Confidence with appearance/body

[bpk1234]

So normally I'm pretty content with myself but I went to the beach the other day and of course there were other younger guys there who had in my eyes pretty perfect looking bodies and we're extremely good looking. I literally sat in my chair all day just kinda envying them.

How do I stop doing this and just be more focused on myself?

[BlackParadePixie]

there's nothing wrong with appreciating someone else's body, or looks, or whatever. It's when you obsess over it and attempt to emulate what you think is perfection, is when it becomes unhealthy.

[ChloeF]

there's nothing wrong with appreciating someone else's body, or looks, or whatever. It's when you obsess over it and attempt to emulate what you think is perfection, is when it becomes unhealthy.

This, being envious of what you perceive as a better body is normal but letting yourself become obsessed about it isn't good.

[Jordan99]

there's nothing wrong with appreciating someone else's body, or looks, or whatever. It's when you obsess over it and attempt to emulate what you think is perfection, is when it becomes unhealthy.

This

[Silicate Wielder]

I had a different answer but I like the above ones more so I'm gonna modify mine; it's healthy to feel envy, but don't let it become something you obsess over. You can work on self-improvement using that envy as motivation but at the same time keep in mind that someone else's body shouldn't be your own standard or goal. Everyone's body is different and you can't expect to look like someone else.

[Mswimmer]

there's nothing wrong with appreciating someone else's body, or looks, or whatever. It's when you obsess over it and attempt to emulate what you think is perfection, is when it becomes unhealthy.

I totally agree with you

[jamie_n5]

I think we all appreciate and look at cute guys and girls and envy them a bit. It's natural. There is no reason not to be confident in your body or yourself. If your happy about how you look then just be confident in that.

[JuliaVT]

I can definitely appreciate the physical appearance of other girls, but that doesn't make me less confident about myself. And there's more to me (and everybody else) besides physical attributes.

[CuteGuy889]

Just forget about your body..thats my advice.....thats the secret...
Even the nicest looking teen body is going to get all soft and pudgy once they go thro college....And many of the skinny cute teens will go on to get 'dad-bods' once they get married and have kids etc.
I too had six packs and was skinny as hell...That is till I hit 15 ..then all our metabolism starts to slow and I too filled out and is now looking all soft.....
I wont care the least bit...I eat to my hearts content..and concentrate on my studies and college...I'm was happy skinny...now I'm happy getting chubby...(and being laughed at for it)...

[rioo]

I'm sure the good looking guys also working hard to get better shaped before the summer.
My advice is better if you can approaching them and making conversation . enjoy the moment with people around you is more fun.
I'm sure people will not looking down for you because they also want to enjoy the beach.

[Harrier]

That's a loaded question! I mean I think you have to ask yourself WHY you are feeling the way you're feeling. I mean maybe you are feeling the way you are bc you have body dysmorphia disorder and you need to get help for it. But it could also be 100% normal since EVERBODY has seen a body of a guy/girl and say to themselves "I would kill for that body" (or a certain part of their body). Unless you have the best body in the world (and who does? only one person can, and it's likely that person doesn't even know they do lol) somebody, somewhere will always have a better body than you. All you can do is work out, eat well, be content with what you have at the moment, and out WAY more importance on personality/character than appearance!

[INACTIVEchaosphere]

So normally I'm pretty content with myself but I went to the beach the other day and of course there were other younger guys there who had in my eyes pretty perfect looking bodies and we're extremely good looking. I literally sat in my chair all day just kinda envying them.

How do I stop doing this and just be more focused on myself?

The most important thing is to really dig into why you aren't satisfied with yourself, that's the root of the envy. Everybody looks and is built differently, that's just how genetics and maturation work. Give your body time to work itself out hormone wise and see how you feel about it then. More important than six packs and toned biceps are two things: Are you heathy in your skin and are you comfortable in your skin? That isn't to say that people with health problems shouldn't be content with themselves, it's when factors that are in your control are causing health issues. If you're as healthy as you can practically and safely be, then you have a great starting point for being comfortable with yourself. On the flip side, if you're comfortable enough with yourself so as not to become obsessive with becoming more, "fit," and, "healthy," then that's a great start for getting healthier. It all depends on the person, but within reason, people's body and build matters less than they their brains like them to believe.