TheRedViper
March 12th, 2014, 10:21 AM
So I'm 17 and yet my mother is still really over-protective of me and is always demanding to know what I've been up to, and wanting to know things about my friends, and then passing judgement on them. The worst time was a while ago she was on Facebook on her iPad and (this is before I wisely unfriended her) she somehow saw something one of my friends uploaded, which was a photo of her in a bikini, showing like, a lot of cleavage and being very suggestive. This girl is normally like that though, and posts way more graphic stuff on her Instagram, like photos of her naked ass and such. So my mum sees this bikini photo and comes up to me and shows me and demands to know why I'm friend's with "one of those kind of girls." I immediately knew she meant "why are you friends with a slut." This girl happened to be one of my closest friends though, and there is much more to her than her sexual nature, so I got very defensive and said that it was none of my mum's business what my friends do and who I am friends with. She got all passive aggressive and moody after that. What annoys me is how she acts like this about a simple photo my friend uploaded, yet then she's all nice and polite when she sees her in person, which is rarely, only when this girl comes over to my house. It annoys me just how two-faced my mum can be. She's also always questioning me about her at random times, stuff like: "so have you talked to x recently?" "Does she have a boyfriend?" Stuff like that. She simply can't let me be. She also questions me intensely whenever I go to the shops with this girl for a couple of hours after school on Fridays, and actually calls me while I'm out and orders me to be home at a strict time. It's so overbearing.
The second point to my argument was how judgemental she is in general, not just about my friends, though the girl I mentioned above is involved in this. My mum is firmly against all drugs, and makes her opinion very known. While I don't use drugs myself, my friend (the girl I mentioned above) does, and she is still a very nice and normal person. She offered me drugs once, and I accepted, but she remembered she ran out, so that didn't go anywhere. I have also smoked several times with this girl. Her cigarettes, not mine. She'd been smoking since 13, and offers me one any time we see each other outside of school. I always take one and we just smoke together, all casual-like, nothing wrong with it. But I always get so incredibly paranoid that my mum will find out, by like smelling the smoke on my clothes or randomly driving past us and seeing us (it's almost happened). I know if she found out I did that (even though it's only occasionally) she would absolutely lose it and go crazy, since to her there is no difference to only occasionally having a cigarette and being a heavy smoker. She'd also probably "ban" me from seeing this girl, which while I would refuse to, would still annoy me that she has the nerve to say that. I'm 17 ffs, I'm nearly a legal adult, I believe I can make choices on my own, and deal with the consequences.
That brings me to my final point, back to the drugs thing. As I said, my mum is heavily opposed to drugs and hates and is disgusted by those that take them. I reasonably point out that some drugs are not even as harmful as alcohol and cigarettes, and that just because someone takes drugs doesn't make them a bad person. She interprets these statements as me saying I'm a drug user myself. That's right, she actually believes I have at least tried drugs, since I'm apparently so "for drugs." She has "forbidden" me from ever using drugs in my life, and I actually laughed and said that assuming I ever decided to, that would be my own decision, since it's my own life. She refused to listen to this reasoning and says she is "worried" about me, but really she is just being overbearing and constantly intruding on my own social life.
Well yeah, I think that sums it up. I love my mum, of course, and besides this she is a great parent, but it's just this one thing that pisses me off so much, just her general attitude towards it.
The second point to my argument was how judgemental she is in general, not just about my friends, though the girl I mentioned above is involved in this. My mum is firmly against all drugs, and makes her opinion very known. While I don't use drugs myself, my friend (the girl I mentioned above) does, and she is still a very nice and normal person. She offered me drugs once, and I accepted, but she remembered she ran out, so that didn't go anywhere. I have also smoked several times with this girl. Her cigarettes, not mine. She'd been smoking since 13, and offers me one any time we see each other outside of school. I always take one and we just smoke together, all casual-like, nothing wrong with it. But I always get so incredibly paranoid that my mum will find out, by like smelling the smoke on my clothes or randomly driving past us and seeing us (it's almost happened). I know if she found out I did that (even though it's only occasionally) she would absolutely lose it and go crazy, since to her there is no difference to only occasionally having a cigarette and being a heavy smoker. She'd also probably "ban" me from seeing this girl, which while I would refuse to, would still annoy me that she has the nerve to say that. I'm 17 ffs, I'm nearly a legal adult, I believe I can make choices on my own, and deal with the consequences.
That brings me to my final point, back to the drugs thing. As I said, my mum is heavily opposed to drugs and hates and is disgusted by those that take them. I reasonably point out that some drugs are not even as harmful as alcohol and cigarettes, and that just because someone takes drugs doesn't make them a bad person. She interprets these statements as me saying I'm a drug user myself. That's right, she actually believes I have at least tried drugs, since I'm apparently so "for drugs." She has "forbidden" me from ever using drugs in my life, and I actually laughed and said that assuming I ever decided to, that would be my own decision, since it's my own life. She refused to listen to this reasoning and says she is "worried" about me, but really she is just being overbearing and constantly intruding on my own social life.
Well yeah, I think that sums it up. I love my mum, of course, and besides this she is a great parent, but it's just this one thing that pisses me off so much, just her general attitude towards it.