I'm gay but perhaps not...

[samuel15]

I've pretty much always been gay and I've accepted that as a fact. However, I've been starting to fantasies and dream about one of my female best friend. I think I have a Crush on her. The Probably is that I've Told her I was gay when she confessed her feelings for Me... Now I just don't know what to do, I really want to Get together with her.

What should I do?

[cinderfella]

On a side note I thought you went to sleep you should have asked this on chat!!!!

Don't think there is a problem. Unless your friend can't think of you as beyond being gay coz after coming out of the closet that I felt my close "girl" friends just couldn't see beyond the gay. If thats the case just tell her your feelings man

[mick01]

I thought I was gay too until I met a girl who I really liked. We had a great relationship including a sexual one. So I knew I wasn't gay. So that's why everyone always says don't put a label on yourself if you really don't have to or are unsure. And I would just be honest with her and see if she was interested in dating you.

[ska8er]

Tell her how u feel about her
as c how she accepts it.

[Drewboyy]

You should just tell her and hope she hasn't changed her mind. This is why I feel people going through puberty shouldn't label themselves just yet

[samuel15]

just tell her your feelings man

Yeah I know this is the right thing to do but I'm to shy, I have no idea if she still likes me.
I think I will try to find out before telling her.

[cinderfella]

Yeah I know this is the right thing to do but I'm to shy, I have no idea if she still likes me.
I think I will try to find out before telling her.

Would help if you told us how she and your friends know you are gay. You kinda said in the other thread that people should just know and you don't have to announce it. Might help us give better advice.

[samuel15]

Would help if you told us how she and your friends know you are gay.

I've told a few people, she include that I'm gay.

[cinderfella]

I've told a few people, she include that I'm gay.

If this is the case I really don't think she will mind if you guys are really close. As an out gay man though I don't know how exactly you should tell her with her 100% accepting but as out gay people shouldn't we be truthful coz its how we felt good about ourselves in the first place? I don't know just thinking out loud.

[HeyYo]

Just tell her how you feel. You might be bi, but lean more towards guys?

[Max the Disenchanter]

i'm sure she still wants you lol

[samuel15]

Just tell her how you feel. You might be bi, but lean more towards guys?

Yeah I think so too.

[RobbieNJ]

I think at a young age like ours it's okay to explore.

[Croconaw]

Do you have any updates? Did you end up telling her?

[abcdeqwe]

I've pretty much always been gay and I've accepted that as a fact. However, I've been starting to fantasies and dream about one of my female best friend. I think I have a Crush on her. The Probably is that I've Told her I was gay when she confessed her feelings for Me... Now I just don't know what to do, I really want to Get together with her.

What should I do?

Can I ask you a question? Why didn’t you realize this when she first expressed her feelings? What was different then compared to now?

[samuel15]

Do you have any updates? Did you end up telling her?

No, I value our friendship too much, I don't want her to become a ex or anything if things don't end well. Perhaps I will tell her in the future if I feel the same.

[samuel15]

Can I ask you a question? Why didn’t you realize this when she first expressed her feelings? What was different then compared to now?

Because I wasn't into girls at all, but lately I've kinda change a bit and now I'm just confused tbh. I was also in a status relationship with someone else.

[abcdeqwe]

I think it’s too much to risk, if you go for it would be very complicated to explain to her and you two risk breaking up in the future. Personally, I think dating a friend is never a good idea. Also, have their been any other girls you’ve felt this way with? And, do u still have feelings for guys.

[samuel15]

I think it’s too much to risk, if you go for it would be very complicated to explain to her and you two risk breaking up in the future. Personally, I think dating a friend is never a good idea. Also, have their been any other girls you’ve felt this way with? And, do u still have feelings for guys.

Yes I still have feelings for guys but I'm not sure if I have for other women.

[Shamal]

Only way you'll be able to know for sure if you like girls or not is to go for it with a girl - if you really like her I don't see any issue in telling her you aren't sure if you're gay because of her, could even be a compliment!

[hayley2003]

Do you find her sexual attractive?

[DoodleSnap]

I definitely think that the best thing to do is to speak to her about it - I'm sure she'll understand that everyone goes through times of confusion where they make a decision that doesn't make so much sense later on.

[InternetTeen]

Tell her how you really feel. Get together and see how you feel.