I had sex with a friend who's girl despite my best friend telling me not to

[PinkFloyd]

So last Wednesday night at like 6 PM, (Thursday is my day off, don't judge) I went to my friend's house that belongs to my friend Lexy and we both drank a sixpack of Stella and we both had a few shots by the time 9 PM rolled around. By this point, Lexy and I were sufficiently drunk. Her and I have a tiny bit of a flirty friendship and a running joke of ours is that she could beat me in a wrestling match, so I always get in her face and try and intimidate her when I'm drunk. Welllll, this time when I did this, she initiated a kiss and we started making out instantly. It was like a movie. Then we went downstairs and did the thing. That was my first time having sex since November 10th of 2017, and before that I hadn't done it since February 14th of 2017, so this me fucking my female friend thing is a big deal for me.

My issue is with my other friend, Amanda. She's been my best friend for 4-5 years now, and she alwasy knew that I had gone without sex for quite some time. I always said "I'm gonna fuck Lexy. It's gotta happen." because I've wanted to bang her since I met her. Amanda told me "If you somehow fuck Lexy, I won't speak to you for a month."

See, that's an issue because I want to tell my best friend of this achievement, but I know she would just get pissed. I asked her why she feels so strong, and she said that she would just hate to see me fuck someone who "doesn't deserve me." She thinks I can do better than Lexy, but the truth is that I just did what I wanted. She should respect my wishes. This is one ofthe only things Amanda's sad or done that pissed me off.

[ska8er]

U tell Amanda of ur achievement and
she will achieve cutting off ur junk.

[mick01]

I wouldn't tell her that you had sex. You aren't obligated to tell friends everything. Just keep it to yourself and have sex with whomever you choose.

[Just JT]

I’d keep my mouth shut and see where this all goes before yiunsay anything
You risk losing 2 good friends if you say anything

[nathanlee]

It is your private life, so keep it private, why to tell a 3rd person?

[nathanlee]

I wouldn't tell her that you had sex. You aren't obligated to tell friends everything. Just keep it to yourself and have sex with whomever you choose.

good advice, consider it!

[BlackParadePixie]

I don't see any reason to tell her... if you did it would almost seem like you're purposely trying to hurt her.

[Jordan99]

Why do you feel it necessary to flaunt your experience especially when you know it will cause drama? Was this some sort of conquest you feel you need to brag about? My advice to you is to grow up, act more maturely and refrain from this desire you have to beat your chest and brag. You insist she must "respect your wishes" and yet now that you've gotten your way with Lexy, you feel the need to put it in Amanda's face despite her wishes. Kinda' hypocritical don't you think?

[Zachary G]

I wouldn't tell her that you had sex. You aren't obligated to tell friends everything. Just keep it to yourself and have sex with whomever you choose.

exactly! you dont need to tell her what youve done, youre not obligated to. youre allowed to have some secrets.

[Harrier]

A lot of middle school drama if you asked me. You don't have to tell your friend anything. And if she asks and you don't want to lie then you can tell her. She can follow through with her stupid one-month punishment or not punish you or punish you for longer than a month. That's HER decision. Life is full of decisions mate. But really people should mind their own business.

[Ethan19]

If you wanna do it, do it. My friends and I make jokes like Amanda did all the time to each other. Sure, we'll be a little pissed but not properly.

[JoeyKangaroo]

You don't have to tell her anything but if you do she should respect it. If it isn't her dog, don't walk it.

[Uniquemind]

People (especially guys) need to learn a page from the subtly and discretion playbook. If it's not a need to know, then it doesn't need to be stated verbally until "need to know" comes up. Treat it like it's classified.


You should however be more concerned if drunken sex you had will lead to pregnancy or STI's for either of you though. Either one of those will increase the "need to know" variable here if say it causes a medical situation which would take either you or Lexy out of existence or add in a new existence to the social network you share with this Amanda person.