Confession

[PinkFloyd]

Okay, I have a confession to make. When I meet someone new, the first thing I do subconsciously is look at their physical characteristics. I don't mean that in a pervy way by any means. I mean that I'll look to see if they are good looking or not and that is the first indicator as to whether or not I want the relationship (friend or girlfriend) to escalate. If you look at my group of close friends, you'll notice that they are all generally good looking. Hell, look at my girlfriend, she is the prettiest girl I can think of.

I feel absolutely terrible about myself for this and I really needed to say that... I'm sorry. Seriously. If only I could not be a judgmental prick, then maybe I'd be a better person. I don't know.

[Karkat]

I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing- actively (like, vocally) judging people because of the way they look is what's bad.

Like calling someone ugly, or fat. I think a lot of us tend to asses people based on looks, even to some extent.

[Stephane17]

It would be your opinion if you like someone on there appearnce but would be incorrectly innapropriate to hate them for it, in my opinion! :eek:

[Blood]

Well...we are visual creatures; we're naturally going to pay a lot of attention to physical characteristics. You shouldn't feel bad about that. You shouldn't let someone's looks influence your overall opinion on them though. You can judge a book by it's cover. However, it's not unusual that an attractive cover is going to attract more attention. :P

[Ethe14]

It's just who you are, besides it takes guts to admit that in itself. As long as that's not the only factor in choosing friends then I think it's fine.

[radsniper]

i do look at people but it gives me hints to their personality
i also do this to random people on the street or at the mall
human nature but be careful one time i had this guy pretend to shoot me and he stared at me for over 5 mins

[PinkFloyd]

It's just who you are, besides it takes guts to admit that in itself. As long as that's not the only factor in choosing friends then I think it's fine.

No, it's not the only characteristic. I know a good amount of girls my age that are just not nice at all. I'd never want to be with any of them.

[Stronk Serb]

I kind of do the same thing. Visually scanning them also hints me about their personality.

[backjruton]

I do this too but not as much because I don't really think about sex much or anything else. My best friend (girl) is definitely not what I would call good looking, I personally find her by looks to be quite repulsive but a good personality (easy to make friends with once you get to know her and sneak past all the innuendos of sex :whoops:) and that is also a good thing because I know in my head: she prefers girls and I prefer boys, so there's nothing likely to go on between us anyway.

The better someone looks the worse their personality seems to be is what I experienced in the past. But I don't even think that's true, these people in school thought they looked good but infact with all the makeup they looked ugly because of how they did themselves up and they had horrible personalities. This is one stereotype that doesn't really work, because the other friend (who I'm attracted to and I told him without a negative response :D) I think is HOT, and he's one of the people I find easiest to speak to, and he has a great personality. Obviously with me I have to look for someone who knows how to talk to people with social difficulties as well as accepting homosexuality so I find it harder. I don't even know if I want a relationship, I just want to spend a lot of time with these people without there being anything too sexual about it :P

My ideas of "good looking" are different to other people's anyway so I have to look for more of the odd things to most

[ScottishCanary]

I really don't think this is particularly bad to be honest. I think most people gain a first impression bad mainly on looks first. I mean, I'd like to think I would still be friends with someone not too good looking but certainly would effect relationship prospects.

[ksdnfkfr]

That being the case it is quite certain that you would immediately want to become friends with me aha.
But seriously, do not see anything wrong with that.
See it more as a matter of what your taste is, rather than you being judgmental or anything like that.

[Synyster Shadows]

Totally natural. As long you look at personality too, that's what matters

[Dwemer]

its natural. I am attracted to appearence but fall inlove with there personality.