someone who doesn't want the same thing as me, and whilst I know I should talk to him about it, I haven't got the confidence to do so yet. Do you have any thoughts or advice? :lol:

[Semi_IronMan]

Honestly you just need to woman up amd tell him exactly where you’re at and how you’re feelimg. You owe it to yourself to be honest and to look out for your best interest. To me it sounds like he’s just stringing you along and perhaps doesn’t want the same thing you do. People(not all) have a tendency of using a persom when they know they loves them and would do whatever it takes to keep them or make them happy, please stand your ground. Tell him what’s up and if you’re not satisfied with his response or with how your “relationship” is progressing, stop it right there. Best of luck though!