Romance question (for girls)

[Xavier16]

So I'm a bit curious about something. Recently I was cheated on by a girl i was dating and broke up with her.
I'm just wondering if it was my fault..? Maybe I didn't act the right way..?
So what traits do you like in a boy? I'll list some of my traits. Is there anything I should change? Do you think it was me? I'm just a little heartbroken and need to know if I was to blame for her cheating...

Traits
I'm really sweet around a girl I like. I tend to open doors for everyone, not just a girl. I tend to write poems for a gf or crush. I always listen to problems. I'm a lil bit of a nerd and don't like sports due to a hearts condition I was born with (Its fixed but sports aren't my thing). I love cuddles and am affectionate, but blush a lot.

Do any of these qualities seem annoying? Does it seem like my fault??

[Leprous]

It wasn't your fault. She cheated on you and not the other way around. You have no reason to blame yourself here.

[Katie2003]

You seem like a perfectly nice boy to me, and those are qualities I like. Your girlfriend was the problem, she shouldn't have cheated and you did nothing wrong. Consider yourself fortunate to have learned that about her.

[Lucy G]

You seem like a perfectly nice boy to me, and those are qualities I like. Your girlfriend was the problem, she shouldn't have cheated and you did nothing wrong. Consider yourself fortunate to have learned that about her.

I agree, not that I've been in that situation, but seems to me she wanted to have her cake and eat it. Life is a huge learning process and we learn about human decency and unpleasantness every day unfortunately.

[Katie2003]

Sometimes those lessons hurt, and they can hurt a lot. But we remember things that we learned the hard way and hopefully don't do the same thing to someone else in the future. Mom is a psychologist and always tells us that whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger in the long run.

[Xavier16]

Thank you all...

[Jordan99]

So I'm a bit curious about something. Recently I was cheated on by a girl i was dating and broke up with her.
I'm just wondering if it was my fault..? Maybe I didn't act the right way..?
So what traits do you like in a boy? I'll list some of my traits. Is there anything I should change? Do you think it was me? I'm just a little heartbroken and need to know if I was to blame for her cheating...

Traits
I'm really sweet around a girl I like. I tend to open doors for everyone, not just a girl. I tend to write poems for a gf or crush. I always listen to problems. I'm a lil bit of a nerd and don't like sports due to a hearts condition I was born with (Its fixed but sports aren't my thing). I love cuddles and am affectionate, but blush a lot.

Do any of these qualities seem annoying? Does it seem like my fault??


She cheated on you. Don't blame yourself. She doesn't deserve you. Good riddance!!!

[INACTIVEchaosphere]

Nah, people, male or female, who cheat do it for themselves. It's often something that gives them pleasure in and of itself. It usually has nothing to do with the person being cheated on.

[pumpkineater34]

you seem adorable. the girl just was selfish and needs to mature

[centreoftheuniverse]

honey, it's completely not your fault. SHE cheated on you, not the other way around.

as for your traits: you sound really sweet and cute. not my type, but i can tell you there are plenty of girls i know who would kill for a boy like you.

the only thing i would say is this: don't be shy. i used to be really shy and awkward around boys, but one day i kind of just said "fuck it"- and started being more outgoing with them. and believe me, it was just fine.

[Croconaw]

It is not your fault that she cheated on you. I am glad that you didn’t let it continue and you left the relationship where it is. Good job on being strong enough to break up with her. It is not worth it to stay with her and let yourself be unhappy. You will find someone better, I promise. She was definitely not worth your time. You sound like a really sweet guy and any girl would be lucky to have you. Some girls are just shallow and rude. Don’t let one girl make you feel like you are worthless. You aren’t. You are still young, and you will find someone that is worth your time and that person will make you realize why it didn’t work out with the others.

[elizamay]

Hey, I'm very late but you sound so sweet! If she cheated on you that says more about her than you, it definitely wasn't your fault. Don't worry too much