Please help

[Dontworryaboutit]

Hi, so I made a post earlier explaining my situation with this girl and her boyfriend. To summarize, girl was my best friend, I told her how I felt, she felt the same, which pissed her boyfriend off, and he dumped her. She wanted me to ask her out, I didn’t realize this, so she got back with her boyfriend, and now their in love. Anyways, my question is HOW DO I MOVE ON? I need to move on. It’s killing me. I can’t stop thinking about her. I play guitar, so I’ve been trying to distract myself, and write music, but I can’t stop thinking about it. I’m getting kind of depressed, and half of my class is mad at me for ruining their relationship. No one is talking to me, and honestly, I probably deserve it. I’m just in a really bad situation, and could use some advice or some hope. It’s not that I’m unattractive or anything, it’s just that I can’t move on from this one girl, who I fell in love with, and now everything just kind of seems meaningless. I mean, what’s the point of flirting or dating if they just always end in heartbreak for the one person? Just please help. PLEASE.

[samuel15]

This is a pretty rough situation you are in, idk how to help with it.

I guess one way of moving on is to find new people!
You need new situations to occupie your mind with.
Maybe one of them could be the one

[lliam]

You have to extremely distract yourself in every way you think of ...

... or talk to her and her boyfriend, make it clear that you understand how stupid that was how you've acted and all this stuff. That would be the adult way solve your prob, but it depends of those both lovebirds are mature enough and, at keast, are willing to talk about it and such.


in both cases only time can tell when you are really ready to move on.

I would recommand the first way. Doing a lot of sport may help. Also hang a lot with friends etc etc

[ska8er]

I could c y the boyfriend was pissed.
U knew she had this boyfriend so y
did u tell her how u felt bout her and
then y did she tell u she felt the same
way bout u. The two of u r at fault in
this relationship. I would still keep her
as a friend-a Distant friend for now and
let them B in love. Don't mess in. Time
will tell if she leaves him or he leaves her
but do u really want to get into a relation
ship with her then? Find someone else who
is not a player.

[cinderfella]

I think you should really try to to move on from this relationship. Its not right to be in the picture how unhealthy it seems to everyone involved. it is not right or fair to keep introducing yourself while two people are still genuinely into each other.

As for the other people mad at you I guess you have to wait it out. You can't fight against the current of the river in this case coz they are right and on the moral high ground.

the only thing to do is to brace yourself.

[JustMyHumbleOpinion]

Its all about time and keeping yourself away from them- eventually you will get over it and they will seem like nothing to you, and you will be interested in someone else.

Distraction is also your best friend- use your pain for good uses, music is a really good one!
Use that pain and anger in your music, it can help you get it off your chest.

Like others have said meeting new people is also a good way to speed things up,
you might meet new friends by doing this and maybe even someone you like romantically.

Heartbreak might feel overbearing now but give it a month or so and your feelings will eventually cool down.

[Dontworryaboutit]

Don’t call her a player, it was just a bad situation. I’m not exactly happy with her, but we did it because we had something there and we couldn’t ignore that. Yeah it was a dick move, but her boyfriend repeatedly harassed my friends, and other girls, so if anything he’s just as bad.